The holidays bring out the best in us…and the deepest patterns in us.

If you’ve ever found yourself walking on eggshells, trying to keep everyone comfortable, or worrying about “triggering” someone at a family gathering, this episode will speak directly to your heart.

Today we’re exploring what this pattern really reveals—not about others, but about ourselves.
Because the pressure you feel during the holidays isn’t new.
It’s a lifetime of emotional patterningrising to the surface:
the fear of disappointing someone,
the instinct to keep the peace,
and the belief that your worth comes from how well you manage everyone’s experience.

In this episode, we’ll talk about:

*Why “trying not to trigger others” is actually a form of emotional over-responsibility

*How the holidays reveal old family roles and approval patterns

*The difference between connection and approval(and why only one nourishes you)

*Why your nervous system goes on high alert around certain people

*A simple shift that helps you stay connected to yourself—even in emotionally charged rooms

If the holidays feel heavy, or if you’re tired of contorting yourself to keep everyone else comfortable, this conversation will give you clarity, compassion, and relief.
Connection doesn’t come from performing.
It comes from presence.
And it begins with you.

Reflection Question:
Where do you notice yourself performing comfort for others instead of staying connected to yourself?

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Join the conversation — share your takeaways or questionsfrom today’s episode by sending me a message on Instagram or Facebook. I love hearing from you!

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You’ll learn to transform your triggers,lead with compassion, and create emotionally safe relationships built on authenticity, not approval.
Reclaim your CALM, speak your TRUTH, and live FREE.

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In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Brooke Jean— therapist turned truth-teller, speaker, and founder of Unperfected®, a methodology devoted to helping high-achieving, anxious women drop the pressure and rise in their power.

Brooke brings a rare blend of psychological depth, somatic wisdom, and real-world leadership. Her work guides women to heal perfectionism, reconnect with their bodies, and live unapologetically from their truth.

Brooke shares her incredible journey from single mom climbing the corporate ladder… to therapist… to the creator behind The Unperfected Pod.Her story takes a profound turn in 2012 when the Aurora theater shooting happened just doors down from her corporate office — a moment that cracked openher life, stripped away illusion, and awakened her to what truly matters.

Together we explore how trauma, success culture, and perfectionism shape us into who the world tells us to be — and what it looks like to come home to ourselves again.

Connect with Brooke Jean:

Instagram - @brookejeanunperfected

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-un-perfected-pod/id1668818982

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 Website: www.liveunperfected.com

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Work with Diane:
Diane Sorensen’s Coaching Programs are where boundarywork becomes the bridge from chaos to connection.
You’ll learn to transform your triggers, lead with compassion, and create emotionally safe relationships built on authenticity, not approval.
Reclaim your CALM, speak your TRUTH, and live FREE.

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If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake wondering, “Am I messing up my kids?” — you’re not alone.

In this episode, I unpack the deeper truth beneath this universal fear. You’ll learn how the worry about “messing up” isn’t really about your kids at all — it’s about your own relationship with fear, judgment, and self-worth.

Worry can feel like control. It can even masquerade as care. But beneath it, there’s often a hidden belief that your worth as a parent depends on your child’s outcomes — how they behave, perform, or turn out.

When we parent from that place, we lead from fear and shame, not love and trust. And our children feel that energy — they begin to internalize ourworry as their own pressure to be “enough.”

This is an invitation to see worry differently — not as proof of love, but as an invitation to return to self-connection, compassion, and truth.

In this episode, we explore:

*Why worry gives us a false sense of control

*How fear of judgment fuels “good parent” perfectionism

*The difference between worrying about your kids and caring for them

How to shift from control to connection — for both you and your child

Connect with Diane:
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Join the conversation — share your takeaways or questionsfrom today’s episode by sending me a message on Instagram or Facebook. I lovehearing from you!

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Diane Sorensen’s Coaching Programs are where boundarywork becomes the bridge from chaos to connection.
You’ll learn to transform your triggers,lead with compassion, and create emotionally safe relationships built on authenticity, not approval.
Reclaim your CALM, speak your TRUTH,and live FREE.

Welcome to a brand-new chapter — and the very first episode under the new name:
Chaos to Connection: Boundaries & Breakthroughs for Cycle-Breaking Women.

In this episode, I share the story behind how this name found me — not as a marketing move, but as a reflection of my own becoming.

The journey began years ago with Beauty in Behavior, back when I was still teaching. It was there that I discovered that the most challenging behaviors — whether from my students or my own children — were actually invitations to grow. These moments became my greatest teachers, shaping how I saw children, and eventually, how I saw myself.

When the podcast evolved into Beautiful Behavior, it mirroredanother layer of my growth — the one where I began noticing my own people-pleasing patterns, the ways I silenced myself to keep the peace, and how often I deferred to others instead of trusting my own wisdom.

And now, Chaos to Connection feels like the name that truly chose me — the story of my life, really. A journey that began in chaos and continues to unfold toward deeper connection, authenticity, and truth.

From the outside, not much has changed — but the energy underneath it all has. And that changes everything.

This episode is an invitation to grow together — to walk the path from chaos to connection, one courageous step at a time.

Reflection question:
Where in your life are you being invited to move from chaos to connection?

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Join the conversation — share your takeaways or questions from today’s episode by sending me a message onInstagram or Facebook. I love hearing from you!

Work with Diane:
Diane Sorensen’s Coaching Programs are where boundarywork becomes the bridge from chaos to connection.
You’ll learn to transform your triggers, lead with compassion, and create emotionally safe relationships built on authenticity, not approval.

Reclaim your CALM, speak your TRUTH, and live FREE.

→ Submit an inquiry or learn more:www.dianesorensen.net/contact

→ Explore free guides and resources to support your growth: www.dianesorensen.net/

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Something new is coming to the podcast. I'm taking a few weeks off while you enjoy some throw back episodes and I'll be back on Monday, November 3 with the new reveal.

STAY TUNED.

On this throwback episode I talk about how sibling conflicts and fighting are a normal part of development. They are also triggering for parents. 

 The building blocks of all relationships are trust and safety. The more secure children feel in their relationship with their parents the less threatening they feel with their siblings.

In this episode I discuss:
* How we can support our children during conflicts
* Becoming emotionally attuned
* The power of problem solving

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The Beautiful Behavior Programs will support you in setting firm boundaries that promote self-regulation, compassion and respect in all your relationships and parenting journey.  Reclaim your CALM, discover your TRUTH, and liveFREE. 

Something new is coming to the podcast. I'm taking a few weeks off while you enjoy some throw back episodes and I'll be back on Monday, November 3 with the new reveal.

STAY TUNED.

On this throwback episode I talk about how the seeds of “not enough” get planted.

Have you ever had the thought, “I’m not good enough?” Most of us have. The “I’m not good enough” belief is woven into the fabric of our culture. It is a lack mindset.If you think you are not enough you will never have enough – not enough time, money, sleep, energy. Not thin enough, smart enough, the list goes on and on.How do we shift a culture of not enough?

Awareness is the first key to creating a shift from “not enough” to “wholeness.”

In this episode I sat down with certified life coach and founder of Live Joy Your Way, Kamini Wood, for a powerful conversation about breaking free from the patterns of people pleasing and perfectionism.

Kamini works with high-achievers—doctors, lawyers, and professionals who appear successful on the outside but feel disconnected on the inside. Together, we explore how these old patterns of over-doing, over-giving, and over-performing often begin as coping strategies for belonging and safety… but eventually become cages that keep us from our authentic selves.

We talk about:
*Why high-achievers often fall into people-pleasing and perfectionism
*The deeper emotional roots behind “performing” for approval
*What it really means to heal your relationship with yourself
*The role of self-compassion and self-trust in breaking free
*How to redefine success and live from authenticity instead of achievement

Kamini’s grounded wisdom reminds us that true confidence and freedom aren’t found in doing more—they’re found in remembering who we are beneath the performance.

Connect with Kamini Wood:
🌐 livejoyyourway.com
📱 Instagram: @itskaminiood
📘 Book: Live Joy Your Way

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The Beautiful Behavior CoachingPrograms will support you in setting firmboundaries that promote self-regulation, compassion and mutual respect in all your relationships and parenting journey.  Reclaim your CALM, discover your TRUTH, and live FREE. 

This week, I welcome October—one of my favorite months—and reflect on why this season always feels like a fresh start. But I also share how the holidays, family gatherings, and “good behavior” in my childhood masked a much deeperstory: my mother’s resentment, silence, and martyrdom.

Like so many women, she took care of everyone else’s needs while ignoring her own. That resentment spilled out in anger—and I passed on those same patterns to my own children.

In this episode, I explore:

*Why expecting others to know or meet our needs is a form of enmeshment.

*How boundary work is really about knowing and meeting our own needs.

*Why saying what you mean (even if it creates conflict) builds deeper connection.

*How approval-seeking from our children keeps us stuck in old patterns.

*The truth that cooperation comes through connection, notcontrol.

*How boundaries and emotional regulation go hand in hand.

This is about more than parenting—it’s about breaking generational patterns of silence, resentment, and martyrdom so we can create relationships rooted in truth, connection, and freedom.

Key takeaway: What you don’t own, owns you. Boundaries are not walls—they’re the path to deeper connection.

✨ Resources & Next Steps:

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The Beautiful Behavior CoachingPrograms will support you in setting firm boundaries that promote self-regulation, compassion and mutual respect in all your relationships and parenting journey.  Reclaim your CALM, discover your TRUTH, and live FREE. 

What happens when the version of success you’ve been chasing no longer fits the life you're living?

In this episode, I sit down with Lindsey Wagnon—entrepreneur, pastor’s wife, girl mom, and host of the Savvy Startup Marketer podcast—to talk aboutwhat it means to rewrite the rules of motherhood, career, and identity.

Lindsey shares the pivotal moment when becoming a mother made her realize the corporate ladder she’d been climbing no longer aligned with the life she wanted to build. So she stepped off, walked away from a corporate career, and began creating a business—one intentional piece at atime—that allowed her to stay home with her baby and continue growing professionally.

Together, we explore:

*The myth of the “good mom” and how to rewriteyour own definition of motherhood

*What it takes to trust yourself in the face ofchange

*How visibility and vulnerability are necessaryparts of both business and life

*Why self-trust is a muscle every mother—and woman—can build

This is a conversation about alignment, agency, and asking a powerful question: What kind of mom (and woman) do I want to be?

Whether you’re an entrepreneur or not, this episode will leave you feeling seen, inspired, and reminded that life is our business—and we get to build it our way.

Connect with Lindsey:
https://www.instagram.com/lindseywagnonmarketing/

The Savvy Startup Marketer podcast - https://lindseywagnon.com/podcast

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The Beautiful Behavior Coaching Programs will support you in setting firm boundaries that promote self-regulation, compassion and mutual respect in all your relationships and parenting journey.  Reclaim your CALM, discoveryour TRUTH, and live FREE. 

We often see the eye roll as defiance, attitude, or disrespect—especially from teens.
But what if we can see it from another angle, something deeper?

🙄 In today’s episode, you’ll hear:

*What an eye roll might actually be expressing beneath the surface

*How adults leak resentment the same way

*A personal story about what my tone was really saying when I kept saying yes out of obligation

*Why resentment shows up when we abandon ourselves

*How curiosity (not correction) is key to deeper connection

This episode is an invitation to slow down, get curious, and respond to your relationships with more presence and truth.

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