Do you feel like you lose yourself in relationships or struggle to set boundaries?

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down codependency, how it shows up in your relationships and sex life, and why so many people don't even realize they're stuck in it. She shares how childhood patterns shape your behavior, why overgiving leads to burnout, and what it actually takes to build self-worth and emotional independence.

Carla also dives into boundaries as self-care, how to stop people-pleasing, and practical ways to start choosing yourself without guilt.

What You'll Learn

• Codependency is common and often rooted in early experiences

• Losing yourself in relationships is a key sign of codependency

• Boundaries are essential for self-respect and emotional health

• Overgiving leads to burnout, not better relationships

• Self-awareness is the first step to change

• Building your own life (hobbies, self-care) breaks the cycle

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

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Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

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Sound Bites

• "Up to 90% of us are codependent."

• "Codependency is toxic manipulation."

• "Boundaries are 110% self-care."

Chapters

02:07 – You're Not 'Needy' — You're Codependent (And It's Killing Your Dating Life)

17:30 – If You're Having Sex Without Boundaries… It's Not Chemistry — It's Codependency

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but how you handle it determines whether your relationship grows or breaks down.

In this episode, Carla Romo shares practical tools for conflict resolution, emotional safety, and healthy communication. She explains how to pause escalation, take accountability, and repair disconnection in a way that builds trust instead of resentment.

Carla also dives into sexual communication, breaking down how to have honest conversations about intimacy and navigate the natural ebbs and flows of sex in long-term relationships. This episode is your guide to creating a relationship rooted in trust, respect, and deeper connection.

What You'll Learn

• Conflict is normal. Repair is what matters most

• Pause escalation and set boundaries during arguments

• Take accountability instead of blaming your partner

• Use active listening and "I" statements

• Reconnect after conflict to rebuild trust

• Open communication is key to healthy sexual intimacy

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Pause escalation to prevent toxicity."

• "Own your part, practice accountability."

• "Normalize the ebbs and flows of sex."

Chapters

02:37 – How to Move Through Conflict and Actually Repair

13:47 – How to Discuss Problems in Sex

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

How do you know if your relationship is truly headed toward marriage?

In this episode, Carla Romo shares expert insights on relationship readiness, breaking down the key signs that indicate long-term compatibility. From core values and emotional safety to conflict resolution and communication, she explains what actually matters in building a lasting partnership.

Carla also dives into open conversations about sex, vulnerability, and trust—highlighting how these often-avoided topics play a crucial role in healthy, long-term love. If you're questioning your relationship or looking to build something that lasts, this episode offers practical, honest guidance.

What You'll Learn

• Shared core values are essential for long-term compatibility

• Emotional safety creates a strong foundation for love

• Conflict reveals how healthy a relationship truly is

• Open communication (including about sex) is crucial

• Vulnerability builds trust and deeper connection

• Playfulness helps sustain long-term relationships

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Hard moments reveal true partnership."

• "Playfulness keeps love alive."

• "Shared core values are non-negotiable."

Chapters

01:54 – Signs Your Relationship Is Headed Toward Marriage

19:43 – Sex Questions Couples Are Too Afraid to Ask

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Why do you keep dating the same type—even when it doesn't work?

In this episode, Carla Romo dives into dating patterns, explaining how familiarity—not compatibility—often drives attraction. She shares how to build self-awareness, break unhealthy cycles, and create space for secure, emotionally available relationships.

Carla also tackles the topic of sexual expectations in dating, emphasizing that intimacy should always be mutual, never obligated. Through honest insights, she highlights the importance of communication, emotional safety, and personal growth in building healthier relationships.

What You'll Learn

• Your "type" is often based on familiarity, not compatibility

• Breaking patterns is key to healthier relationships

• Attraction can grow when emotional safety is present

• You don't owe anyone sex—mutual respect matters

• Communication is essential for intimacy and boundaries

• Dating outside your type can lead to growth

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Why do you keep choosing the same type?"

• "Your type is familiarity."

• "You owe no one sex."

Chapters

01:45 – Your "Type" is Familiarity, Not Compatibility

19:37 – Feeling Obligated to Have Sex

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

In this episode of Carla Turned On, Carla Romo breaks down jealousy in relationships—what's normal, what's not, and how to handle it in a healthy way. She explains the difference between healthy and unhealthy jealousy, and why jealousy itself isn't the problem—it's how you respond to it.

Carla dives into how communication, vulnerability, and boundaries are key to navigating jealousy, especially in the age of social media where trust can easily be tested. She also shares how to recognize controlling behaviors, avoid assumptions, and build emotional safety in your relationships.

What You'll Learn

• Jealousy is a normal emotion—it's how you act on it that matters

• Healthy jealousy involves communication and vulnerability

• Unhealthy jealousy shows up as control, accusations, and distrust

• Social media can intensify jealousy and insecurity

• Clear boundaries help create trust and emotional safety

• Open conversations prevent secrecy and relationship damage

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Jealousy is a normal human emotion."

• "Look at jealousy as just an emotion."

• "Secrets are toxic for relationships."

Chapters

01:24 – Jealousy in Relationships: Red Flag or Normal 19:56 – Healthy vs. Unhealthy Jealousy

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

In this episode of Carla Turned On, Carla Romo breaks down the real red flags in relationships—the subtle behaviors that often get overlooked but can have a major impact over time. From emotional dysregulation and lack of accountability to disguised humor and inconsistency, Carla explains what to watch for and why trusting your gut matters.

She also dives into sexual red flags, including consent, control, and communication, emphasizing the importance of boundaries and mutual respect in healthy relationships.

What You'll Learn

• Red flags aren't always obvious or dramatic

• Trust your gut when something feels off

• Inconsistency and lack of accountability are major warning signs

• Disguised humor can be a form of disrespect

• Boundaries matter—"no" is a complete sentence

• Sexual dynamics should always include consent and respect

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "You've got to listen to your gut."

• "No is a complete sentence."

• "Using sex as control is a red flag."

Chapters

01:00 – Real Red Flags: What Actually Matters in Relationships

19:37 – Sexual Red Flags People Downplay

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

In this episode of Carla Turned On, Carla Romo explores the importance of recognizing green flags in relationships instead of focusing only on red flags. She explains how consistency, communication, and emotional safety create trust and stability in healthy relationships.

Carla also discusses how attachment styles and past experiences can lead to relationship anxiety, and why learning healthy conflict resolution is key to long‑term connection. The conversation also touches on birth control and shared responsibility for sexual health, emphasizing the importance of open communication in relationships.

What You'll Learn

• Green flags often get overlooked but signal healthy relationships.

• Consistency and communication build trust and emotional safety.

• Feeling calm and relaxed is a positive sign in a relationship.

• Conflict is normal and can strengthen relationships when handled well.

• Accountability is essential for repairing conflict.

• Understanding attachment styles can reduce relationship anxiety.

• Birth control and sexual health should be openly discussed by both partners.

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "What are the green flags in relationships?"

• "Conflict is healthy in relationships."

• "You have to protect yourself in dating."

Chapters

02:12 – Relationship Green Flags 20:03 – Birth Control

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Why do people care so much about your relationship choices?

In this episode of Carla Turned On, Carla Romo challenges traditional relationship norms and explores how societal expectations around marriage, gender roles, sexuality, and timelines influence modern dating. She encourages listeners to think consciously about their personal choices and build relationships that align with their authentic identity.

Carla also discusses the fluidity of sexuality, the growing conversation around non‑monogamous relationships, and why judgment from others often reflects deeper insecurities. This episode invites listeners to embrace individuality, communicate openly with partners, and create relationships based on authenticity rather than pressure.

What You'll Learn

• Your relationship choices don't have to follow traditional norms.

• People's reactions often reflect their own insecurities or beliefs.

• Societal timelines can create unnecessary pressure around marriage and family.

• Feminism supports the freedom to choose your own path.

• Non‑monogamous relationships require clear communication and boundaries.

• Sexuality is fluid and personal.

• Healthy relationships are built on authenticity and acceptance.

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Sexuality is fluid."

• "Love is love."

• "No shame in the dating game."

Chapters

01:51 – Why Do People Care So Much?

15:55 – Sexuality Is Fluid — and That's Okay

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Ever felt an intense spark and wondered if it's love — or something else?

In this episode, Carla breaks down limerence, the obsessive infatuation that can feel like deep connection but is often driven by fantasy and dopamine. She explains why moving too quickly creates false certainty, how attachment styles play a role, and why intensity doesn't equal intimacy.

Carla also shares how to break free from limerence, build real emotional connection, and approach sexting in a healthy, consensual way.

What You'll Learn

• Limerence is intense infatuation fueled by fantasy and dopamine — not necessarily love.

• Moving too fast can create false certainty and blind you to red flags.

• Intensity does not equal intimacy.

• Healthy relationships are built on reality, compatibility, and emotional safety.

• Self-awareness helps you break obsessive patterns in dating.

• Sexting should be consensual, intentional, and not a substitute for real connection.

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Intensity does not equal intimacy."

• "What do I actually know about them?"

• "Make sure it's consensual."

Chapters

00:00 – Ever Have That Sparky Feeling?

02:50 – Moving Things Quickly

08:30 – What Is Limerence and How to Get Out of It

20:45 – Sexting

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Infidelity is more common than we think — and if you've been cheated on, you are not alone. In this episode, Carla dives deep into the emotional aftermath of cheating, sharing personal experiences and practical guidance on how to heal after betrayal.

She breaks down why cheating is a choice made by the partner — not a reflection of your worth — and how codependency can keep people stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. Carla also discusses rebuilding trust, recognizing red flags, and navigating sex and intimacy after infidelity.

If you're healing from betrayal, questioning your self-worth, or trying to figure out what comes next, this episode will help you move from heartbreak to empowerment.

What You'll Learn

• Cheating is a choice — it's not about your worth.

• Codependency can keep you stuck in unhealthy dynamics.

• Recognizing red flags early is crucial.

• Healing from betrayal requires time and support.

• Emotional safety is essential before rebuilding intimacy.

• Self-love and community are key to recovery.

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "You're actually not alone."

• "90% of us are codependent."

• "Cheating is not personal."

Chapters

00:00 – Have You Ever Been Cheated On?

03:34 – Carla's Story of Being Cheated On

29:07 – How to Navigate if You Were Cheated On

38:09 – Sex After Being Cheated On

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.