Have you ever typed in a google search bar…”how do I get my child to stop crying?” or “why is my child crying so much?”
Today we are diving into the crying. What it means, why it’s beneficial, and how you can support your child through it to build your connection. And if you’re new, or you’ve forgotten, more connection = better behavior.
Here are a few key takeaways to help you understand more about your child as they work through a meltdown/tantrum/emotional expression…
So how do you actually help through this process?? With a strategy called Stay Listening.
It is very simple, but that doesn’t necessarily mean easy. Tune in as we talk more specifically about how to actually do it AND get results.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at [email protected] and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
This week, I'm challenging you to hold back your words and simply listen during a meltdown. If you accept this challenge, I’d love to hear how it goes!
XO Kaili
Do you envision this peaceful bedtime routine that is quick and easy but you end up with 3 trips to the bathroom, 5 drinks of water, 10 more hugs and kisses, begging for more stories and the repeated tucking and re-tucking in??
Today we dive into why this is and the 2 key strategies you can be implementing today to prevent the battle of the bedtime routine.
The constant requests and attempts to control what is happening is due to the buildup of feelings and emotions just under the surface that the body naturally tries to expel. By asking for another glass of water, your child is asking you to set a firm, but loving limit.
Limits + Stay Listening = Connection
Connection = minds ready and able to think
Minds ready and able to think = smoother bedtime routine and the ability to go to sleep
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at [email protected] and let's connect!
Special Time Podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
Blog post on Stay Listening: https://chaostoconnected.com/stay-listening/
Blog post on Setting Limits: https://chaostoconnected.com/setting-limits/
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
In today's episode we are talking all about labeling a child's feelings in the moment of a meltdown.
DID YOU KNOW....
Research actually shows naming feelings pulls children away from feeling their feelings?? The effort it takes to transition from what their brain was created to do (expel negative feelings/energy/experiences) to either agreeing or disagreeing with us actually stops them from focusing on releasing that feeling.
Plus, we could be labeling incorrectly!
You may be wondering, okay, then what am I supposed to do??
Listen in as we talk through 3 reasons why you don't need to label your child's feelings AND strategies to help them learn more about emotions and how to identify them.
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Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at [email protected] and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Have you ever been in the midst of a tantrum, whining, sibling fighting and found yourself at a loss of what to do?
All of the obvious things don’t necessarily yield the results you are wanting and it leaves you feeling more guilty than relieved?
Today, we are talking all about the #1 strategy I use to gain compliance or obedience during anything that is not a full blown meltdown….PLAY LISTENING.
Play is truly the work of the child and every time I have intentionally utilized it during those challenging moments it has had a 100% success rate!
As an adult, this can be challenging for several different reasons. Push through and get creative. Energy + engagement make all of the difference.
Tune in as we chat different ways to PLAY to encourage obedience and compliance in those moments when you have to get out the door or you just need a break from the conflict and chaos!
BONUS: extra ideas for those aggressive behaviors, managing behaviors amongst a larger crowd of children (a larger family, daycare, classroom ,etc), transitions, and MORE!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at [email protected] and let's connect!
Learn more about Stay Listening here: https://chaostoconnected.com/stay-listening/
Special time episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
“Flip the Switch” play ideas: https://chaostoconnected.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/FLIPTHESWITCH.pdf
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
"For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of." Matthew 12:34
Have you ever heard the phrases the "terrible twos" or "threenager"? In this episode I'm diving into why we do this and why we should reconsider. The words we speak over our children (whether they are present or not) not only impacts them, but it affects the lens to which we view their behaviors.
Behaviors are either a heart issue or in this case, most likely, a developmental progression. When we can shift our words to more positive descriptors it can truly help us to change how we maintain our own regulation and help support our children through their upsets.
"We have to be willing to have an exceptional child to have an exceptional child."
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at [email protected] and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Do you struggle with behaviors on a regular basis? There is SO much advice out there - time outs, different punishments and consequences, rewards, bribes, sticker charts, the list goes on!
But what if there was one simple thing you could do each day that didn’t require any of that?! Introducing SPECIAL TIME! In today’s episode I dive deep into what special time is (it’s different than 1:1 time) and how you can implement it into your routine no matter what season of life you are in! This tool has transformed our lives and I have received a lot of feedback on how well it is working in other momma’s lives too!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at [email protected] and let's connect!
Here is a free guide that covers the basics:
http://chaostoconnected.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/special-time-guide.pdf
I pray this encourages and blesses you! I challenge you to take the Special Time challenge and start implementing it today!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
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