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Do you find yourself living in a marriage full of unspoken tension? You’re polite and all, but there’s no honest sharing or compassion? In this final program of the series, Chip shares a tool that walks you step-by-step, through a communication process that’ll free you from the past, free you from the guilt, and free you from the history that’s holding your relationship hostage.

Three major reasons we have shame:

1. A theological reason – we ALL have shame.
2. Shame from things DONE to us.
3. Shame of things that we DO.

Three natural responses:

1. To HIDE.
2. To NUMB the pain.
3. To COMPENSATE.

John 21:1-19

Principles:

1. Jesus MEETS us where we are.
2. Jesus gently DEMANDS that we face the truth about ourselves.
3. Jesus AFFIRMS our value and our worthiness by commissioning us to service.

Practical implications:

1. You can’t forgive your mate until you have RECEIVED both forgiveness and restoration. -Ephesians 4:32
2. EXPERIENCE God’s forgiveness and restoration.
3. Freely GIVE what you have received.

Tools for transformation:

D – DEFINE the issue clearly.

E – ENTER the pain and hurt.

F – Ask for FORGIVENESS.

U – UNDERSTAND the process.

• Phase 1: Forgive
• Phase 2: Forgiving
• Phase 3: Forgiven

S – SET things right between you.

• Own your responsibility
• Confess: “I was wrong.”
• Ask: “Will you forgive me?”
• Answer: “Yes, I forgive you.”

E – ESTABLISH a specific game plan to move forward.

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Does your past haunt you? Do you find it hard to forgive your spouse because, if the truth were known, you can’t forgive yourself? Do you let him or her come only so close and then they hit the wall you’ve put up? Chip wants you to know there’s a way to take a brick off that wall - and then another - and another. He wants you to know Jesus offers a solution to the guilt that’s robbing you of a healthy marriage. You don’t want to miss this one.

Three major reasons we have shame:

1. A theological reason – we ALL have shame.
2. Shame from things DONE to us.
3. Shame of things that we DO.

Three natural responses:

1. To HIDE.
2. To NUMB the pain.
3. To COMPENSATE.

John 21:1-19

Principles:

1. Jesus MEETS us where we are.
2. Jesus gently DEMANDS that we face the truth about ourselves.
3. Jesus AFFIRMS our value and our worthiness by commissioning us to service.

Practical implications:

1. You can’t forgive your mate until you have RECEIVED both forgiveness and restoration. -Ephesians 4:32
2. EXPERIENCE God’s forgiveness and restoration.
3. Freely GIVE what you have received.

Tools for transformation:

D – DEFINE the issue clearly.

E – ENTER the pain and hurt.

F – Ask for FORGIVENESS.

U – UNDERSTAND the process.

• Phase 1: Forgive
• Phase 2: Forgiving
• Phase 3: Forgiven

S – SET things right between you.

• Own your responsibility
• Confess: “I was wrong.”
• Ask: “Will you forgive me?”
• Answer: “Yes, I forgive you.”

E – ESTABLISH a specific game plan to move forward.

Broadcast Resource

• Download MP3
• Message Notes

Additional Resource Mentions

• I Choose Love Book

Connect

• 888-333-6003
• Website
• Chip Ingram App
• Instagram
• Facebook
• Twitter

Partner With Us

• Donate Online
• 888-333-6003

Of all the things Chip’s ever taught about marriage, the tool he shares in this program is priceless. Actually, he’ll tell you he paid good money for it, when he and Theresa had very little! But it’s a communication technique that’s brought them through the ups and downs of all the years and been what helped them endure even the hardest days.

Introduction:

• Biblical practice #1: Serve your mate -John 13
• Biblical practice #2: Plan together -John 14
• Biblical practice #3: Connect with each other -John 15

How do we stay connected?

1. Jesus is the true vine and we are the branches. He is the source of life.
2. Fruitfulness – an extraordinary life with extraordinary impact.
3. Love results in heartfelt obedience.
4. The result of abiding is intimacy and it results in supernatural joy.

Principles:

1. You can’t impart what you do not possess. You must ABIDE in Him to have His love to give to your mate.
2. Connection is built on COMMUNICATION – quality and quantity of time spent with one another.
3. JOY is the fruit or the overflow of connection with Christ and with one another. It will SUSTAIN you.

Practical implications:

1. Your personal walk with God is critical to a great marriage.
2. The key to a joyful marriage is communication skill and practice.
3. The connection is of the mind, the body, the emotions, and the spirit.

Tools for transformation:

• “The conference”
• Pray and ask God to speak to him/her -Proverbs 21:1
• The CARE list – “I feel most loved when you…”

Broadcast Resource

• Download MP3
• Message Notes

Additional Resource Mentions

• I Choose Love Book

Connect

• 888-333-6003
• Website
• Chip Ingram App
• Instagram
• Facebook
• Twitter

Partner With Us

• Donate Online
• 888-333-6003

What sustains a marriage? What brings energy and health? Life and joy? Maybe those words are in your distant past and your marriage hasn’t known them for years. Maybe your marriage is strong and you’d really like to keep it that way. In this program, Chip explains that “connection” is the key. How do you get - or stay - connected in a way that’ll last? Don’t miss this one.

Introduction:

• Biblical practice #1: Serve your mate -John 13
• Biblical practice #2: Plan together -John 14
• Biblical practice #3: Connect with each other -John 15

How do we stay connected?

1. Jesus is the true vine and we are the branches. He is the source of life.
2. Fruitfulness – an extraordinary life with extraordinary impact.
3. Love results in heartfelt obedience.
4. The result of abiding is intimacy and it results in supernatural joy.

Principles:

1. You can’t impart what you do not possess. You must ABIDE in Him to have His love to give to your mate.
2. Connection is built on COMMUNICATION – quality and quantity of time spent with one another.
3. JOY is the fruit or the overflow of connection with Christ and with one another. It will SUSTAIN you.

Practical implications:

1. Your personal walk with God is critical to a great marriage.
2. The key to a joyful marriage is communication skill and practice.
3. The connection is of the mind, the body, the emotions, and the spirit.

Tools for transformation:

• “The conference”
• Pray and ask God to speak to him/her -Proverbs 21:1
• The CARE list – “I feel most loved when you…”

Broadcast Resource

• Download MP3
• Message Notes

Additional Resource Mentions

• I Choose Love Book

Connect

• 888-333-6003
• Website
• Chip Ingram App
• Instagram
• Facebook
• Twitter

Partner With Us

• Donate Online
• 888-333-6003