Call the Psychiatrists

Alice and her husband see the same therapist individually and as a couple. The therapist told Alice's husband they should get a divorce.

At (12:43) a 17 year-old listener feels like there are things he can't talk to his therapist about after she disclosed her religious identity.

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Larissa was nervous during her first online therapy session with Betterhelp and wants some tips on how to be prepared for the next session. She was told the first session "is where the magic begins".

An anonymous listener (16:57) has a history of stalking their therapist and has the desire to repeat those behaviors with a new therapist. They feel ashamed and want to stop.

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Danny has mixed emotions about Father's Day. He's trying to balance his needs with the demands of parenting and wants to hear more about fatherhood. He's also curious if being psychiatrists changes our views on parenting.

Michelle (34:30) is a newly minted therapist and has questions about the role of transference and countertransference in our sessions. She'd also like to know if we have advice for someone just starting out as a therapist. _______

David argues that balancing personal and parenting needs can be especially hard when--like Danny--you're trying to create a different kind of life for your child. At 08:33 we discuss the various meanings of fatherhood. We discuss our personal experiences starting at 12:49 which quickly becomes sentimental. At 17:29 we discuss parenting as psychiatrists. At 24:50 David has 2 hot tips from psychotherapy that he applies to parenting. David recommends (32:00) the work of David Lancy to get some perspective on modern parenting (http://www.anthropologyofchildhood.usu.edu).

The books we mention at the end of Act 2 for the new therapist are: The Gift of Therapy by Irvin Yalom, M.D and Deepening the Treatment by Jane Hall, LCSW

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Therese's feelings have been hurt by her therapist but she feels invalidated each time she brings it up.

Candice (15:51) feels ashamed of being in therapy and wants to be more comfortable with the idea of talking to others about it.

Lila (30:40) wonders about Oprah's advice to be your own best friend. David guesses these sentiments come out of the story of codependency. We end with some discussion of the Oprah empire and Abby's undying love

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We have 3 listener questions. In the first question Keith wants to know how therapists determine whether a session is good or bad. Then Ellen (11:35) tries to make sense of her reaction after her therapist names something in her past as abuse. Finally, Jane (17:42) was frozen at the end of her last therapy session and wonders if it's worth going back.

Feedback is at 10:52.

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In the first question a listener wonders why her therapist is talking about her in supervision. She's curious about what supervision is and how therapists make use of it.

In the second question (23:47) a listener is concerned that she feels jealous about the client her therapist is seeing before her. Abby expresses outrage on the listener's behalf and we offer lots of speculation. (The listener asked to remain anonymous. We call her Ann but it's not clear in the recording that we made up the name).

In the final question (38:12) a listener worries about being left behind because her therapist is losing weight and she isn't.

Feedback is at (22:13): something positive plus a well-crafted burn.

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In the first question a listener feels slighted by her therapist's cancellation policy. We start by discussing these policies more generally. It's a little dry but the discussion gets better by 12:25 when we talk about our listener's specific situation.

In the second question (17:50), someone's therapist has suggested increasing the frequency of their sessions and beginning psychoanalysis. He wants to know what the benefits of this might be and how psychoanalysis differs from other forms of psychotherapy.

In the final question (30:12), a psychiatrist asks how we deal with the financial implications of a patient increasing the frequency of their sessions. Discussions about money are weird and this one is no exception.

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In the first question, a listener gets really nervous around her therapist and wonders if it's even worth it.

Our second question (at the 16:40 minute mark) is from someone who wonders why her therapist isn't talking about the diagnosis on her invoice. We take a few tangents including: the perils of overdiagnosis and underdiagnosis; the limitations of our diagnostic system; the over-identification with labels. It has a slight soapbox vibe but it's not too bad.

In the third question (at 32 minutes), a listener has noticed that we talk about our therapies in very different ways and wonders what makes a good therapy relationship. David finally discloses more about his experience.

You'll hear feedback from episode 28 at 14:30. Go Team Sarah.

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In the first question a listener is struggling with her boyfriend's need to crowdsource information before making any decisions--from sharing personal details of their relationship with his family to checking Reddit to find the best pasta sauce.

We start by discussing the lack of boundaries in the family. At 09:45 we start offering some advice on how to navigate the dilemma (it gets better the more you listen). At 14:19 we pivot to the demand that everything is rated on a 5 star scale. By 16:43 we move on to the work of psychologist Barry Schwartz and his popular book The Paradox of Choice. We discuss optimizers and satisficers as a way to try to understand the boyfriend.

The second question (at 25 minutes) is from someone trying to understand an idea he came across: that a patient must first view their therapist in a positive light but eventually must learn to hate them.

We try to unpack this lazy quotation using Dr. Mahler's theories on separation and individuation. The listener wonders about his own therapy which we discuss starting at 33:16 and at 36:47 Abby discusses her own "rageful hate" towards her therapist and how powerful it was to resolve it.

Feedback from the last episode is at 24:04

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Barry Schwartz's TED talk about his book The Paradox of Choice: https://www.ted.com/talks/barry_schwartz_the_paradox_of_choice

This episode is all about interpretations. We have questions from both sides of the therapy room.

The first question comes from a listener who is a therapist. She wonders how to recover from the sting when an interpretation she makes doesn't land well.

The second question (18 minute mark) is from someone in therapy with a similar problem: how does she move forward when she isn't in agreement with her psychiatrist's observations.

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The full quotation mentioned in the episode: "I am human, I think nothing human is alien to me" --Publius Terentius Afer (Terence)