Building Legacy Marriages

Okay, so you broke your spouse's trust, or if you aren't married, your partner's. They are struggling, and angry and your relationship has descended into chaos. What do you do? You need a plan, a process. That's what you get out of this season. How do we rebuild trust? We already talked about what trust is. You should know what it is at this point. Now you need to take the next step. That step is owning your choices. Listen today to really dive deep into how to do that and continue your journey of rebuilding trust in your relationship.

It's been a while since I have created a new podcast. I want you to know that I am still here, but been a little busy. Listen to get the scoop on what has been happening, why I have not created a new episode, and what's the plan for where we are heading.

How do you know how to do something if you don't know what it is you are working on? I want you to have a foundation. Trust is pivotal in our world. You need to know what it is if you are going to build trust. In this episode, we will go over what trust is and what it looks like. I want you to think about examples of trust. Have you ever thought about what trust really is? Develop an understanding of the reality of trust and you will better be able to build trust. Let's get you that information and foundation so you can grow in that area.

Are you struggling with trust? Most people do in some are of their life. If that's you, I want to help you understand it and create your own process for growing to be trustworthy or to trust others again. This season is intended to help you build a foundation of information around the concept of trust so you can take the steps to be trusted or to trust again. Your marriage or relationship deserves for you to grow, but growth starts with understanding and knowing the truth about trust and how to build trust. Let's get you started in building that foundation today!

You have now worked through a process of understanding your dishonesty and now it is time to create a plan to change and grow. This episode encourages you, motivates you, and helps you start to break down what a plan would consist of. A plan is your best option for moving forward. It keeps you focused and ready to change. I discuss a little bit about forgiveness, shame, mental health concerns, depression, trauma, seeking help, accountability, and counseling. I hope you have enjoyed this season! Be ready for another exciting season coming up!

In this episode, we explore commitment. Knowing what you are committed to or how your commitments affect you can help you stop dishonesty. Did you know that? What is commitment about? How does it help you? We will explore all this, some examples, and you will get a challenge. Come listen and continue this process with me!

Now that you have worked on knowing yourself better, it is time to learn more about what you really desire. Knowing your desires with help you understand better why you are being dishonest. It will also help you choose healthier behaviors that will be more beneficial. In this episode, you will get examples and information to help you uncover your desires, plus 2 exercises that can help you develop your understanding of your desires and what your dishonesty is really about. 

Learning who you are is pivotal to being able to make choices and decisions that benefit you. As you work through the process of changing to stop dishonesty in your marriage and relationships, knowing who you are can help you understand more of your strengths, likes, dislikes, cares, fears, concerns, and beliefs. All of this can help you make better choices, instead of reacting or grasping for things. Most lies are built off of unhealthy choices. Let's know ourselves so we can own our decisions and not have to lie. 

Knowing your "Why" is important in so many areas of life. You can't get where you are going if you don't have reasons or motivation to get there. You can also get off on the wrong track if you don't understand your reasons well. I encourage you in this episode to find out your "why." Ask yourself the questions that I provide and step by step discover what happened and why you are being dishonest. This will help you explain to your spouse what happened as you choose to be open and honest about what is true and what is not. Check out my workbook so you have a step-by-step guide to do this. 

Workbooks: https://brandoncoussenslmft.com/resources/helpful-workbooks/

Following up our last episode, we want to understand what remorse and repentance is. I discuss how this is a must in your relationships, especially as it deals with dishonesty in marriage. I break down how our heart and brokenness can help lead into this. I also give examples to help you create a plan of how to repent.