I hope this doesn't read as a baby update (haha). There's no baby! But this is definitely a baby-sized episode. Tons of stuff going on this week with work and life, and so, there's not a ton here. Just know that I'm still around and I'll be back next week with a new episode! 

This week I chat with Nat Smith, who is a creativity and connection coach, and we dive into the Enneagram! After I got my divorce, I realized that I didn't know much about who I was. The Enneagram was such a helpful tool in helping me to understand more about myself and why I do what I do. It gave me more of an empathetic look at who I am and a more empathetic understanding of others and their personalities. Nat explores each Enneagram number and lends so much info about how the Enneagram came to be and how we can use it in our lives! 

Do you know your enneagram number? 

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What is dating as an adult? Why is it the worst? Ha! I've come to realize that dating is a necessary evil that comes with trying to meeting new people. But also, the apps. Why??????

Mindfulness! It's the best. I incorporate my mindfulness practice around making coffee in the morning. And the practice has changed my life! Do you practice mindfulness? 

This week I talk about 6 things that predict divorce! This is all work done by the Gottmans. Do you know about Drs. John and Julie Gottman? They're the OG experts on marriage and predictors of divorce. They've studied couples for 40 years and have narrowed down things that make a marriage successful and things that contribute to the relationship's demise. Pretty cool stuff! In fact, Dr. John Gottman can predict divorce within the first few minutes of seeing a couple's interactions. 

I want to learn about the mistakes I made in my past relationships, but I also want to improve so that I can be a better communicator and future partner! 

Find me on IG @soIgotdivorced. 

Do you wonder sometimes about how you wound up in your situation? How you could have chosen your ex to be married to, to get divorced from, and are questioning things? I WAS TOO. I remember a therapy session where I was crying, wondering how stupid I could have been to have married my ex. To be fair, my ex was making my life difficult. But my therapist was compassionate and she helped me to reframe many of the thoughts I had about myself and my situation. And they kind of changed my life. This week, I look at a couple of statements and reframes for them. 

Do you have a question that's lingering in your mind about your situation or your divorce? Send me a DM on IG @soIgotdivorced! I'll help you reframe it. (lol, Ice Ice Baby just went through my head "if you got a question, yo, I'll reframe it". 

Find me on IG and the TikToks or email me. @soIgotdivorced, @soIgotdivorced, [email protected] 

Sending you so much love this week. 

I'm highlighting other women and their divorce stories. This week, Kimberly Wright, shares her divorce stories! This was a really vulnerable and honest conversation about her experience and how she parented her twin boys through the process. 

Kimberly is starting her own podcast called, Break Up and Break Free, that is launching soon! 

Follow Kimberly's Break Up and Break Free Facebook page and follow Kimberly on Instagram @breakupandbreakfree. 

I recorded this episode in December! It was supposed to go live right before Christmas, but I had some other thoughts on my mind at the time. Ignore all of the holiday related talk and just replace "Christmas" with "New year"! :) 

I share two visualizations that helped me get through my divorce. One was imagining my divorce and everything I was going through as a small blip or thread in my tapestry of life. The other was imagining my life as an impenetrable fortress where I could decide who I let in and when. 

 Email is the second best thing after snail mail! Send me an email to say hi, to chat, or ask me a question at [email protected].

You can find me on IG @soIgotdivorced and TikTok @soIgotdivorced.

Join my Facebook group called, So, I Got Divorced. It’s a group where you can find support and solidarity. Search for the group, So, I Got Divorced, and click to join!

You are enough, you are worthy, and you are loved!

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