The Forty-One Letters and the One That Vanished
Imagine finding 41 handwritten letters, never mailed, addressed to a man who didn't exist, sitting in a snowdrift. This chilling discovery on a Minnesota road reveals a romance scam that cost a methodical structural engineer $63,400 and left him in a cardiac unit with no emergency contacts. What secrets did these letters hold, and who was watching Ross Hicks's life unravel?
In this episode, we delve into the meticulous life of Ross Hicks, a man of precise calculations who fell victim to a sophisticated romance scam. We explore the carefully constructed deception that led him to transfer tens of thousands of dollars to a non-existent structural engineer named Ronald Kowalski, and the subtle signs that a neighbor observed.
Person: Ross Hicks, Ronald Kowalski (non-existent), Amanda Rafferty, Joyce Patton, Linda Osborne, Brian Fetchko, Patricia, Megan
Date: January 14, 2019 (letters found), March 2017 (Ross joined SilverBridge), September 2017 (money began moving)
Location: Briar Siding Road, Dellwood, Minnesota; North Sea offshore platform; Donahue's Family Restaurant; Northland Federal Credit Union
Amount: $63,400
Duration: 16 months (money transfers), 11 years (Ross's divorce)
- Forty-one handwritten letters, never mailed, were found in a cardboard box on January 14, 2019.
- Ross Hicks, 54, transferred $63,400 over 16 months to a non-existent structural engineer.
- Ronald Kowalski's profile photo was stolen from Brian Fetchko, a real structural engineer in Akron, Ohio.
- Ross joined SilverBridge Connections in March 2017 at age 52.
- The first money transfer was $800, framed as an equipment issue on the offshore platform.
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