Key Talking Points of this Episode:

[21:00] Starting your self-forgiveness journey

[25:00] Moving in a positive direction

[35:57] Benefits of self-forgiveness

[46:54] Segment for my church friends

[51:10] Vision Board Homework

Magical Quotes from the Episode:

“Your lies are hurting me”

“Show yourself compassion”

“I forgive myself for not marrying Idris Elba”

“You can say sorry to yourself”

Website Mentioned:

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/self-esteem/what-is-self-forgiveness-and-why-is-it-important-to-your-mental-health/

https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/a26028888/how-to-forgive-yourself/

https://pedestalproject.com/2021/04/18/a-black-womans-journey-to-self-forgiveness/

https://www.good-thinking.uk/blog/4-rs-self-forgiveness

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-path-passionate-happiness/202112/7-steps-self-forgiveness

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Key Talking Points of this Episode:

[06:23] There is a lesson in everything 

[13:38] Putting so much pressure on yourself 

[28:49] Being vulnerable is not easy 

[35:51] Recommit to something you have neglected

[40:01] Podcast commitment 

Magical Quotes from the Episode:

“It’s ok to walk in the left field.”

“I didn’t get the BBL”

“Learning to love who I am and not what people expect me to be.” 

“Opening myself up to love has been one of the biggest changes.”

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Here are a few tips to help you process your disappointment:

1. Let it out! You can talk about it, write about it, go out for a walk or scream it out.
2. Practice self-acceptance. Practice positive self-talk and continue to root for yourself. Your game is not over, it’s just the beginning.
3. Reflect on your desires not your goals. Rework your blueprint.
4. Look for the lessons to help you to move on.

Key Talking Points of the Episode:

[09:44] Taking time to grieve for your disappointment

[23:24] Sitting in your feelings 

[27:41] Do not let disappointment fester 

[38:05] Reworking your disappointment blueprint

[42:28] Are you happy? How can you move on from disappointment

Magical Quotes from the Episode:

“As a black woman we don’t have time to sit in our feelings”

“I can show you better than I can tell you”

“Root for yourself because you are worthy” 

“Take a moment to look for the hidden lesson”

Websites Quoted: 

https://www.betterup.com/blog/disappointment

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to-cope-with-disappointment#1

https://declutterthemind.com/blog/dealing-with-disappointment/

https://www.manhattancbt.com/archives/5070/how-to-deal-with-disappointment/

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Here are a few tips to help you prepare for your retirement:

Don’t be fooled; your 401K can accompany you anywhere. If you are open to hopping jobs, feel free to move when you find greener pastures. 401K should no longer hold you back.

Have a plan: Only allow yourself to retire if you know what you want to do going forward. Consider volunteering in your community or doing something that you are really into. You can tap into your hobby.

Create your financial freedom: Look at your expenses and see what you can cut off, then save the money or invest for retirement.

Prioritize your debt: Plan how you will clear your debt. Once you are debt free, direct the money to your retirement.

Follow your spirit: Take a chance and do something you love and are happy doing. You only have one life to live. When it’s done, it is done.

Work on your mindset: One thing for sure is one day, you will retire. Be mentally prepared for that.

Key Talking Points of the Episode:

[02:21] Why black Americans have no retirement savings

[20:38] Why do we loathe thinking about retirement?

[39:23] Your 401K can move with you

[48:06] How to plan for retirement

[56:11] The importance of having a retirement plan

[01:04:25] Get your mindset right

Magical Quotes from the Episode:

“A lot of black people, black women have to find different alternatives when it comes on now to their retirement.”

“If you don’t know, you have to educate yourself.”

“Plan your life before you sit down. And then if sitting down is something that you decide that you want to do, then sit down, and don’t do nothing else.”

“Everybody has a hobby, tap into your hobby.”

“I refuse to go out working my entire life and then feeling so unhappy and unfulfilled. Because I didn’t prepare myself financially for retirement.”

Articles Mentioned: 

HTTPS://WWW.INVESTOPEDIA.COM/RETIREMENT-SAVINGS-BY-RACE-5086962

https://www.wsj.com/articles/u-s-retirement-crisis-hits-black-americans-hard-11613989981

https://www.tiaa.org/public/institute/publication/2022/differences-retirement-preparedness-and-security-race-and-ethnicity

https://www.urban.org/sites/default/files/2023-01/Black%20Women’s%20Retirement%20Preparedness%20and%20Wealth.pdf

https://www.damemagazine.com/2021/01/18/the-retirement-crisis-for-women-of-color/

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Key Talking Points of the Episode:

[8:09] Expansion how are you expanding your mind?

[15:04]  Connection how are you connecting with the world?

[23:31] Adventure dip your toe in the sand 

[40:22] Exploration seeing another side of life

Quotes: 

“We are all creatures of habit”

“Dead Ass I love you or Dead Ass I am going to shoot you”

“Allow yourself to feel the moment” 

“Go beyond the routine”

"Words without action is hollow"

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When you see a black woman, what do you see? What do you think? Do you think it is ok to attack a black woman? Is the black woman worth protecting? Even from her own? Let's talk about it.

Key Talking Points of the Episode:

[4:05] Black men attacking black women

[5:26] Passport Bros

[31:59]: Attack on Serena Williams and Simone Biles

[32:44] The angry black women

[37:42] Racist have the power

[50:29] Ally for the black community

[58:56] Black women do not want to hear your story or be your savior

Quotes:

“You don’t need to attack someone that looks like you”

“If I fell down and cried for every time I get pushed down I would never get up and walk again”

“Keep pushing along don’t quit”

“If we were doing this to other color women this would be shut down along time ago”

Articles:

1. Black couple sues after they say home valuation rises nearly $300,000 when shown by White colleague                                                    https://www.cnn.com/2022/08/19/us/black-couple-home-appraisal-lawsuit-reaj/index.html
2. After a low appraisal, Black Seattle family 'whitewashes' home, gets higher price  https://www.businessinsider.com/seattle-black-family-whitewashes-home-get-appraisal-259k-higher-report-2022-11
3. Racism at work https://www.tiktok.com/@goodgriefneedscompany/video/7190401727449959726 

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Have you been watching the news or following the things happening in our country?

It's a state of pure sadness for black people. Being a black person in America right now is a lot of work. You are responsible for protecting yourself from the law when it should be vice-versa. 

Black mothers in America worry every time their children step out of the door. They have no idea if their children will come back to them alive. Police brutality in our country is sickening. We have seen black people get murdered by their fellow black people who hide behind the blue uniform.

Recently, we saw the murder of Tyree Nichols, and we have Jason Whitlock blaming Tyler's death on the black police female chief, and black single mothers. Jason thinks if the supervisor were male, or married Tyler would be alive today. Do you see the level of disrespect and disregard for black women?

Malcolm X once said, "The black woman is the most disrespected person in America. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman." Could we agree more? 

As black women, we need to feel protected. We need to know our children will come back home safe and alive anytime they leave. We cannot forever live in fear. We are tired of teaching our children how to live when they should be living freely. Do you have an idea of all the lessons single black moms have to offer their children in case they encounter law enforcers?

Key Talking Points of the Episode:

[05:12] Black police officers and police brutality

[08:12] Rodney King's case

[09:20] what could Rodney King have done to warrant the police to treat him the way they did?

[13:20] The heavy responsibilities bestowed on black people

[26:48] Why do we always blame women?

[37:22] Kim's struggle as a black single mom

[00:02] Challenges of being a black single mom

[20:12] When do all lives matter?

Magical Quotes from the Episode:

"We have gotten to a point inside in society where everybody has a right to something. But you know who doesn't get to say whatever we want? We the black and brown community."

"If you choose to go kill someone. It makes you a murderer."

"Until you know what it's really like to be black you have no idea what it's like to be black."

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