Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

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Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? episodes

  • Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots | EP 295: Mary Marantz

    My guest this week is my dear friend and incredible human being, Mary Marantz. Mary grew up in a trailer in rural West Virginia. The first of her immediate family to go to college, she went on to earn a master's degree in moral philosophy and a law degree from Yale.

    After turning down six-figure-salary law firm offers in London and New York and starting a photography business with her husband, Justin—where they were later named one of the prestigious Profoto Legends of Light—they have since gone on to build a successful online education platform for thousands of creative entrepreneurs worldwide.

    She is the bestselling author of Dirt (Revell, 2020), which was a finalist for the 2020 ECPA Memoir of the Year, and Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots (Revell, 2022). Mary is the host of the highly ranked podcast The Mary Marantz Show, which debuted in the iTunes Top 200, and her work has been featured on CNN, MSN, Business Insider, Bustle, Thrive Global, Southern Living, Hallmark Home & Family, and more.

    Mary and Justin live in an 1880s fixer-upper by the sea in New Haven, Connecticut, with their two very fluffy golden retrievers, Goodspeed and Atticus.

    6:09 – Mary 201
    • Mary is a return guest to the show, so she gets to give the Mary 201.
    • She is busy creating the work she was created to do and trying to be obedient to the work God asked her to do.
    9:12 – Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots
    • Mary released her latest book, Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots.
    • This mantra has been the story of her life, because she was often overlooked.
    14:02 – Growing roots
    • When you experience frustration and feel like you're making no progress, just know that you are growing strong roots.
    20:33 – Pruning vines in your life
    • I shared a personal story with Mary about my struggles and pruning vines in my life, and it gives her chills.
    28:49 – The fruit of hard work
    • Push through the struggles and hard times, and you will enjoy the fruit of your hard work.
    33:33 – Trenches and mountaintops
    • Mary wrote her latest book from the trenches, not the mountaintop.
    • We're all chasing other people. We all want approval.
    45:34 – Wanting more
    • What if success is where all the trouble begins?
    • If you have all you want, why do you want more?
    • You're probably walking around something you've prayed for your whole life.
    1:00 – Get to know you
    • Guilty pleasure? Yellowstone and true crime episodes
    • New career? Interior design
    FEATURED QUOTES

    If we choose to be a tree, we not only get to grow up to these dizzying heights over the long haul, but we actually get to last for generations.

    We don't get to walk among the giants if we're not willing to take our time.

    This book was written from the trenches, not the mountaintop.

    We're all chasing other people. We all want approval.

    CONNECT:

    http://www.marymarantz.com

    https://www.amazon.com/Slow-Growth-Equals-Strong-Roots/dp/0800738462

    http://achieverquiz.com/

    Thank you to our partner of the show!

    Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

    1 hr 9 min
  • Why Shopping Small Matters | EP 294: Stephanie Edwards, Jubilee Trading Co. & Highland Ridge Decor

    My guest this week is my dear friend Stephanie Edwards, the founder of Jubilee Trading Company, an ethical trade brand that blends traditional Moroccan leather working with modern trends to create elevated goods that elevate lives.

    Jubilee partners with a small group of artisans in one rural community to create opportunity and impact that ripples out to the surrounding area.

    Stephanie started her journey of wanting to make high quality pieces to serve her customers while being a busy mom working from home. While she did not have much control over her day while wrangling two kids under two, she did have control over what went on her walls; and when her space was serene and inspiring, her day felt that way, too.

    She had a deep desire for items she sold to have a bigger purpose than being beautiful and inspiring; she wanted to impact others.

    6:01 – Stephanie 101
    • She grew up on a multi-generational farm, and she spent her summers working on the farm driving tractors.
    • Although she was never given an allowance, she always worked and tracked her hours to get paid.
    • Stephanie wanted to be a journalist, traveling and telling stories. But she realized it was the people on the ground making the most difference.
    14:50 – Starting a business
    • Stephanie's parents didn't have a college fund for her. They helped her start a corn maze and pumpkin patch business so she could work and pay her way through college.
    22:33 – Dreaming of an artisan business
    • She always dreamed of having an artisan business focused on sustainability.
    • Stephanie realized she could build something for herself slowly and not lose a lot of money.
    25:19 – Tedx talk
    • Stephanie gave a Tedx talk about the power consumers have with their purchases.
    • Small-scale businesses and entrepreneurship can really make a difference, not just the big companies.
    33:02 – Biggest challenges
    • Aside from the pandemic, the biggest challenge Stephanie has faced is working with people across the world who speak different languages.
    39:38 – Going to Morocco
    • Stephanie loves to travel, but going to Morocco to meet people she had been working with was a dream come true.
    42:08 – What's on the horizon?
    • She's launching a new summer collection, and she's working with an interior designer to fill holes in their product offerings.
    • They're launching pillows, among other new items.
    44:06 – Get to know you
    • Guilty pleasure? Quiet time and watching Ted Lasso
    • Business she would start? A greenhouse
    FEATURED QUOTES

    I can build something for myself and not like really lose a lot of money by making a mistake if you start slow.

    Now we know what stores want, because we've got some obvious best sellers.

    I'm excited to be really intentional and start channeling some good business mindsets.

    CONNECT:
    • https://jubileetradingco.com/
    • Highland Ridge Decor
    • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f78IE59RtWk

    About Stephanie:

    Stephanie grew up on a farm in rural Estill Springs, TN. Little did she know that the entrepreneurial spirit of her family ruined her for any traditional career path. After studying Journalism and Art at the University of Tennessee, she moved to another tiny town, Leoma, TN, where she lives with her husband and two kids and runs her handmade business online. What began as a freelance graphic design business evolved into two e-commerce brands, Highland Ridge Decor and Jubilee Trading Co. As a handmade business owner, she loves advocating for conscious consumerism.

    Thank you to our partner of the show!

    Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

    51 min
  • Inspiring Kids to Volunteer | EP 293: Jessica Jackley, Alltruists

    My guest this week is Jessica Jackley, an entrepreneur, investor, and speaker. Her work over the last decade has focused on financial inclusion, the sharing economy, and social justice. Currently, she is the founder of Alltruists, offering at-home, kid-friendly volunteer projects for families, and a cofounder and General Partner at Untapped Capital.

    She is best known as a cofounder of Kiva, the world's first crowdfunding site for microenterprises. Most recently, Jessica served as Chief Impact Officer at Aspiration, GP at SparkLabs Global Ventures, and an investor, advisor, and former Venture Partner with the Collaborative Fund.

    Additionally, Jessica teaches Social Entrepreneurship at the Marshall School of Business at USC, and was previously a Visiting Practitioner at Stanford's Center for Philanthropy and Civil Society.

    2:56 – Jessica 101
    • Jessica is a mom of four and has had a number of entrepreneurial adventures in her life.
    6:12 – Being a giver
    • She felt called to be helpful in the world and wanted to wake up every day and be a giver.
    • Her goal has been to learn how to move people and resources to the most good.
    13:49 – Who do you want to serve?
    • Aspiring entrepreneurs should ask themselves: Who do you want to serve? What do you want to offer them? How will you fund that?
    • You need to know what you want to prioritize in your business and how profitable you can be and want to be.
    18:39 – Inspiration for Kiva
    • She learned about microfinance and the power of listening very carefully to the people you want to serve.
    • Observe and listen, and you can suggest how things might change.
    25:55 – Alltruists
    • Jessica wanted to use the ease of a subscription box and mash it up with a cool volunteer experience.
    • How do you talk to your kids about homeless people, war and scary stuff? Alltruists can help parents give kids truthful but not terrifying answers.
    37:09 – Volunteer economy
    • Every year in the U.S., 90% of the people say they want to volunteer, but only about a quarter of people get around to doing so.
    • People want to participate in something bigger than themselves.
    39:44 – Get to know you
    • Guilty pleasure? She doesn't do guilt, but her indulgence is reading her husband's book early.
    • Most listened to music? The Beatles
    FEATURED QUOTES

    Absolutely, you can make a really positive impact and have a sustainable/profitable organization.

    I felt really called to try to be helpful in the world.

    I felt pretty clear on the reality that my job was to wake up every day, be grateful for my life and go try to be a giver.

    https://alltruists.com/

    ABOUT JESSICA JACKLEY:

    Jessica Jackley is an entrepreneur, investor, professor, and speaker who has spent her career focused on social justice. In an effort to find meaningful ways to inspire her own childrens' curiosity, empathy, and passion for social and environmental impact, she most recently founded Alltruists, at-home, kid-friendly volunteer projects for families.

    She is best known as a co-founder of Kiva, the world's first crowdfunding site for microenterprises that has facilitated over $1.5B in loans worldwide. Jessica recently served as Walt Disney Imagineering's first Entrepreneur in Residence and serves on several nonprofit boards including Habitat for Humanity, advises numerous start-ups, and is an advisory board member of Investcorp Strategic Capital Group. Additionally, Jessica teaches Social Entrepreneurship at the Marshall School of Business at USC, and was previously a Visiting Practitioner at Stanford's Center for Philanthropy and Civil Society.

    Jessica's work has been widely recognized. Honors include The Economist's No Boundaries Innovation Award, Fast Company's Most Influential Women in Tech, Silicon Valley Forum's Visionary Award, the Pasteur Institute's Common Congress Award, finalist for the TIME 100 Most Influential People list, and more.

    She holds an MBA from the Stanford Graduate School of Business, a certificate in Global Leadership and Public Policy from the Harvard Kennedy School, a BA in Philosophy and Political Science from Bucknell University, and honorary PhDs from Centenary College and Quinnipiac University. She is a member of the Council on Foreign Relations and a World Economic Forum Young Global Leader. Her first book, CLAY WATER BRICK: Finding Inspiration from Entrepreneurs Who Do the Most with the Least was published in June 2015 (Penguin Random House).

    Jessica lives in Los Angeles with her husband, author Reza Aslan, and their four young children.

    Thank you to our partner of the show!

    Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

    46 min
  • Why Mentorship Matters | EP 292: Heather Adams, Choice Media and Communications

    My guest this week is Heather Adams, a boy mom, communications expert and CEO of Choice Media & Communications, a leading communications firm dedicated to providing clients in the entertainment and lifestyle space with quality communications services.

    Choice helps brands, influencers, and authors grow their business and influence by leveraging their unparalleled relationships and crafting smart, personalized communication and brand strategies that demand attention and deliver results.

    4:37 – Heather 101
    • She grew up outside Atlanta, in Marietta, with an idyllic family.
    • In high school, her yearbook advisor told her she had a gift for storytelling. So in college she studied communications and magazines.
    11:25 – Layoffs
    • Heather was leading a publicity team at a company, but the recession happened, and she was laid off.
    • Her husband looked at her and said don't take your next step out of fear.
    • Another company brought her on as a consultant, and she made double the money. She eventually started her own company.
    22:40 – Passion for mentorship
    • High school teachers believed in Heather and encouraged her to study communications.
    • Her mission now is to mentor college women.
    • There is so much power in linking arms with women and setting a wider table and allowing every seat to be occupied by a woman instead of fighting against each other for one.
    29:20 – Supporting women
    • Heather used to hustle to be the best, but she learned that other women's' success does not diminish her own opportunity.
    • As a young girl, people told Heather she was bossy and needed to be quiet. But her parents celebrated her assertiveness.
    37:20 – Mentoring
    • If you are looking for a mentor, don't downplay virtual mentors. If you don't know someone personally, you can follow them on social media, read their books, listen to their podcasts, etc.
    • Find someone you know who has an exceptional talent, and ask to learn from them, even if it's not work related.
    46:26 – What's next?
    • Heather has a conference for busy, working women. She's also working on her podcast, Make Me Known.
    52:00 – Get to know you
    • Guilty pleasures? Real Housewives, a face steamer and Trader Joe's peanut butter cups
    • Favorite book genre? Thrilled mysteries

    FEATURED QUOTES

    There is so much power in linking arms with women and setting a wider table and allowing every seat to be occupied by a woman instead of us fighting against each other for one.

    I feel like that's my mission field, serving college women.

    https://www.choicemediacommunications.com/

    Thank you to our partner of the show!

    Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

    1 hr 3 min
  • Say Yes: A Liturgy on Not Giving Up on Yourself | EP 291: Scott Erickson

    My guest this week is Scott Erickson, an artist, author, performance speaker, and creative curate who mixes autobiography, mythology, and aesthetics to create art and moments that speak to our deepest experiences.

    He is the writer and performer of two one-man shows. Wrestling with his own professional burnout and clinical depression, "We Are Not Troubled Guests" is a performance story-telling piece in which he navigates the surprising gift of an existential crisis.

    His current show, "Say Yes: A Liturgy of Not Giving Up On Yourself," juxtaposes story-teaching, participation, humor, and image curation as Scott walks us through the very personal and universal conversation about the death of a dream and the overwhelming voice of Giving Up in our lives.

    He is the co-author of Prayer: Forty Days of Practice and May It Be So, and the author of Honest Advent.

    4:20 – Scott 101
    • He's a vocational artist, which means he's an image-maker, an author and a performance artist.
    • Scott spends a lot of time listening and thinking and chooses his projects carefully.
    7:34 – Saying no
    • Sometimes you have to say no to projects or work to focus on what's really important.
    • But some people don't know what to do with more free time because they were so used to working all the time.
    27:26 – Who are we?
    • Every conversation ends up eventually hitting on, "Who are we? Why are we here?"
    • The journey that we're on is that we're working for identity and then we work from identity.
    • You know what happens when you make a lot of money and you're still miserable? You spend that money on trying to medicate your misery.
    35:39 – Live performances
    • His show runs an hour and 45 minutes, which flies by.
    • Scott asked himself: Can a performance change someone's life, and how do you create that?
    53:58 – What do you want to feel?
    • If you don't experience sorrow, you won't experience the depth of joy.
    • Scott uses a death practice to determine what's important to him and what might regret.
    1:19:21 – Get to know you
    • Guilty pleasure? Tony's chocolate
    • What makes him laugh? TikTok video of cats
    FEATURED QUOTES

    I think our dreams are really about being the kind of person who can buy that thing, have that object, go on that vacation.

    I spend a lot of time listening and thinking.

    Every conversation ends up eventually hitting on, "Who are we? Why are we here?"

    You know what happens when you make a lot of money and you're still miserable? You spend that money on trying to medicate your misery.

    Say yes to the gift of your incarnation.

    CONNECT:

    https://www.scottericksonart.com/

    Thank you to our partner of the show!

    Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

    1 hr 27 min
  • 25 Ways to Live More Sustainably | EP: 290

    Hey everyone! It's episode 290, so that means it's time for another solo show featuring me. Every 10 episodes I do a solo show or feature an extra special guest, like my husband.

    Can you believe I have come out with a new episode every single Wednesday since I started this show in summer 2016? If you count the bonus episodes, I've done, it's probably more than 300 shows.

    If you're new here, welcome! If you're a returning listener, thank you so much for your support.

    Today's show is all about being more sustainable and living with less. I'm sharing 25 simple tips for living with less and living more sustainably.

    4:05 – Crunchy-lite
    • I'm not a hippy tree-hugger, but I like to think of myself as crunchy-lite.
    • I can't fit all my trash in a mason jar, but I think we produce way too much waste.
    • We dispose of our stuff without thinking about the impact that that stuff has on the environment.
    5:26 – Dandora dump
    • A few years ago I went to Kenya and got to visit the Dandora dump, the largest landfill in east Africa.
    • It was one of the most horrifying things I have ever seen. Tons of trash, including brand new shirts with logos of the losing Super Bowl team, were dumped there.
    25 simple tips for living with less and living more sustainably

    9:10 – Reusable straws

    10:32 – Reusable water bottle, coffee tumbler

    11:15 – Zero-waste or refillable bath products

    12:52 – Refillable soaps and house cleaners

    14:31 – Recycling bin in the bathroom

    15:04 – Reusable grocery bags

    16:19 – Reusable produce bags

    16:57 – Local produce boxes or farmer's markets

    17:35 – Reusable beeswax plastic wrap

    18:33 – Reusable snack bags and lunch containers

    19:36 – Cloth napkins

    20:44 – Handkerchiefs

    21:20 – Reusable muslin face cloths

    22:16 – Washable makeup remover cloth

    22:59 – Menstrual cup

    23:52 – Cloth diapers

    24:48 – Roll-free toilet paper or bidets

    26:09 – Rechargeable batteries

    26:15 – Shop consignment

    26:38 – Repair clothing

    27:47 – Sustainable toys

    28:14 – Go paperless

    28:37 – Unsubscribe from mailing lists

    29:05 – Borrow books from the library

    FEATURED QUOTES

    You truly have absolutely no idea the kind of impact you have on my life and this community. It means so much to me.

    I'm not like a hippy tree-hugger, but I like to think of myself as crunchy-lite.

    We dispose of our stuff without thinking about the impact that that stuff has on the environment.

    Thank you to our partner of the show!

    Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

    32 min
  • From Starting in a Kitchen to Creating a National Skincare Brand | EP 289: Bethany McDaniel, Primally Pure

    My guest this week is Bethany McDaniel, founder of Primally Pure, which creates natural skin care products using real ingredients derived from nature for maximum purity and potency.

    Founder, farmer's wife, mama bear, matcha lover and bath taker, Bethany is the heartbeat and hard work behind the brand. When her family spontaneously started a beyond organic livestock farm in Southern California called Primal Pastures, she discovered the power of eating real food and her eyes were opened to a new world of wellness.

    Bethany subsequently purged her bathroom cabinets of toxic conventional skincare products and began formulating her own replacements with pure, simple ingredients.

    4:20 – Bethany 101
    • Bethany started her business in 2015 and started experimenting with natural skincare products that wouldn't irritate her skin.
    • She had irritated, acne-prone skin issues growing up.
    7:19 – Researching her beauty routine
    • She was exposed to the world of natural health through her husband and his family. They focused on eating whole foods, not processed foods, and it opened her eyes.
    • Eating better increased her energy and made her healthier. It made her wonder about her skincare and cleaning products.
    • Just because something is sold on the shelf at the supermarket or the drug store doesn't mean that it's safe, and in fact most of the ingredients in these products have never been tested.
    13:23 – Where she started
    • Using trial and error, she tested a lot of deodorant recipes.
    • She started out mixing coconut oil and baking soda for deodorant and began adding other ingredients, such as beeswax and shea butter.
    20:26 – The farm
    • Bethany's family started a farm and began with raising chickens.
    • They watched YouTube videos and all chipped in with farm chores.
    27:23 – Overcoming analysis paralysis
    • If you're not ready to dive into clean brands, there are still things you can do at home, such as DIY recipes.
    • You can make DIY deodorant, cleansing oil, dry shampoo, etc. using ingredients you already have in your home.
    31:24 – Challenging times
    • Growing a team and managing people has been a challenge, especially because she had never managed anyone before.
    • Ask yourself: Can I afford to learn this or should I bring someone on to do this work?
    36:10 – Clean product imposters
    • Natural beauty has become trendy, and a lot of companies use sneaky marketing to make their product sound natural.
    • Watch out for products that say "all-natural," "made with shea butter" or "made with coconut oil," for example.
    • Look at the ingredient list, especially the first five ingredients.
    41:05 – What's next?
    • This year, they're focused on hiring more people for the team and new sun care products for a 2023 launch.
    45:09 – Get to know you
    • Favorite Primally Pure product? Deodorant and cleansing oil
    • Guilty pleasure? Bridgerton books

    FEATURED QUOTES

    We're always just encouraging people to go at whatever pace feels good to them. Every little change that is implemented is making a difference.

    There's no rush to detoxify everything all at once.

    Just because something is sold on the shelf at the supermarket or the drug store doesn't mean that it's safe.

    Ultimately, we are a company that cares about the health of our community and the people that we serve.

    CONNECT:

    • https://primallypure.com/ - Use code STILLBEINGMOLLY for 10% off

    ABOUT BETHANY MCDANIEL:

    Having used all sorts of harsh prescription creams and pills to treat her acne as a teenager and young adult (and dealing with red, raw, irritated skin as a result), Bethany McDaniel was blown away by the effects she eventually experienced after ditching the harsh chemicals and replacing them with simple and natural ingredients. Bethany's journey inspired her to start Primally Pure (with an initial $250 order for ingredients + supplies) to help others experience the benefits of using clean products. In addition to spending time at the PP Workshop and Spa envisioning new product ideas, Bethany is passionate about all things faith, clean living and biohacking. She loves sharing the knowledge she has gained with others - as well as taking regular getaways with her family to reset and refresh. Bethany is the Founder of Primally Pure and lives in Southern California with her husband and two daughters.

    Thank you to our partner of the show!

    Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

    56 min
  • Why Proximity Breeds Empathy | EP 288: Tyler Merritt, The Tyler Merritt Project

    My guest this week is Tyler Merritt, creator of the viral video, "Before You Call the Cops." As a 6'2" dreadlocked black man, Tyler knows what it feels like to be stereotyped as threatening, which can have dangerous consequences. But he also knows that proximity to people who are different from ourselves can be a cure for racism.

    Tyler has appeared on Jimmy Kimmel and Sports Illustrated and has been profiled in the New York Times. The viral video's main point—the more you know someone, the more empathy, understanding, and compassion you have for that person—is the springboard for his new book.

    In his book, I Take My Coffee Black, Tyler tells hilarious stories from his own life as a black man in America. Throughout his stories, he also seamlessly weaves in lessons about privilege, the legacy of lynching and sharecropping and why you don't cross black mamas. He teaches readers about the history of encoded racism that still undergirds our society today.

    5:07 – Tyler 101
    • He describes himself as an actor, author, activist and encourager – not necessarily in that order.
    • He has had all kinds of friends over the years – gay, straight, black, white, Christian, Muslim, etc.
    • He wanted to create content to connect people with love, laughter and creativity.
    11:32 – Before You Call the Cops
    • Tyler created the video because it was on his heart. It's 3 minutes of him talking about himself. He didn't think anyone would want to watch it.
    • He sent the video to his friend, Lisa. She texted back, "This feels holy."
    • Tyler wants people to know, "Your story matters. Your words matter. You are significantly created to be you.
    20:34 – Super Bowl halftime show
    • Tyler jokes he would have died if hologram Tupac performed at the Super Bowl halftime show.
    26:52 – Proximity to different people
    • Proximity to people who aren't like you can help stop racism.
    • Tyler uses humor throughout his book, while also sneaking in historic moments in black life.
    34:30 – Not being caged
    • Tyler didn't write the book for Christians. He didn't want to feel like he was caged while writing the book.
    • When writing a book, write what is you. Write what is true.
    • He wasn't concerned about sales. He wanted to be true to himself.
    38:37 – More diversity in churches
    • Don't just ask black people to come to your church. Make sure you hire black people to be on the leadership team and staff.
    • Black churches are the social justice committee every Sunday morning. When George Floyd was murdered, black churches talked about it.
    41:20 – The beauty of others
    • Go to an environment where there are people that are different than you and just exist for a little while. Your kids will begin to pick up on the beauty of other individuals.
    44:34 – Get to know you
    • Guilty pleasure? Yellowstone TV show
    • Dream career? Being a teacher
    FEATURED QUOTES

    By the end of the book, you have proximity to me that the next time you see a 6'2" man with dreadlocks walking down the street, you begin to wonder, what is this man's story?

    I am an actor, author, activist, and also known as an encourager.

    I began dreaming about doing something significant in the world as a young, young kid.

    If I had known that over 100 million people were going to see this video, I would have put a shirt on.

    Your story matters. Your words matter. You are significantly created to be you.

    Go to an environment where there are people that are different than you and just exist for a little while. Your kids will begin to pick up on the beauty of other individuals.

    LINKS!
    • https://www.instagram.com/thetylermerrittproject/?hl=en
    • https://www.worthypublishing.com/titles/tyler-merritt/i-take-my-coffee-black/9781546029410/
    • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGu_xGBekpo

    ABOUT TYLER MERRITT:

    Tyler Merritt is a Nashville-based actor, activist, cancer survivor, founder of The Tyler Merritt Project, and author of "I TAKE MY COFFEE BLACK: REFLECTIONS ON TUPAC, MUSICAL THEATER, FAITH AND BEING BLACK IN AMERICA." Over the course of his career, Tyler has gained recognition through notable acting projects including "Kevin Probably Saves The World," "Outer Banks," and "The Outsider," as well as serving as the face of the worldwide teaching curriculum for The Gospel Project for Kids. Most recently, Tyler Merritt made headlines with his 2018 viral video "Before You Call The Cops," which has been viewed by over 60 million people worldwide and appeared on Jimmy Kimmel, MSNBC, and the New York Times. As a 6'2'' dreadlocked Black man living in America, where racial injustices continue to plague our society, Tyler has emerged as a steadfast activist in the face of racism.

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    55 min
  • How to Maximize the Money Season You're In | EP 287: Anthony O'Neal

    My guest this week is Anthony O'Neal, a #1 national bestselling author who has helped more than 250,000 people set out on a path toward a debt-free life. He has reached more than 15 million people in 15 different countries through his podcast, The Table, where he keeps it real, relevant and relatable.

    2:42 – Anthony 101
    • He is passionate about teaching people how to get out of debt and build wealth, especially single people.
    • Growing up, he never had conversations about money with his family. It was all about school and church.
    • At age 19, he was homeless, deeply in debt and considering suicide
    • He changed his life and decided to help others
    8:59 – Start with a foundation
    • No matter where you are in life, lay down a foundation for your finances.
    • Ask yourself: What do you desire, and how will you get there?
    • Have a vision for your life and a vision for your money.
    14:12 – Make a plan for your income
    • Anthony has met people making a million dollars a year who live paycheck to paycheck.
    • He has also met teachers who make $50,000 a year and have $2 to $3 million in investments.
    19:58 – Speaking to singles
    • He launched a community for single people. He doesn't want to rush single people to get married.
    • For 8 weeks, you have direct access to Anthony and a course that digs in deep on how to become successful.
    27:53 – Rock bottom moment
    • Anthony once bathed with dawn dish soap and water in the back of his car. It was a low point in his life.
    • One day, his bank account was in the negative. Anthony realized he and his friends had nice cars and looked like they had money, but they were broke.
    34:15 – Common mindsets
    • Many people think debt is normal. Anthony refuses to believe that. He wants his clients to have freedom and options.
    • Many people have credit cards. Some can pay off their balances every week, but most people don't.
    36:43 – Get to know you
    • Guilty pleasure? Drag racing, driving 150 mph
    • What makes him laugh the most? Bad Boys movie
    FEATURED QUOTES

    Does your vision for your life and your vision for your money align together?

    It's not – do you have a six-figure job? It's not – do you make a million dollars a year? It's not how much that you have. It's what's the vision?

    My heart and passion is to share my heart, to share my story.

    You can have your dream life, your dream house, your dream car, your dream lady, your dream man, your dream kids without racking up debt.

    Financial freedom gives you options.

    I want to have money, not just look like money.

    CONNECT:

    https://anthonyoneal.com/

    About Anthony O'Neal

    A #1 national bestselling author, Anthony O'Neal has helped over 250,000 people set out on a path towards a debt-free life with his chart-topping book Debt-Free Degree. He's reached over 15 million people in 15 different countries through his podcast "The Table" where he always keeps it real, relevant, and relatable.

    Apart from teaching others how to obtain mental, spiritual and financial freedom, Anthony's mission is to help singles maximize their single season with both intention and grace. When he's not interviewing experts and thought-leaders on his popular Youtube channel, you can find Anthony golfing or on an adventure with his beautiful all-black German Shepherd, Rhaven.

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    43 min
  • How to Make Peace a Practice | EP 286: Morgan Harper Nichols, Arist, Poet, & Author

    My guest this week is the popular Instagram poet and artist Morgan Harper Nichols. She has created her life's work around the stories of others.

    In 2017, Morgan started a project where she invites people to submit their stories to her website. From there, she creates art as a response to their stories and sends it to them before sharing the work publicly. All stories and names are kept private.

    The fruit of this project is shared daily around social media, in publications, and various creative collaborations and installations.

    3:26 – Morgan 101
    • Morgan lives in Arizona and is an artist and writer. She has moved around the country trying to figure out her life.
    • She was constantly broke and exhausted in her 20s.
    6:55 – Childhood confidence
    • Morgan loves learning from kids. She has a 2-year-old and constantly learns from him.
    • She encourages people to tap into childhood confidence and joy.
    14:08 – Painting with words
    • Morgan remembers growing up and feeling conflicted. She saw people who were great public speakers.
    • She was drawn to storytelling and connecting with people, but she didn't feel like she had the skillset to do that.
    • Now she paints with words.
    20:38 – Natural storytellers
    • We are natural storytellers. Give yourself grace, and you can find your own path.
    24:00 – Expressing gratitude
    • Morgan's art and poetry is her way of expressing gratitude.
    • If you're feeling frustrated and low self worth, go and respond to someone and just say thank you. Thank you for liking this post, for leaving this comment, etc.
    30:55 – Peace is a Practice book
    • The struggle of her ancestors and the struggles of the world inform her poetry.
    • Small practices, like making art, help create room to breathe in life.
    36:06 – Peace in the midst of pain
    • We get to these points in our life where we suddenly become aware that, oh wait, I have options. There's a way I can choose to look at this.
    48:28 – Get to know you
    • Biggest guilty pleasure? Donuts
    • What makes her laugh? TikTok
    FEATURED QUOTES

    A lot of what I share comes from that place of me trying to nurture how I've been uniquely created amidst all of those inner critics.

    Lean into those simple things that end up being empowering.

    If you're feeling frustrated and low self worth, go and respond to someone and just say thank you.

    We get to these points in our life where we suddenly become aware that, oh wait, I have options. There's a way I can choose to look at this.

    CONNECT:

    https://morganharpernichols.com/

    https://morganharpernichols.com/peaceisapractice

    ABOUT MORGAN HARPER NICHOLS:

    Popular Instagram poet and artist Morgan Harper Nichols has created her life's work around the stories of others. Morgan's popular Instagram feed (@morganharpernichols) has garnered a loyal online community of over two million, and she is the author of "All Along You Were Blooming", a book of poems and art she created in response to the personal stories submitted by her friends and followers. She also hosts a podcast, The Morgan Harper Nichols Show, where she shares daily reflections on finding meaning and peace in life and work. Morgan has also performed as a vocalist on several GRAMMY-nominated projects and written for various artists, including a Billboard #1 single performed by her sister, Jamie-Grace. Morgan's iconic Instagram art has inspired millions and landed her brand partnerships with Anthropologie, Coach, Adobe, Vogue Singapore, Aerie, Target, Starbucks, Kind Bar, GAP, Splendid, John Paul Mitchell, and more. Morgan is often on the road creating, teaching, and performing, in hopes of spreading her unique inspirational message and inviting others into her creative process. Morgan currently resides in Phoenix, Arizona, with her husband and son. Her latest book, Peace is a Practice: An Invitation to Breathe Deep and Find a New Rhythm for Life, will be available nationwide February 15, 2022.

    Thank you to our partner of the show!

    Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

    1 hr

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