Changing Lanes

I had a great conversation a few weeks ago over one of the posts(Good Principles Compound)  that led to my post the next day(Short but important) the conversations we had around the topic just seemed so good that I wanted to share them, along with Sharing what an amazing human Steph Smith is (@stephev11)

I tend to be a big list maker. Mostly due to the fact that my thoughts are pinging around in me head at a rate that doesn’t often allow me to accomplish things in the moments that I think of them. 

A regular saw me jotting some notes on a 3X5 card I’ve started carrying with me and led into a conversation that really opened me up to some new angles of looking at the same issue. So much so that I have been super pumped on sharing. 

The comment he made, I’m sure with no idea that he would be altering how I look at life, was “what are you doing writing down ll the reasons you’re so amped up and happy” I jokingly explained I was writing down a to do list before the idea leaked out of my ear. But I started to really think about this contrast. 

I am a physically imposing person. So much so that customers will often times in passing wonder at what is wrong, what kind of upset I might be or, even if I am mad. 99% of the

A raw talk on a lot of thoughts on friendships and growing as a person through your ever expanding circle of contact

I wanted to touch on the post I put out yesterday. It was from a good place but I feel like I may have gone light on one of the most important aspects and in turn left some people with perhaps the wrong and maybe even directly opposite message of what I have been feeling. 

I truly believe in the message I put here but I’d be remiss if I left it at that. 

I’ve been really inspired by the feedback I’ve been getting but it has also given me a lot of real insight into how people will find the message they need in what are you saying. That being said clarity of my intention is really important to me. 

When I spoke about all the benefits of giving attention and truly listening I talked about what you get in return. I think I didn’t give enough time or gravity to the idea that what you are getting is right there. It’s not a matter of someone else giving it. You have to find the happiness in the giving; of attention, time, or even talents. 

If you

I know I’ve really been riding #empathy a lot lately it is just filling a lot of my thoughts and so it plays in to todays show it is just a little slice of some of what I’ve been noticing lately. 

My empathy kicked in somewhere around the 3rd or fourth time I heard this guy, younger end for being in a bar, start in about “my buddy (Kyle/Chris/Steve) said…” This guys had at this point gone a full 45 minutes without contributing a solid thought that he was wiling to attribute to himself.

Now I know I’ve seen this as a more common tactic amount much younger people. The attempt to dilute any negative reaction to an idea by attributing it to someone else. But as I gave it real thought I find myself as always looking into the psychology of peoples decision making. 

YOU ARE SO SCARED OF THE NEGATIVE JUDGEMENTS OF OTHERS  that you would rather have minimized credit for a thought provoking insight, or maybe even a BRILLIANT idea. That

Had an awesome conversation earlier this weekend at the bar with @terbear978 @xtinakuehn and @lindseyerindickmann about people they felt and people they just didn’t want to deal with but kind of had to suffer because they are friends of friends. It gave me a great opportunity to share my current mindset that has really helped me in general. 

People only fall into two categories for me. Let me first give you a raw bit of honesty…I am constantly trying to better myself so when I say this is my mindset. That isn’t a passive thing. I actively put myself into this place.

I am constantly evaluating people. I have the opportunity to meet so many people working in the bar. It just gives me a wider range of exposure. That in itself is such a blessing because of the value I can get from those interactions. 

Every time I hit that evaluation it is simple. People only really go into two holes for me. The first one is super easy. Their rad and they bring something to y

Just listen...this one is a real front he heart blah blah of fatherly pride

I had an interesting visit last night. One I am actually completely grateful for. A local woman, one who for a brief time had been a regular, came in for the first time in months and it really helped me see some of my own growth, even in such a short time. It also 

It wasn’t that long ago that I find myself talk poorly of this girl. It wasn’t a matter of anything terrible or really negative but I directly had an impact on the perception of this human being. 

She was close friends with a liquor rep we had early on and they were in often. So often in fact that she ended up sleeping with one of our bartenders. Around this same time the rep and this woman had a confrontation with a customer as well as a few other incidents where I heard back about their drunk behavior in the bar. There was also a bit of gossip going around about these two and their relationships amongst a lot of the bar employees as well s regulars in our little downtown area. 

Now it’s