Business Your Way

Today is my 41st birthday, as well as the 53rd episode of this podcast. A lot has happened in this past year so I thought I would share some of those experiences and what I've learned with you...

In this episode, I give you a high-level view of my year and drill that down into specific things I'm feeling or taking away from each. I hope it helps you reflect on your year and poses some interesting questions for you to think about moving forward.

Thank you for being here, for taking this journey with me - and for bringing your special brand of magic and support to the world.

My dreams do not exist without you.

🧡 Caryn

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Do you have some things you want to accomplish this year? Do you have a plan? What if there was even more to discover? 🤔 Join me on a 30-day journey to clarity.  30 days of powerful questions from me. It's free and you would be surprised how many nuggets you can mine with just one question from me! Join us here: caryngillen.com/30q

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Your personal style is the first clue you give to the world about who you are. 

"You can't exactly opt out of sending a message with what you're wearing. So, that is often people's first experience of your business or your brand. The fun part is to control that message and put your best foot forward."

Today on the podcast, I am joined by Personal Stylist, Estelle Winsett who loves helping women find their unique power through style.

"People have in their minds that in order to look professional they have to be uncomfortable - that's not true."

In this episode, we talk about:

"Getting dressed is often the first thing we do in the morning and it can set the tone for our whole day." It's worth being intentional about.

Listen in for some great tips on how to stand in your power and curate a wardrobe that reflects who you are. (There are also some extras on clothing care at the end.)

To find out more about Estelle visit estellewinsett.com. Or, join her in her Facebook group (where she spends most of her time): bit.ly/powerhousestyle

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Do you have some things you want to accomplish this year? Do you have a plan? What if there was even more to discover? 🤔 Join me on a 30-day journey to clarity.  30 days of powerful questions from me. It's free and you would be surprised how many nuggets you can mine with just one question from me! Join us here: caryngillen.com/30q

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"Direct your money towards the things that you care about - no matter how much you have. Start where you're at, with what you've got, and practice working that muscle now." - Sarah DeLuca

Today on the podcast, I am joined by money and philanthropy coach, Sarah DeLuca. We discuss:

She reminds us to ask ourselves: "What do I need to feel sustainable and abundant?"

And, she encourages us to remember that "money is fluid. It flows like water." If it is just sitting there (not doing anything) it can get stagnant and diseased. 

Money is powerful when it moves, especially when it's helping create the kind of world you want to live in and pass on to future generations.

This episode is a great check-in with yourself to determine:

To find out more about Sarah, you can find her at www.movemoneyshiftpower.com or on Instagram (@movemoney_shiftpower).

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Do you have some things you want to accomplish this year? Do you have a plan? What if there was even more to discover? 🤔 Join me on a 30-day journey to clarity.  30 days of powerful questions from me. It's free and you would be surprised how many nuggets you can mine with just one question from me! Join us here: caryngillen.com/30q

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Finally, EPISODE TRANSCRIPTS can be found at caryngillen.com/transcripts.

I'm often asked how I make decisions in business. And, I hear a lot about past decisions clients have made that they regret. We talk about both of those things in this episode.

How can you make decisions that are pain-free AND in line with the way you naturally make them?

Let's find out!

It's a fun topic. It's a necessary topic. And, one that I hope helps anyone out there who might be struggling. Or, just provide greater insight into YOUR process.

"Decide today how you want to think about the decisions that you've made and lean into trusting yourself on the ones that are coming. Let yourself be the person who..." 

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Do you have some things you want to accomplish this year? Do you have a plan? What if there was even more to discover? 🤔 Join me on a 30-day journey to clarity.  30 days of powerful questions from me. It's free and you would be surprised how many nuggets you can mine with just one question from me! Join us here: caryngillen.com/30q

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Today, we are talking to Lindsay Poelman (coach) and Kathy Kinghorn (therapist) about the importance of being trauma-informed. If our goal is to help our clients get where they want to go and for us to "do no harm" in helping them get there, then we really need to understand trauma. We need to know what it looks like, how it can present, how to let people have their stories, how to help them work through it, and when to pull in or suggest additional support.

In this episode, we get into:

"I like to validate the hell out of their experience - as much as they need to get to the deepest, safest, most loving, acceptable and compassionate place possible. Then, let them lead themselves where they want to go."

"And, change work, healing work, business growth... they're not about speed. If you're trying to rush, you're gonna miss the good stuff. So, thank you both for slowing it down."

Lindsay and Kathy are training coaches to become trauma-informed, especially in regard to relationships. They want coaches to understand how prevalent trauma is and how much they can do to support their clients in the midst of it - because it will come up.

To find out more, please visit https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/relationship-trauma-certification-1

You can also connect with both Lindsay (@lindsaypoelmancoaching) and Kathy (@kathykinghorn) on Instagram. Or, their websites:

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Finally, EPISODE TRANSCRIPTS can be found here: caryngillen.com/transcripts.

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How do you feel about sales and selling?

I kind of love it! And, the way I think about it may be a really helpful paradigm shift for you. 

That is what we're diving into in today's episode of the podcast. 

Are you showing up and selling something that people want to the people who want it? That is how you help people.

Selling is helping, selling is leadership - if you approach it that way. And, people want good leaders. We want to know how to take advantage of the awesomeness around us. So, it’s our job to do that for our people. 

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"People pleasing is us bending ourselves into a pretzel, in order to show up in the way we think another person wants us to - so that they can avoid dealing with us as we really are AND we don’t have to deal with their discomfort."

Today's podcast guest is Life Coach and Mentor, Kelly Tadlock. After leaving a job in Silicone Valley ("There was not a dollar amount you could pay that was going to get me to stay.") and disappointing a lot of people along the way, Kelly found the thing that fills her up. She let go of the people pleasing (that is so ingrained in all of us) and became a huge proponent of self-connection and self-care (the real kind).

"Self-kindness is non-negotiable," she says, "and it's usually the worst news I can give someone. Most of us have this real fear of 'if I’m nice to myself, I won’t do anything,' because it doesn't feel as active or as productive."

But, it helps us become the person we want to be and create the life we want to live. We have the ability to continually come home to ourselves and reveal who we are – even to ourselves – on deeper and deeper levels. And, it's worth it. 

Having the courage to disappoint people, to let them be wrong about you, and to ask for help in the midst of all the messiness yields the most amazing, delicious fruit. The kind that makes you say, "This feels so good. I didn’t even know this was possible." And, who doesn't want that?

Your first act of radical self-kindness? Listening to this episode and checking in with yourself... how are you, really? And, what do you need the most right now? 

As always, I would love to hear what bubbles up for you around this! DM me on Instagram if you want to have a two-way conversation (@caryngillen).

And, to find out more about Kelly, you can find her at kellytadlock.com or on Facebook (Kelly Tadlock Coaching).

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Find out what kind of business owner you are at caryngillen.com/quiz. Your answer will let you know areas where you're killing it and the places where there's room for growth in the 3 Pillars of Business Your Way. Can't wait to hear about your results!

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Finally, EPISODE TRANSCRIPTS can be found here: caryngillen.com/transcripts.

Today, we're talking about the leadership, feelings and work required to make a big shift. We explore the different stages of competence (unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, unconscious competence/mastery). And, talk about moving through them to make bold moves.

"The only thing that keeps us from where we are today and the thing we want that's over there is the fact that to get from here to there is relatively uncomfortable. We lose that connection to our mastery." 

A few questions to explore after listening to the episode:

>> Where are you currently feeling unconscious incompetence? (Those places where you don't even know what's going on but you wish you did.)

>> Where are you in conscious competence doing something that you don't ever want to do again? Where can you drop something that you're actually pretty good at because it's not what you're here to do?

>> Where are you going to celebrate your unconscious competence or mastery? What are you good at that you don't even have to think about? (It comes naturally to you and maybe other people notice or even point it out.)

Main takeaway: big shifts and bold moves are uncomfortable. But, most of us want an outcome and a life worth feeling incompetent for little bursts of time. 

Give yourself a break. And, let's make BOLD moves!

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Find out what kind of business owner you are at caryngillen.com/quiz. Your answer will let you know areas where you're killing it and the places where there's room for growth in the 3 Pillars of Business Your Way. Can't wait to hear about your results!

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Finally, EPISODE TRANSCRIPTS can be found here: caryngillen.com/transcripts.

"It is possible to have the kind of relationship you want with your kids."

"There's always a way to be both respectful of yourself and your child."

In today's episode, I am talking to Master Parenting Coach, Pam Howard. She helps moms go from feeling frazzled and disrespected to calm and connected. 

We talk about all the things! There is something here for you - even if you aren't a parent.

Topics discussed:

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You can learn more about and connect with Pam at www.lessdramamoremama.com. On Instagram @lessdramamama

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Find out what kind of business owner you are at caryngillen.com/quiz. Your answer will let you know areas where you're killing it and the places where there's room for growth in the 3 Pillars of Business Your Way. Can't wait to hear about your results!

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Finally, EPISODE TRANSCRIPTS can be found here: caryngillen.com/transcripts.