In today’s episode of the Butterfly Season Podcast, Aisha dives deep into understanding passive-aggressive behavior and how it stems from an inability to self-soothe or advocate for oneself. She shares personal stories and insights from her own journey, emphasizing how we often engage in others' coping mechanisms instead of addressing our own.

Aisha introduces a concept she calls "scratching someone else's itch" — where we take on emotional burdens that aren’t ours to fix. She explores how we can reclaim our energy, self-advocate, and foster healthier relationships by setting boundaries and practicing self-soothing.

Resources and Links:

• Purchase the Butterfly Season Guided Transformation Journal HERE.
• Get 10% off your order with the code "PODCAST" at checkout.
• Unsure whether you're in Caterpillar, Cocoon, or Butterfly Season? Take the free quiz HERE.
• Follow Aisha on Instagram @aisha and Butterfly Season on Instagram and TikTok.
• Watch Butterfly Season Podcast episodes on YouTube.

Show Highlights:

• [03:15] Introduction to "Scratching Someone’s Itch" and how it represents engaging with others’ coping mechanisms.
• [08:45] The connection between passive aggression and an inability to self-soothe.
• [15:30] Examples of how we self-abandon in relationships by taking responsibility for others’ emotions.
• [22:10] Aisha shares personal stories of passive-aggressive behavior and how to overcome it through self-advocacy.
• [30:50] Setting boundaries and understanding what’s your responsibility vs. what isn’t.
• [35:00] How self-soothing and reclaiming your energy can build healthier, more authentic connections.

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An unfiltered stream of consciousness episode on the role grief plays in your cocoon season. How on your way to transformation, you go through all the cycles of grief before the transformation is embodied. 

These feelings are the bridge between cocoon season and butterfly season: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The undoing that is required of you before you step into the next version of you can 

• be in denial about the type of change that needs to happen, or 
• angry that you have to be the one to fix all mistakes that other people made
• trying to negotiate a quicker, less painful way to go through cocoon season
• being so depressed about all that has transpired that you’re not motivated to even do what’s required to change
• to finally, accepting that this is your reality and the only person that can save you is you

It’s after acceptance true change can occur. 

Have you ever struggled to find your true path or faced fears while trying to show up in your own unique way? Join me as I chat with Alexis Andra, founder of Shift Creative were we discuss how self-sabotage and learning to accept compliments gracefully played a role in her journey. Inspired by the insights from "The Big Leap," Alexis exemplifies the courage it takes to follow your passion. Our conversation digs into what it means to truly excel and how this is different from just using your natural talents.
 
 Alexis also shares a personal story about how a childhood burn accident steered her from counseling to the arts. We explore how deep-seated personal trauma can fuel creativity and how accepting our scars, both seen and unseen, can bring about significant healing and personal growth. Her story isn't just about being tough; it's an invitation for everyone to discover and raise their own voices.
 
 We discuss the challenges of codependency in relationships and underscore the importance of personal growth for maintaining healthy relationships.  As you listen, think about the importance of letting go of old ideas about ourselves and defining success in your own way. If this conversation speaks to you, please share it with someone who might also find encouragement or insight from our discussion.

RESOURCES AND LINKS

Purchase the Butterfly SZN Guided Transformation Journal HERE!

Because I’m so grateful for you, I want to give you a discount code for the Butterfly SZN shop. Use code BSZN at checkout for 10% off your order. https://www.butterflyszn.com

If you’re unsure whether or not you’re in a Caterpillar Season, Cocoon Season or Butterfly Season click HERE to take the FREE quiz! 

Text the word “DEVO” to 88-984-5013 to join Aisha’s bible devotional club. 

Follow Aisha at @aisha and follow Butterfly SZN on Instagram and TikTok @itsbutterflyszn 

If you want to watch these episodes, click HERE to watch them on our YouTube.  

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GUEST DEETS 

Guest name: Alexis Andra

Guest Socials
Instagram: @Alexisnandra

Guest Website: www.theshiftcreative.com

I'm honored to be joined by Jess Muamba—a dedicated mother and content creator—Janay Douglas, the  co-founder of DM Collective, and Jacqueline Renee, a seasoned wellness transformation coach. Together, we dive into proactive healing, trauma responses, and the actionable steps necessary for genuine change. We'll do this by uncovering their journey through the Butterfly SZN Guided Transformation Journal

In this  episode, you'll discover the  power of the Guided Journal as a tool for allowing emotions from past events to guide you towards the steps that will create transformation in your life. Janay opens up about navigating relationship conflicts and the pitfalls of people-pleasing, while Jaclynn discusses the balance between intentions and real outcomes, particularly around self-abandonment. Jess shares her journey through managing disappointment after her mother's passing and adjusting her expectations. These stories highlight the importance of accountability and show how false expectations can deeply impact emotional well-being.

We also tackle the complex interplay between masculine and feminine energies in personal growth and the challenge of maintaining authenticity amid overwhelming external advice. Through personal anecdotes, we explore control tendencies, coping mechanisms, and the necessity of reprogramming outdated schemas. This episode is a powerful reminder that personal growth requires active participation and the courage to reclaim one's sense of self. Tune in and embrace your own metamorphosis with us.

RESOURCES AND LINKS
Purchase the Butterfly SZN Guided Transformation Journal https://butterflyszn.com/products/butterfly-szn-guided-transformation-journal

Because I’m so grateful for you, I want to give you a discount code for the Butterfly SZN shop. Use code BSZN at checkout for 10% off your order. https://www.butterflyszn.com

If you’re unsure whether or not you’re in a Caterpillar Season, Cocoon Season or Butterfly Season take this quiz: https://butterflyszn.com/pages/quiz

Text the word “DEVO” to 88-984-5013 to join Aisha’s bible devotional club. 
Follow Aisha at @aisha and follow Butterfly SZN on Instagram and TikTok @itsbutterflyszn 

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GUEST DEETS 
Janay Douglas: https://www.instagram.com/janayldouglas/
Jaclyn Renee: https://www.instagram.com/iamjaclynrenee/
Jess Muamba: https://www.instagram.com/she.whoknocks/

"Seeking Safety: Unraveling Trauma's Grip with Reiki Master, Danielle Nicole"
 
 In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with Danielle from the Butterfly SZN journal beta group for a heartfelt discussion. We dive into the challenging search for safety—a journey many of us embark on, only to find it elusive. Together, we uncover the layers of childhood trauma that persist into adulthood, affecting our relationships, careers, and well-being.
 
 Throughout our conversation, Danielle and I share our personal battles, touching on struggles with money, feeling out of place at work, and moments of intense fear and vulnerability. Our goal is to offer a space where you not only hear our experiences but also feel the connection and support we aim to build.
 
 We discuss the crucial role of therapy and the power of supportive environments where stories are heard and valued. We talk about facing our past with bravery and living fully in the present, hoping to inspire you to craft your own powerful narrative.
 
 By comparing our healing process to baking a cake, where each experience adds a unique flavor, we emphasize that transformation requires patience and perseverance. We're grateful for the openness and insights shared today and invite you to join the ongoing conversation, sharing your own stories of healing and empowerment.

RESOURCES AND LINKS

Purchase the Butterfly SZN Guided Transformation Journal HERE!

Because I’m so grateful for you, I want to give you a discount code for the Butterfly SZN shop. Use code BSZN at checkout for 10% off your order. https://www.butterflyszn.com

If you’re unsure whether or not you’re in a Caterpillar Season, Cocoon Season or Butterfly Season click HERE to take the FREE quiz! 

Text the word “DEVO” to 88-984-5013 to join Aisha’s bible devotional club. 

Follow Aisha at @aisha and follow Butterfly SZN on Instagram and TikTok @itsbutterflyszn 

If you want to watch these episodes, click HERE to watch them on our YouTube.  

Friends!!! Discover how a simple habit like drinking water can revolutionize your well-being with our vegan, non-GMO water additive. Packed with probiotics, hyaluronic acid, vitamin C, and more, it's your secret to a healthy gut and glowing skin. 

Perfect for the busy on the go gal. No pills, just mix and sip your way to wellness. See results in 30-60 days. Visit getgloci.com and use your exclusive code for a special offer. Great skin starts from within. 

Use code AISHA MARSHALL at check out: https://getgloci

GUEST DEETS 

Guest name: Danielle Nicole

Guest Socials
Instagram: @thisisdaniellenicole

Feeling boxed in by societal expectations? Dive into our latest episode of Butterfly SZN titled "Keep That Same Energy for Your Personal Fulfillment as You Do for Career Goals with Jamil Douglas." Jamil, a former athlete turned personal growth advocate, shares how applying sports discipline helps him set boundaries and remain authentic. 

 We unpack simple yet powerful self-care routines like journaling and breath work to keep you grounded. We're also breaking down strategies to recognize life's signals and adapt to the unexpected with ease. I'll share my personal transformation from seeking others' approval to discovering my strength in self-reliance, overcoming insecurities along the way. 

This isn’t just a discussion between friends—it's an actionable guide for anyone looking for authenticity and driven purpose. You’ll love this episode because it’s all about the art of personal growth and living intentionally.

RESOURCES AND LINKS

Purchase the Butterfly SZN Guided Transformation Journal HERE!

Because I’m so grateful for you, I want to give you a discount code for the Butterfly SZN shop. Use code BSZN at checkout for 10% off your order. https://www.butterflyszn.com

If you’re unsure whether or not you’re in a Caterpillar Season, Cocoon Season or Butterfly Season click HERE to take the FREE quiz! 

Text the word “DEVO” to 88-984-5013 to join Aisha’s bible devotional club. 

Follow Aisha at @aisha and follow Butterfly SZN on Instagram and TikTok @itsbutterflyszn 

If you want to watch these episodes, click HERE to watch them on our YouTube.  

Friends!!! Discover how a simple habit like drinking water can revolutionize your well-being with our vegan, non-GMO water additive. Packed with probiotics, hyaluronic acid, vitamin C, and more, it's your secret to a healthy gut and glowing skin. 

Perfect for the busy on the go gal. No pills, just mix and sip your way to wellness. See results in 30-60 days. Visit getgloci.com and use your exclusive code for a special offer. Great skin starts from within. 

Use code AISHA MARSHALL at check out: https://getgloci.com/

Disclaimer: This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.

GUEST DEETS 

Guest name: Jamil Douglas 
Guest socials: 
Instagram: @jamil
Youtube: @fortheunderdogspodcast

Looking to break free from the endless need for approval? Don’t miss our next episode on Butterfly SZN, "Free Yourself from Constantly Seeking Approval by Exploring Self-Worth in Relationships with Sam Harper." 

This episode is an incredibly raw and vulnerable conversation with Sam as she delves into her personal journey towards finding self-worth and authenticity in some of her most intimate relationships. 

Together, we'll navigate the complex dynamics of self-worth within relationships, uncovering how to move beyond the need for external validation to discover genuine empowerment from within. Sam's inspiring story, a profound mix of vulnerability, strength, and the interplay of masculinity and femininity, will guide you towards embracing your true self. 

This episode is a deep dive into understanding self-love and confidence, and their crucial roles in your personal development journey. Sam shares transformative insights on facing fears and embracing growth, offering strategies for nurturing self-love and handling life's challenges with grace.

RESOURCES AND LINKS

Purchase the Butterfly SZN Guided Transformation Journal HERE!

Because I’m so grateful for you, I want to give you a discount code for the Butterfly SZN shop. Use code BSZN at checkout for 10% off your order. https://www.butterflyszn.com

If you’re unsure whether or not you’re in a Caterpillar Season, Cocoon Season or Butterfly Season click HERE to take the FREE quiz! 

Text the word “DEVO” to 88-984-5013 to join Aisha’s bible devotional club. 

Follow Aisha at @aisha and follow Butterfly SZN on Instagram and TikTok @itsbutterflyszn 

If you want to watch these episodes, click HERE to watch them on our YouTube.  

Friends!!! Discover how a simple habit like drinking water can revolutionize your well-being with our vegan, non-GMO water additive. Packed with probiotics, hyaluronic acid, vitamin C, and more, it's your secret to a healthy gut and glowing skin. 

Perfect for the busy on the go gal. No pills, just mix and sip your way to wellness. See results in 30-60 days. Visit getgloci.com and use your exclusive code for a special offer. Great skin starts from within. 

Use code AISHA MARSHALL at check out: https://getgloci.com/

Disclaimer: This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.

GUEST DEETS 

Guest name: Samantha Harper

Guest Socials
Instagram: @sam_e_pants

Guest Website: www.samanthaharper.com

Hey there! Ever found yourself stuck in the same emotional loop, wondering why certain patterns just won't budge? 

We're diving deep into the roots of those emotions, tracing them back to the needs they stem from. Once we acknowledge and address these needs, they have the power to really shake things up in our daily lives.

In this episode, I'm getting real about my own journey, connecting feelings of fear and insecurity to my quest for financial safety. Turns out, our coping mechanisms often hide deeper needs. It's a heartfelt exploration into what makes us tick and how acknowledging those needs can spark some serious change.

Then, we're getting personal about love, motherhood, and personal growth. I'll share my struggles and the freedom I found in loving myself. It's all about living life with purpose, rather than just going with the flow.

We'll be using the Buttery SZN Transformation Journal as our guide, breaking free from those old patterns and designing a life with intention.

And hey, let's not forget about the power of community. Share this episode with anyone who might need a little guidance on their journey of self-discovery and transformation. Together, we can light the way for each other.

RESOURCES AND LINKS

Purchase the Butterfly SZN Guided Transformation Journal HERE!

Because I’m so grateful for you, I want to give you a discount code for the Butterfly SZN shop. Use code BSZN at checkout for 10% off your order. https://www.butterflyszn.com

If you’re unsure whether or not you’re in a Caterpillar Season, Cocoon Season or Butterfly Season click HERE to take the FREE quiz! 

Text the word “DEVO” to 88-984-5013 to join Aisha’s bible devotional club. 

Follow Aisha at @aisha and follow Butterfly SZN on Instagram and TikTok @itsbutterflyszn 

If you want to watch these episodes, click HERE to watch them on our YouTube.  

Friends!!! Discover how a simple habit like drinking water can revolutionize your well-being with our vegan, non-GMO water additive. Packed with probiotics, hyaluronic acid, vitamin C, and more, it's your secret to a healthy gut and glowing skin. 

Perfect for the busy on the go gal. No pills, just mix and sip your way to wellness. See results in 30-60 days. Visit getgloci.com and use your exclusive code for a special offer. Great skin starts from within. 

Use code AISHA MARSHALL at check out: https://getgloci.com/

Disclaimer: This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.

On a journey of self-discovery? Ever wondered if there's more to your feelings than just being annoyed or frustrated? Let's delve into the depths of our emotions, going beyond simple labels to uncover what truly motivates us.

With the help of an emotions mapping wheel and expert insights, we'll trace our feelings back to their roots, pinpointing unmet needs that drive our behavior. Through personal stories and heartfelt discussions, we'll pave the way for profound changes.

This episode isn't just about understanding our emotional patterns; it's a roadmap to finding safety, belonging, and fulfillment. Discover how simple acts like budgeting can reflect our deeper emotional needs, and learn to see problems as opportunities for growth.

Join us as we shift perspectives towards positive action, emphasize the importance of consistent self-improvement, and embrace the power of emotional self-discovery. Together, let's prepare to spread our wings and embrace the beauty of change within us.

RESOURCES AND LINKS

Purchase the Butterfly SZN Guided Transformation Journal HERE!

Because I’m so grateful for you, I want to give you a discount code for the Butterfly SZN shop. Use code BSZN at checkout for 10% off your order. https://www.butterflyszn.com

If you’re unsure whether or not you’re in a Caterpillar Season, Cocoon Season or Butterfly Season click HERE to take the FREE quiz! 

Text the word “DEVO” to 88-984-5013 to join Aisha’s bible devotional club. 

Follow Aisha at @aisha and follow Butterfly SZN on Instagram and TikTok @itsbutterflyszn 

If you want to watch these episodes, click HERE

to watch them on our YouTube.  

Friends!!! Discover how a simple habit like drinking water can revolutionize your well-being with our vegan, non-GMO water additive. Packed with probiotics, hyaluronic acid, vitamin C, and more, it's your secret to a healthy gut and glowing skin. 

Perfect for the busy on the go gal. No pills, just mix and sip your way to wellness. See results in 30-60 days. Visit getgloci.com and use your exclusive code for a special offer. Great skin starts from within. 

Use code AISHA MARSHALL at check out: https://getgloci.com/

Disclaimer: This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.

We're diving into the Butterfly Season Transformation Journal together. Think about this: what if all those ups and downs with money or the heartache from relationships aren't just random bad luck? What if they're clues waiting to be figured out? 

I'm going to share some stories from my high school days, getting real about my own battles with cash and chasing success. And guess what? You might see a bit of your story in mine. 

This episode isn't just about agreeing with stories we all know; it's about discovering how to escape those tough spots and turn our challenges into something even better. 

My hope is that through this episode you accept my heartfelt invitation to begin your transformation. 

If you love this podcast, share this journey with someone who comes to mind. Together, we'll explore how thinking deeply about ourselves can change us, and how it promises to bring us closer to the people we were always meant to be. 

RESOURCES AND LINKS

Purchase the Butterfly SZN Guided Transformation Journal HERE!

Because I’m so grateful for you, I want to give you a discount code for the Butterfly SZN shop. Use code BSZN at checkout for 10% off your order. https://www.butterflyszn.com

If you’re unsure whether or not you’re in a Caterpillar Season, Cocoon Season or Butterfly Season click HERE to take the FREE quiz! 

Text the word “DEVO” to 88-984-5013 to join Aisha’s bible devotional club. 

Follow Aisha at @aisha and follow Butterfly SZN on Instagram and TikTok @itsbutterflyszn 

If you want to watch these episodes, click HERE to watch them on our YouTube.  

Friends!!! Discover how a simple habit like drinking water can revolutionize your well-being with our vegan, non-GMO water additive. Packed with probiotics, hyaluronic acid, vitamin C, and more, it's your secret to a healthy gut and glowing skin. 

Perfect for the busy on the go gal. No pills, just mix and sip your way to wellness. See results in 30-60 days. Visit getgloci.com and use your exclusive code for a special offer. Great skin starts from within. 

Use code AISHA MARSHALL at check out: https://getgloci.com/

Disclaimer: This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.