In this episode, we do a surface level deep dive into all the pieces of the enneagram.  We give you a new definition of the enneagram and decide that the enneagram is just a map to lead you to yourself.  We talk about wings, stress and growth arrows, instincts, triads and how you can utilize all of this information to find balance in yourself and in your relationships.  We are crossing our fingers that even though you might feel overwhelmed with the bulk of info, that all the little tips and hacks we give you will add some immediate value to your life helping you stay curious and connected!

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In this episode, we talk about cultivating beginners mind and how nobody is just how they are. We talk about how you get to be so many different you's in your lifetime and how your also partners get to be so many different them's. Beginners mind helps us stay open and curious about our partners over the course of our relationships, and each number has some areas where they might struggle.  We give some new thoughts to help you get unstuck. Lets get curious!!

In this episode we talk about Shiloh's creepy-ass house, Lily moving out, and how life is all transitions. We dive in to all things core values, including examples of potential core values for each Enneagram number, and how core values might also be things that point you toward growth or how you get your needs met.

There is some crossover between core values and love styles. You can find out more about loves styles in episode 18.

In this episode we look at cohabitation! We explore what each number might need when sharing space with others. You will get a glimpse at what our own polycule cohabiting looks like and some tips for helping all the numbers in your ‘cule feel at home! We also add ‘cohabitation’ to the ever growing list of words we don’t like!!

In this episode, we have more tips and tricks to navigate security in polyamory. We talk about the challenges that might trigger the insecurity, specific strategies to find security based on your enneagram number, and affirmations tailored to each number. Shiloh and Kellie both get on the soapbox on this episode and we find out Kellie doesn't like the work encroach. Listen in to learn how to be an experimenter in the science project that is you. 

There was so much good info for this one that we had to split it into 2 parts!!  This week we will go over how polyamory brings up insecurity AND security and then we go through how each enneagram number seeks security in their relationships.  We talk about how to recognize your own security patterns based on your type. Listen for boundary sandwiches and surprise shoes.  And stayed tuned after the episode for a bit of our pre-show meeting where we talk about deep diving to the bottom of the pool!

In this episode, we talk about contentment vs striving in relationships. We figure out how to find out if you are over-striving or over-contenting and what you can do about it based on your enneagram number. We invented the word "strowth" because Shiloh discovered she does not like the word "striving" so we combined the words "striving" and "growth" because that felt nicer. 

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In this episode we have special guest Emily on to talk about her and Kellie's new polyamorous adventures. We'll talk about exactly what they've been up to and why, and we'll see what it triggered for both through an enneagram lens. We'll also get in to how it's making their relationship even stronger! 

In this episode we talk about love languages vs. love styles and how they intersect and overlap with Gottman's 7 principles for making relationships work. We want you to be able to use both tools to make really good relationships of all kinds! We do our best to decide which love style each enneagram numbers might fall under. We also talk about doing White Elephant in July,  how Shiloh will wink the fuck out of you, and the very secret formula for relationship success!! Listen for these quotable gems - “Some perverts ruined it for everyone” and “nobody wants to be loved from a place of ‘I hate this’”.

In this week's episode we talk about using journaling as a processing tool for some of the sticky emotions brought up by your out-of-the-box relationships. We give you lots of journal prompts to help you get to the juicy good stuff using your enneagram number to guide you! We also talk about the fuck it fifties, why podcasting at night isn’t for us,  how 2025 is the year we can do whatever we want, and why Shiloh gives a big thumbs down to the words salve and ointment.  

And listen to the end to hear our new pre-show meeting outtakes!

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