Cheaters IRL Podcast

Episode 16 Part 1:

Why people stay after cheating is discovered. We discuss the most common reason people stay in a marriage after discovering their spouse has cheated.

If a cheating spouse has left to be with someone else, how does a spouse go about getting them to come home? What difficulties does this create? How does a cheated-on spouse handle this scenario?

Conflict Avoiders Create Conflict. Conflict Avoiders are not peacemakers. They actually have a tendency to create a lot of conflict, they avoid the consequence of dealing with the problems they create. But they, not only tend to create a lot of problems, they tend to take actions that make those problems as bad as possible before the spouse inevitably finds out. They then blame their spouse for their avoidance but it's actually a quirk of their personality. It's not the spouse's fault that they hid problems or information until a critical point was reached.

Episode 15 Part 2: Gaslighting versus Lying; Chad and Amy the Fallout from Confirmation of Cheating

The Intro describes the difference between gaslighting and just ordinary lying

Amy's response to learning for certain that Chad has been cheating. The effects of gaslighting highly drive how Amy responds.

Discussing Amy's mother's claim that if Amy left Chad, she would just be “trading one set of problems for another.” 

Is divorce essentially trading one set of problems for another?

Michelle’s attitude toward Danny, specifically her attitude that #1) She didn’t have to be faithful to him because he didn’t satisfy her in bed and #2) That they had “grown apart.” These are insincere excuses and we’ll discuss why in this episode.

Raquel’s impression that something bad was going to happen, finally leading her to want to end her marriage - instead of the abundance of evidence of cheating being her impetus for leaving. 

Episode 14 Part 2: Summary of All 6 Stories Up to Now 

Summary of All 6 Stories up to the point of the cheated-on partner accepting and confirming that they have, in fact, been cheated on. 

Patterns of Cheating are common in most cases, these 6 stories represent common patterns.

Episode 14 Part 1: Evidence of Cheating: How do you know if your partner is cheating?

Episode 13 Part 2: Raquel & Kyle Confirmation of Cheating

Episode 13 Part 1: Listen to your Head, Your Heart is an idiot

Episode 12 Part 2: Danny & Michelle Confirmations of Cheating

Episode 12 Part 1: Motivations for Lying, Effect of Images Popping into the Cheated-On Spouse's Mind

Episode 11 Part 2: Jeff & Tanya Confirmation of Cheating