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We unpack how “rescue” can feel real while still pulling us into control, especially when old trauma trains us to accept relief as love. We name the patterns that keep us quiet, then choose clarity and self-worth as the first things we take back. 
• belief is not the same as safety and relief is not always freedom 
• confusing attention with love and being chosen with being valued 
• motherhood, hope, and the desire for family blinding red flags 
• gratitude turning into obligation and the feeling of owing access 
• the shift from protection to control through isolation and expectations 
• living inside the abuse cycle and normalizing dysfunction 
• financial control, loss of independence, and shrinking dreams 
• “peace that requires your silence is not peace” as a boundary test 
• a weekly practice to name patterns, count the cost, and reclaim one thing 
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I walk through chapter two of The Big Take Back and name the hidden patterns that form when trauma teaches us to survive instead of live. I share a simple three-step framework to recognize it, question it, and break it so your past can explain you without controlling you. 
• how unhealthy patterns get mislabeled as personality, love, or “normal” 
• the shift from “what happened to me” to “what did it teach me to believe” 
• examples of learned beliefs like expecting rejection, preparing for abandonment, choosing silence for safety 
• why awareness alone is not enough and how a decision creates movement 
• telling the truth about trauma as a turning point for healing and self-worth 
• releasing excuses that keep you stuck in a comfort zone 
• what I left behind in chapter two, including unconscious repetition and survival-as-living 
• three takeaways and reflective questions to identify the pattern, belief, cost, and next choice 
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I walk through Chapter One of my memoir and tell the story behind the story, including the moment I learned that silence could feel safer than speaking. I connect childhood innocence, family love, and hidden trauma to the decision that finally sets me on the path of truth, healing, and taking my life back. 
• why early childhood experiences become the foundation for identity and self-worth 
• how one safe adult can change a child’s survival story 
• the way trauma can whisper and teach silence as protection 
• why resilience can coexist with unhealed wounds 
• choosing honesty and truth telling as the first step toward healing 
• reflective questions to help you find where your silence began 
• getting professional mental health support and naming the origin of trauma 
• writing The Big Take Back to help others break cycles and build legacies 

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We talk with Kevin L. Goins about the invisible patterns that hijack our emotions and keep us living on automatic. We practice simple tools that help us recover our voice and reclaim the power of our next choice in real conversations at work and at home. 
• defining invisible patterns and how repeated reactions get triggered 
• how past pain shows up in adult leadership and relationships 
• recovering your next choice even when emotions stay active 
• recognition without judgment, journaling, and self-regulation tools 
• trained brain versus untrained brain and using curiosity to create space 
• losing your voice through silence, peacekeeping, and avoidance 
• practical language for hard moments, including “Tell me about that” 
• “See Different” questions that reveal new options and new meaning 
• stacking evidence through small wins to change identity and confidence 
• why motivation fades and why practice creates transformation 
• how to handle combative or resistant people without judging them 
whoever would like to continue this conversation can begin uh Kevin's complimentary, guided introduction. 
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We sit down with Najee Blackman of Black Sons Roofing and Restoration to talk about how a father’s discipline, community pride, and faith can shape a business that people truly trust. We get real about legacy, the pressure Black entrepreneurs face, and why doing right by people matters more than hype. 
• Ira Blackmon’s legacy of resilience, culture and community impact 
• early lessons on customer satisfaction, respect and accountability 
• faith, purpose and emotional honesty as strength, not weakness 
• top principles for young entrepreneurs, including asking for help and leading by example 
• challenges of growing a company, building a trustworthy team and earning trust across bias 
• why small business pricing reflects craftsmanship, quality and community reinvestment 
• Najee’s roofing journey, family trade history and pride in doing the job right 
• why property maintenance matters and how trained inspections can uncover insurance coverages 

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We sit down with retired Navy veteran and author Barbara Ratliff to talk about the hidden battles behind her memoir Battle Beyond the Waves and the faith that carried her through fear, trauma, and rebuilding. We unpack what healing feels like, why decisions shape destiny, and how support, forgiveness, and purpose can turn survival into a new life.
• Barbara’s “two people wearing one uniform” truth about military life and home life 
• Fear as an invisible force and the mindset shifts that break its grip 
• Freedom as letting go and fully being yourself, especially as a Black woman veteran 
• Why the book offers insight over easy solutions and why choice still matters 
• Self-advocacy, the limits of quick prescription fixes, and asking better questions 
• Patience, struggle, and what we hide behind strength and performance 
• Breast cancer, family support, and identity beyond the body 
• Healing as a feeling, forgiveness starting with self, and rest after years of surviving 
• Purpose, writing, publishing, and what “unstoppable” means in real life 
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We sit down with Dr. Cherise Turner to name what happens when educated Black women are overworked, underpaid, and pushed out, and we say the quiet parts out loud. We talk receipts, resilience, and real paths to taking back power when the system keeps moving the goalposts. 
• Dr. Turner’s story of being overworked, underpaid, and laid off after decades 
• microaggressions and the “angry Black woman” label used to silence truth 
• why degrees do not guarantee respect, fair pay, or promotion 
• why many women stay quiet, especially single parents carrying households 
• parallels between corporate workplaces and military leadership cultures 
• documenting incidents, building a paper trail, and protecting yourself 
• navigating EEOC complaints and the real-world limits people face 
• preparing young graduates for today’s job market and wage pressure 
• focusing on trades, skills, and business ownership to build leverage 
• community support, rejecting crabs-in-a-barrel thinking, and setting boundaries 
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We keep the conversation real about what happens when grief stays hidden and why “stay strong” can turn into a mask that delays healing. We talk through survivor’s guilt, rebuilding a new normal, and the mindset shifts that help us take back peace, purpose, and identity after loss. 

• grief as an emotional response to any loss 
• how unaddressed grief can show up as overspending, gambling, extreme workouts, risky behavior, or isolation 
• why society pressures us to stay strong and stop crying 
• what to say when you do not know what to say 
• healthy healing as a personal choice and a process that changes by season 
• releasing guilt by naming what is not yours to carry 
• rebuilding as creating a new life, not returning to the old one 
• taking back power through education, support, and better self-talk 
• grief beyond death, including retirement, caregiving, and identity loss 
• finding resources through support groups, doctors, and trusted people 

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Some losses hit like an explosion. Others land quietly, then keep echoing for years. We sit down with certified grief educator and suicide loss grief coach Lynn Lewis to talk about what grief really is, why it is not limited to death, and why so many veteran women, leaders, and professionals feel like they have to carry it in silence. If you have ever wondered why you “should be over it by now,” why certain seasons feel brutal, or why your body reacts like danger is near, this conversation puts real language to what you are living.

We break down grief coaching vs grief counseling and grief therapy, including what forward-focused grief coaching can look like when you feel stuck and just want to figure out how to live again. We also unpack the difference between “lost” and “loss,” and why that shift matters when your grief is tied to identity changes, divorce, illness, military transition, empty nesting, or the painful “never” moments that surface at graduations, holidays, and everyday milestones.

The heart of this conversation holds space for suicide bereavement, PTSD, survivor guilt, and the relentless “what could I have done” questions. Lynn shares a simple, unforgettable visual for grief in daily life: grief as a tennis ball in a jar, where the grief can remain real while the space for life slowly grows. We end with permission and practicality: feel what you feel, tell the truth about what hurts, and get support that matches what you are carrying.

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We connect voter registration to real-life consequences and challenge the idea that opting out is harmless, especially when local elections decide what happens to our schools, roads, and healthcare. With community leader Nicole Martin, we talk about misinformation, youth disengagement, and what it takes to rebuild civic power together. 
• misinformation and cynicism driving low turnout in the Black community 
• local voting shaping everyday outcomes like funding, services, and benefits 
• why younger voters feel disconnected from legacy civic organizations 
• meeting young people where they are through inclusive leadership and trust 
• shifting frustration into action through consistent conversations and education 
• taking back power through organizing, petitions, and community partnerships 
• environmental justice fight against harmful projects in Black and brown neighborhoods 
• refusing to sit out and bringing others into the work 

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