Chat & Chew with Cindy

Having a "tough" conversation takes a lot of emotional energy, commitment, and WORK.

Some things that you may consider are:

Timing and WHO you're trying to converse with.  Honesty is a MUST.  Be sure to keep it confidential and avoid posting on SOCIAL MEDIA.  

Warn the person BEFOREHAND, instead of ambushing people or acting out of anger and frustration.  Don't take the results personal or hold a grudge later.  

Remember that EXPECTATIONS are a killer!  Make sure that you have the right attitude, because this is a great opportunity and a BLESSING!  

The ability to reconcile, resolve, solve and/or RELEASE what ails you is not common.  Be grateful and move on after!

To preserve  = to prevent from spoiling and decaying.  Prepared for FUTURE use, kept in tact, or in a particular condition.

Things that I have committed to PRESERVING and not letting them "go bad":  

1) Energy  

2) Vitality

3) Body

4) Relationship with God

5) Emotions 

6) Peace 

7) Wellbeing  

Things that I am committed to USING wisely:

1) Time

2) Money

3) Possessions 

4) Talents

5) Strength 

Allowing things to BE what they ARE can be LIFE-CHANGING.  Some of the things that we can do that can help us to grow and obtain the things we REALLY want:

1) Stop WORRYING

2) Build FINANCIAL/BUSINESS literacy

3) Maintain FRUITFUL RELATIONSHIPS

4) Shift your EXPECTATIONS

5) Stop HOARDING things you don't need, want, or use anymore

6) PROTECT yourself (emotionally, socially, etc.) 

7) Stop WAITING for people/things - missing out on things because you're waiting for someone to show up/not using items

8) Stop NEGLECTING valuable items - keeping things maintained, cleaned, etc., and caring about them so that they can have longevity

9) Value your TIME - learn how to set and keep boundaries, and shut down when needed to maintain your personal wellness

10) Deal with your EMOTIONAL insecurities  - speak up for yourself, be honest, and don't stuff your emotions just to keep the peace

 What has 2022 taught you about YOU???  What do you want to see happen in your life in 2023?  

Why does certain things go "viral" while other, more important things, get ignored?  

How do we avoid discouragement when all of our hard work seems to go unnoticed?

Going "viral" is not a sign of good work or value.  

We must keep on working hard, doing the things the we love and feel called or gifted to do, REGARDLESS of if we ever get noticed.

SELF LOVE is the BEST love that you can have.  When you don't love yourself, you can NEVER be truly HAPPY!

What does Self-Love LOOK like?  

When you have Self-Love:

1) You have CONTENTMENT.  To be content is to have happiness even if you NEVER get something that you've longed for.

2) You are CONFIDENT - no need to blast it on social media.

3) You are CALM - no noise and chaos on the inside or on the outside.

4) You are in CONTROL.  You are methodical and walk according to YOUR plan.

5) Your energy and attitude is CONTAGIOUS!

Fall in LOVE with YOURSELF!

What are the NON-Negotiables in your life?  Consider setting boundaries around things regarding your:

1) Worth

2) Time 

3)  Core values

 4) Desires to please others

 5) Things you accept/make excuses for  

Remember, You get what you negotiate for   

This is both FREEING & emotionally LIBERATING, and the real test of LIVING IN YOUR TRUTH!

FEAR - False evidence appearing real.

According to Psychology Today, the most common fears are: Flying, Public Speaking, Heights, Darkness, Intimacy, Death, Failure, Rejection, Spiders, and Commitment.  I would add fear of: Falling, Sickness, Germs, Harmed, Success, and Crowds.

There are levels of fear (Trepidation, Nervousness, Anxiety, Dread, Desperation, Panic, Horror, Terror). 

Fear can be DEBILITATING and humiliating.   

WHERE can it come from?  Experiences,  Parents, etc.  

What it's really about is the loss of control - but we were born FEARLESS!

How can you manage?  Reverse Talk/Logical conversations with self/others.  Breathe.  Plan for the worst possible outcome.  Pray.  Recite scriptures. 

What things are you going to COMMIT to working on in the upcoming year?

Holiday season is a common time to be sad.  In this time of uncertainty (economically, socially, politically, etc.), it can be difficult to be THANKFUL.  

How do you combat that?  GIVE THANKS, anyway.....