People avoid certain questions in dating because they're afraid the answers will ruin the connection. But avoiding them often leads to confusion, situationships, and wasted time.

In this episode, Carla Romo shares the essential questions to ask when dating to better understand compatibility, emotional maturity, conflict styles, and relationship intentions. She also explains why difficult conversations create clarity, not distance- and how avoiding them can keep you stuck in fantasy instead of reality.

Plus, Carla dives into the sexual questions that can create pressure, comparison, and disconnection, and what to ask instead to build trust, intimacy, and better communication.

What You'll Learn

• Ask what someone is looking for early on.

• Clarity doesn't ruin healthy connections.

• How someone handles conflict matters more than chemistry.

• A person's definition of a healthy relationship reveals a lot.

• Avoiding hard conversations creates confusion, not security.

• Comparison and performance pressure can damage intimacy.

• Focus on communication and pleasure instead of judgment.

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

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Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

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Sound Bites

• "Ask what you're looking for to set clear intentions."

• "Define what a healthy relationship looks like for you."

• "Don't ask if they finished; focus on pleasure."

Chapters

02:11 – Questions You NEED to Ask in Dating & Relationships

15:29 – Sexual Questions NOT to Ask the Person You're Sleeping With

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Why does dating feel like it's going nowhere—even when everything seems "fine"?

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down what actually creates real connection in dating—and why surface-level conversations, overthinking, and insecurity can quietly block intimacy. She shares how curiosity, authenticity, and gradual vulnerability are the keys to building something deeper and more meaningful.

Carla also dives into insecurities around sex and intimacy, why they're more common than you think, and how to communicate your needs without fear or shame.

What You'll Learn

• Real connection comes from curiosity, not performance

• Oversharing isn't the same as true vulnerability

• Insecurities around sex are normal—but avoiding them blocks intimacy

• Authenticity builds trust faster than trying to impress

• Emotional intimacy is built gradually, not forced

• Communicating your needs creates better connection

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Oversharing does not build connection"

• "Insecurities about performance are normal"

• "Your needs in sex matter, speak up"

Chapters

02:02 – How to Actually BUILD Real Connection on a Date

17:28 – Insecurities Around Sex & Intimacy

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

If something feels off… it probably is.

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the subtle (and often missed) signs of controlling behavior in relationships—from early dating red flags to the ways control can show up in sex and intimacy. She explains why feeling like you're "walking on eggshells" isn't normal, and how ignoring your gut can keep you stuck in unhealthy dynamics.

Carla also dives into the importance of autonomy, boundaries, and emotional safety, helping you recognize when control is being disguised as care—and how to protect yourself before it escalates.

What You'll Learn

• Control often shows up subtly—not just in obvious ways

• Walking on eggshells is a major red flag

• Your gut instinct is usually right—listen to it

• Control can appear in sexual dynamics and intimacy

• Healthy relationships support autonomy, not restrict it

• Boundaries are essential for emotional safety

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Follow your gut every single time"

• "Walking on eggshells is a red flag"

• "Control in sex can be a red flag"

Chapters

02:32 – Controlling Behavior in Dating & Relationships

15:19 – When Sex Becomes About Control

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Thinking about going back to your ex… or already did?

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the real reasons you feel pulled back toward an ex—and why it's often more about loneliness, familiarity, and emotional triggers than actual compatibility. She challenges the idea of "what could be" and explains why change—not chemistry—is what determines if something can truly work again.

Carla also dives into the truth about sex with an ex, why it can feel comforting but keep you emotionally stuck, and how to decide what's actually best for your growth and future relationships.

What You'll Learn

• Missing your ex doesn't always mean you should go back

• Familiarity can feel like love—but it's not the same as compatibility

• Real change is required for a relationship to work again

• Sex with an ex can delay healing and keep you stuck

• Emotional triggers often drive the desire to reconnect

• Self-awareness helps you make better relationship decisions

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Don't fall in love with potential"

• "Compatibility trumps everything"

• "Sex with your ex keeps you stuck"

Chapters

01:48 – Should You Get Back With Your Ex… or Are You Just Lonely?

14:55 – Sex With Your Ex: Connection… or Comfort?

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

If you feel confused in dating… you're probably ignoring the answer.

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the truth about mixed signals, why they're not actually confusing, and how inconsistency always reveals someone's true intentions. She challenges the habit of overanalyzing and explains why patterns—not moments—tell you everything you need to know.

Carla also dives into sexual expectations and communication, helping you understand the narratives you might be creating and how to advocate for your needs with clarity and confidence. If you're tired of second-guessing and settling for less, this episode will help you see things clearly.

What You'll Learn

• Mixed signals = inconsistent behavior, not confusion

• Patterns reveal truth—stop focusing on isolated moments

• Overthinking keeps you stuck in unhealthy cycles

• Your needs matter—don't settle for breadcrumbs

• Their reactions give you clarity

• Clear communication is essential for sexual alignment

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "You want the whole fucking muffin."

• "Watch patterns, not the moments."

• "Their reaction is clarity."

Chapters

02:06 – Mixed Signals Are NOT Confusing—You're Just Ignoring the Truth

15:32 – Sexual Expectations: What Narrative Are You Telling Yourself?

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

So you made it past the first date… now what?

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down how to maintain momentum after the first date and avoid the subtle mistakes that cause things to fizzle out. She shares how to deepen emotional connection, stay consistent, and build trust without rushing or forcing the relationship.

Carla also dives into pacing intimacy, explaining how to navigate physical connection without making things awkward or losing alignment. If you've ever had something start strong and then suddenly fall off, this episode will show you what's really going on—and how to fix it.

What You'll Learn

• Momentum is built through consistency, not intensity

• Go deeper emotionally without overwhelming your date

• Let connection grow naturally—don't force it

• Stay curious without becoming overly attached

• Communication between dates matters more than you think

• Pacing intimacy helps build trust and long-term connection

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Be consistent in your communication"

• "Let things progress naturally"

• "Stay curious but not attached"

Chapters

02:00 – You Got the First Date… Now Don't Screw Up Dates 2 & 3

16:35 – When Intimacy Starts Coming Up… How to Handle Pacing Without It Getting Weird

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

First dates feel awkward, stressful, and sometimes straight-up exhausting—but it's not because you're bad at dating.

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the biggest first date mistakes that quietly sabotage connection—from trying too hard to impress to turning dates into interviews. She shares how to shift into authenticity, curiosity, and presence so you can actually enjoy the experience and build real chemistry.

Carla also dives into body language, connection, and physical intimacy, including how to navigate the question everyone wonders: should you kiss on the first date? This episode will help you show up more confidently, read the vibe, and create a date that actually feels good.

What You'll Learn

• Awkwardness is normal—don't overthink it

• Focus on curiosity, not impressing your date

• Don't turn the date into an interview

• Avoid oversharing or trauma dumping

• Check in with yourself during the date

• Consent and comfort matter for physical connection

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "First dates are fucking hard."

• "Be you. You are enough."

• "Consent is sexy."

Chapters

02:37 – You're Not Bad at Dating—You're Just Making These First Date Mistakes

16:59 – Should You Kiss on the First Date?

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Why does dating feel so exhausting—even when you're doing "everything right"?

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the emotional rollercoaster of modern dating and hookup culture, and why so many people feel stuck in a cycle of hope and disappointment. She explains how over-investing, ignoring patterns, and chasing potential can lead to burnout—and what to do instead.

Carla shares how to date with confidence, boundaries, and authenticity, while staying grounded and protecting your emotional health. If you're tired of feeling replaceable or confused in dating, this episode will help you reset and approach dating in a healthier, more intentional way.

What You'll Learn

• Dating exhaustion often comes from repeated disappointment, not dating itself

• Pay attention to patterns—not just someone's potential

• Inconsistency is a major red flag

• Managing expectations helps protect your emotional health

• Confidence comes from showing up authentically

• Intentional dating leads to more fulfilling connections

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Go into dating with zero expectations"

• "Pay attention to patterns, not just potential"

• "Don't invest in inconsistency"

Chapters

02:30 – You're not tired of dating—you're tired of being disappointed 15:16 – Hook-Up Culture Is Making You Feel Replaceable

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Still following dating "rules" that leave you confused, disconnected, or ghosted?

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the biggest dating myths—from playing hard to get to overthinking texting—and why they're actually hurting your chances at real connection. She explains why authentic communication beats game-playing every time and how small shifts can completely change your dating experience.

Carla also gets into the details of kissing and intimacy, sharing practical ways to build attraction, confidence, and emotional connection. Plus, she covers timing around sex and attachment styles, helping you better understand your patterns in dating.

What You'll Learn

• Playing games creates confusion, not connection

• Authentic communication builds trust and attraction

• Overthinking texting can push people away

• Kissing is about presence, not perfection

• Timing of sex should align with your values and comfort

• Understanding attachment styles improves dating outcomes

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Stop waiting to text back, be authentic"

• "Ask for a kiss, it's okay and confident"

• "Don't forget your chapstick, happy kissing"

Chapters

02:33 – Stop Taking This Dating Advice—It's Why You're Still Single

16:32 – What Makes a Good Kiss

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

You've heard "love yourself first"—but what does that actually mean in dating?

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down self-love as a daily practice, not a destination, and how your relationship with yourself directly shapes who you choose and how you show up in love. She challenges common myths around self-worth and explains why lack of self-love leads to unhealthy patterns in dating.

Carla also opens up the conversation around sexuality and masturbation, unpacking shame, conditioning, and how self-exploration can deepen confidence, intimacy, and connection.

What You'll Learn

• Self-love is a daily practice, not a one-time achievement

• Your self-worth shapes your dating choices and relationship patterns

• Lack of self-love can lead to settling or unhealthy dynamics

• Self-awareness and self-care improve relationship quality

• Masturbation is a healthy way to understand your needs and preferences

• Shame around sexuality is learned—and can be unlearned

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "You are worthy of love and respect"

• "Show up for yourself every day"

• "Embrace your sexuality without shame"

Chapters

02:50 – Self-Love Isn't Cute — It's Why You Keep Picking the Wrong People

15:15 – You Feel Shame After Masturbating? That's Not Normal — It's Conditioning

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.