Chik Chat

I recently had a conversation with my aunt where I asked how she built a business empire whilst being the oldest sibling. Her answer didn’t give me the comfort I had hoped for until I realised that my path is MY path. I have been taught as best as I can by the most amazing women so it is on me to take the parts that resonate and do the work I need to do to live a happy life.

I have talked a lot about my healing journey however, the guilt isn’t something I really talk about because my story isn’t like others. I am really close to my immediate family and that won’t change - that doesn’t however mean two truths can’t occur at the same time.

In this episode of the Chik Chat podcast, I talk about letting go of that guilt and why I’m choosing to try.

I hope you enjoy it!

Talking about mental health takes a lot of vulnerability and doing something about your mental health takes a lot of strength. I decided to go back because G went back for the sake of us having a stronger relationship. His strength pushed me to want to be better for myself and for us.

Going to therapy the first time around took a strength in me I didn’t know I had and this time around, I’ve decided to go back to therapy to keep fighting for a life I know I’m destined for even if it isn’t clear.

I’m so excited to look back at this moment and know it led to something special - I’m even more excited to take you lot on this journey of discovering a Chikumo that unapologetically thinks bigger.

As children we were told if we went to uni we would get a good job and then when we were growing up we were told a masters would set us apart from the rest but for some of us that wasn’t the case.

In this episode of the Chik Chat podcast, myself & Adesola talk about our experiences of both coming out of uni with a corporate job. Whilst I was made redundant, that has allowed Adesola the opportunity to have a job - funny how the world works…

Growing up in England we didn’t really know much about Irish history but at the same time, as a black British-Zambian, it has also been a familiar story as I’ve learned it. 

In this episode of the Chik Chat podcast, I am joined by Maureen who I met online before fate brought us together in a short film celebrating black hair and black female empowerment. In my journey of searching for my authentic self, I am so lucky to have met and been inspired by Maureen and I really hope you enjoy this episode!

Maureen was born in Kenya and has been on the island of Ireland for over two decades mostly in Dublin. She has a BSc in clinical physiology and a Master's of Divinity. She is currently doing a counselling course while home-educating her three boys. Maureen speaks up against racism, childhood trauma and church abuse on her TikTok, IG and FB. She is passionate about breaking generational trauma and raising confident and emotionally healthy kids. 

So many people think just because you have a following online means you plaster all of your life on there - you’d be wrong. Not everything you see on social media is real so here are a few things you might not know about myself and G.

Let me know if you want to know more!

Starting a business is hard, running a business is hard and doing this in a new country is harder than you can imagine! Luckily for me and Jess, we don’t need to imagine because we’ve done it!

In this episode of the Chik Chat podcast we talk about starting businesses against our dads guidance, moving to Northern Ireland and the power of loving our hair.

I really hope you enjoy this episode because we have so much more to share over the coming weeks and months!

You can support Jess’ cause via the link below.

@besundries_hairandbeauty

It’s that time of year where most of us want to give up on our goals, however I seem to have found a few hacks and ways to trick myself into consistency so I thought I’d share them with you in the hopes they help you too!

How are you doing with your goals 👀

What do you get when you mix a firstborn daughter with a man who gives her a soft life? Systems so she can be a better lover girl 🤣

In all seriousness, whilst I’ve taken my goal to get G to retire at 38 very seriously, I have been feeling a bit anxious about how much I’ve taken charge. Whilst clients hire me to sort them out, I’ve been called OTT so I have been worrying it’s been a bit much for G.

In this episode of the Chik Chat podcast, we have a check-in and see how G feels about me organising our lives - it was not what I expected 👀

Did you know I’m a pregnant divorcee? Neither did I! 👀

Being a content creator/influencer opens you up to a lot of scrutiny from people that think they know you AND THEN there’s the other side of it where people make up actual lies about you. 

I was recently targeted by a podcast bro (if you know, you know) and it reminded me of a few things:

1. The internet can be a dangerous place
2. It’s on us to be educated on topics and by that I mean read, use multiple sources, ask questions - don’t just believe what every Tom, Dick & Harry tells you (especially if they delete comments that don’t match their agenda)
3. Don’t chase the dream of being a content creator if you don’t know yourself/haven’t done the work on being comfortable with who you are because it can affect your mental health so much
4. Black women get hated on just for being happy so do you and ignore the haters 
5. My healing journey and soft life has bothered a man so much he felt the need to waste his life giving idiotic “relationship advice” 
6. I have the best community and have been reminded why I create the content I do 

Whilst the internet can be a dangerous place, it also allows for people to transform their lives and I will always be an advocate for that. Myself and G actually started the Black And White Thinking podcast to show you can have a healthy and respectful debate without making up a load of crap so check that out and let us know if you want us to cover any specific topics.

I love meeting other creatives but when those other creatives also happen to be Zambian, it’s so exciting! I’ve followed Sam for years and he has inspired me to get back to vlogs. From humour to creativity, Sam has it all!

A little more about Sam:

My name is Sam but I go by the name Big Sam on social media. I was born and raised in Zambia but I’m currently living in the US. I am 25 years old and I’m currently pursuing a career in content creation.

My socials are:

Instagram: @big_sam._

TikTok: bigsam14..s

YouTube: BigSam14