Hi everyone! Fern and I are back with a third video on rumination. In the third episode on rumination, Ali-John shares the tragic loss of a colleague, which leads to a discussion on the importance of mourning rituals for both the dead and the living to process loss. Ali-John identifies a self-appeasing, therapeutic tool to counter rumination. In addition, the two hosts explore the value of reframing experience to combat low self esteem that may come from estrangement loss, and the necessity of strong boundaries when attempting to improve or reconcile a relationship with a difficult or estranged sibling.

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For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement and building the next chapter in your life, through new empowering resources. What's more, viewers can have their questions answered as well as learn new philosophical insights Ali-John has into the evolution of sibling estrangement.

To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

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You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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Hi everyone! In this exciting new video, the second of three parts, Fern and I continue our discussion on rumination. Here, we touch upon how society's perception of the ideal family -- often portrayed on social media -- can exacerbate self-questioning and rumination. We delve deeper into strategies to counter rumination, such as the Third Eye/Documentary mode, specific innovative techniques and body-based strategies, and some helpful apps that curb intrusive thoughts and feelings -- all important tools for emotional regulation. What’s more, we explore a broader definition of “family” where we might find a stronger sense of belonging. We hope you’ll join us for this important talk!

+To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

+Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapy

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For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement and building the next chapter in your life, through new empowering resources. What's more, viewers can have their questions answered as well as learn new philosophical insights Ali-John has into the evolution of sibling estrangement.

To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

Or visit her Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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Fern and I are back with an exciting, much-needed video on rumination and sibling estrangement! Many viewers have asked us to address this issue; they feel they are held hostage to these repeating thoughts. In this video, we examine the workings of the brain that ruminates, and we explore mind and body strategies to break the cycle of these nagging, negative thoughts. What’s more, we discuss the importance of developing a plan for self-care to reduce rumination and move forward! We hope you’ll join us for our first discussion of this important, timely topic that plagues not only those who suffer with sibling estrangement, but many others who have anxiety or depression. We will continue our discussion of rumination in the next few video casts.

+To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

+Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapy

Join my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/

For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement and building the next chapter in your life, through new empowering resources. What's more, viewers can have their questions answered as well as learn new philosophical insights Ali-John has into the evolution of sibling estrangement.

To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

Or visit her Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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In this next exciting video, we discuss the devastating effects of sibling estrangement on the body and the psyche. What's more, we share personal stories about cutoffs with our own siblings. We further discuss the effects of deprivation of nurturance and lack of empathy in childhood and how those forces play out in relationships later in life. We conclude our talk by offering suggestions to the estranged about how to foster a sense of belonging to offset loneliness and alienation. We hope you'll forgive us for postponing our discussion on reconciliation and rebuilding an identity until a later time.

+To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

+Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapy

Join my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/

For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement and building the next chapter in your life, through new empowering resources. What's more, viewers can have their questions answered as well as learn new philosophical insights Ali-John has into the evolution of sibling estrangement.

To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

Or visit her Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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In this exciting new video, Fern and I talk about how self-esteem is affected and Sibling Estrangement is enabled by growing up in a family of origin where a lack of proper communication tools can spark the feeling of being "not good enough". Furthermore, we explore how emotional deprivation can contribute to post-traumatic stress symptoms, and may necessitate psychotherapeutic treatment. The dangers of cycling through isolation and rumination are also explored, and the metaphor of the fish is shared with regards to having false beliefs about ourselves. We end with artificial nostalgia with regards to family relations amidst the Covid-19 Pandemic.

+To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

+Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapy

Join my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/

For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement and building the next chapter in your life, through new empowering resources. What's more, viewers can have their questions answered as well as learn new philosophical insights Ali-John has into the evolution of sibling estrangement.

To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

Or visit her Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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In this third video on Sibling Estrangement, Fern and I discuss aspects related to Estrangement and concepts connected to dehumanization and communication breakdowns. We talk about the inability to resolve conflicts as a risk factor that can start within families, and pour into our societal interactions with others, and ultimately spark movements such as Black Lives Matter. We briefly explore the Four Horsemen Model, as well as the Dignity Model in response to this, all while sharing personal experiences associated to Estrangement.

+To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

+Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapy

Join my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/

For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement and building the next chapter in your life, through new empowering resources. What's more, viewers can have their questions answered as well as learn new philosophical insights Ali-John has into the evolution of sibling estrangement.

To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

Or visit her Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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In this second video on Sibling Estrangement, Fern and I discuss aspects related to Estrangement amidst the Coronavirus pandemic and elaborate further on aspects relating to Superficial/Limited conversations one can have, mourning the living, the benefit of rituals, and a personal experience I share with what helped me to move forward in my own situation.

+To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

+Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapy

Join my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/

For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement and building the next chapter in your life, through new empowering resources. What's more, viewers can have their questions answered as well as learn new philosophical insights Ali-John has into the evolution of sibling estrangement.

To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

Or visit her Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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Join us as I have an in-depth conversation with award-winning Chicagoland area Author Fern Schumer Chapman!! In this first of a series of talks on Sibling Estrangement, we get into the topics of emotional avoidance, ghosting, shared living experiences, the need for a beginning, middle and an end in the narration we give to our sibling relationship, and the effects of alcoholism on a relationship. Sibling Estrangement is a subject that both of us hold dear to our hearts, and we hope that you can enjoy this video just as much as we did in making it! See you there!

+To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

+Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapy

Join my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/

For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement and building the next chapter in your life, through new empowering resources. What's more, viewers can have their questions answered as well as learn new philosophical insights Ali-John has into the evolution of sibling estrangement.

To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

Or visit her Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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