Children of Divorce

Ok, so you gain the weight. And you feel so much more free around food. But why do you still get those thoughts? Why does that voice find its way in somehow? How are we supposed to cope with bad body image days when we are barely recovering from an eating disorder? I wish I could tell you exactly what to do, but I can't, I can only tell you exactly what I feel.

In today's episode, I speak about the aftermath of recovering from an eating disorder, from how I manage bad days to how I navigate my relationships with people who have eating disorders, we cover a lot this episode. And of course there is always time for our usual chitchat; if anyone wants to know, I disclose my summer plans as well at the end! 

I appreciate you all so much, thanks for listening to another episode of 'Children of Divorce'. I hope you're doing well and you're safe, if you're not, I know it will change for you one day. Hold on. Big kiss everyone xxx Lydia 

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Anyone else been down the deep dark well of calorie counting? Oh it's not fun. Counting every single calorie you put in your body, even if it's a piece of gum. Trying to push your lunch and dinner to as late as possible so you'll somehow wake up less hungry the next day? Restricting yourself so much that you are so fucking hungry that you then eat everything and more, and then for those of you that are fellow bulimics, you make yourself sick after. It’s hard out here. 

In today’s episode, I speak about my experience with an eating disorder and calorie counting.  How did it take over my life? How did my eating disorder look like? How did I get out of it? I’m not here to be angry with you if you are still engaged in eating disorder behaviours - I know how hard it is, especially when you feel so stuck. I’m just here to share my story and I hope that you find some reassurance in it - if I can get out, you can too. 

I love you all and I’m so proud of you for getting through the day. It’s hard. You work so hard to just live. One day it will make sense, one day it will mean something. One day you will have peace, and one day the pain will leave. You got this. Thanks for coming here today. Look after yourselves as best as you can and I’ll speak to you in the next episode. XXX Lydia 

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Anyone else frustrated? Anyone else feel like they've been waiting so long....for love, for a new opportunity, for a new career, for an upgrade from the life that they've been living? I'm here to say I know the feeling, I've lived it. I've spent years thinking I can't do this for another day only to have to say that to myself the next day again, and again, and again.

It's not that we aren't trying. It's not that we aren't putting ourselves out there. It's not that we're not good enough. it's not that we're not pretty enough. IT'S NOT US! And that's the hard truth to face. It's out of our control. So the only option we have is to sit and be patient. How on God's green earth are we meant to be patient though?

I wish I had a simple fix for you. I wish I had the answers. But I hope you find some solace in the fact that it's not just you, and also, that is get's better, that things do change! That you aren't waiting for nothing, that you are waiting for something REAL.

Thanks as always for listening, I appreciate you guys so much. ALL THE LOVE! XXX Lydia

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Sometimes life feels like this boulder we are pushing up the hill, and it doesn't get easier, it actually get's harder because we are more tired and we don't have as much energy as we did when we started.

Well in today's episode we cover that feeling, how I survived, how I know thing's get better, and also all the stuff in between. From my dire love life to my college drama to SENDING THE TEXT (GO SEND IT NOW), we cover it all.

As always, I appreciate you guys so much and thank you for tuning into another episode. Episode are now coming out every Friday due to my summer schedule. Love you guys BIG KISS XXX LYDIA

‘Children of Divorce’ is available wherever you get your podcasts, including Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube

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Oh guys, I know it's hard out here. To those of you entering your freshman year of college/living it, I see you soldiers. You are very brave and I am sending virtual pats on the back because it is not for the weak!

In today's episode, first of all, we are joined by my very good friend, Dani. Dani has been so supportive of me with all of my endeavours and I wouldn't have been able to do any of this without her - alongside that, she's very wise & has so many amazing insights which she shares in today's episode. We cover everything to do with college - from friendship to parties to feeling awkward and alone, as well as a little bit of boys - but only a little bit because today we tried to pass the Bechdel test!

I hope you guys enjoy the episode - it was so much fun to film. Thank you as always for listening - I genuinely appreciate any ounce of support I get and it means the world to me.

All my love, XXX Lydia

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Oh my goodness, I am writing this whilst having had LITERALLY the most embarrassing night of my life. Guys I literally flirted so hard with this one guy and it went nowhere and everyone saw me just going for this man and I am so embarrassed now, might have to put this episode on repeat for the foreseeable future.

But the point of this episode is, embarrassment is normal. It appears everywhere and we can't avoid it, but we can avoid letting the fear of embarrassment stop us. Today I did not let the fear of embarrassment stop me, and it was a horrible terrible experience. But I will get up and try again tomorrow. Day by day, battle by battle. We'll be fine my soldiers. Big kiss. XX Lydia

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Throughout my life I've felt too much for people - too loud, too talkative, too big, too small, too energetic, too ridiculous, just too much. I starved myself and made myself smaller, I tried to squash my personality so I would blend in more. I tried to dress like everyone I saw and keep up with all the girls at school. I stressed myself out financially because I felt like I didn't belong in the right social class. I destroyed my body and smoked cigarettes and did everything I could over the years to 'fit in', only to finally realise that I was good enough exactly as who I was.

The only thing sustainable is to be yourself guys. Be you and you'll attract what's right for you. You're perfect as you are. You are absolutely imperfectly perfect and I am so proud of you.

BE YOU! BE YOU! BE YOUUUU!!! Lots of love, Lydia XXX

‘Children of Divorce’ is available wherever you get your podcasts, including Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube

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I'm the first to understand how hard bad body image days can be - believe me! But secondly, I made this episode to remind you (and myself) that:

a) they are temporary

b) a healthy body is more important than anything else

c) just because everyone else is doing something/aspiring for a certain physique, doesn't mean they should or that it's right!

Remember guys, find a body that works for you, not a body that you work for.

All my love, Lydia Xx

‘Children of Divorce’ is available wherever you get your podcasts, including Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube

Find me on TikTok & Instagram under @childrenofdivorcepod and @lydianathenson

The path to our dreams is never linear. 

In today's episode, I discuss all things about my college application journey, and I don't hold back at all! Here is the truth guys - it was messy, and went so wrong and so bad at times and I was so distressed, but I ended up ok.

To those of you out there who are either starting their college apps or thinking about them, or maybe you have already done them but are still recovering, you are going to be ok. It's always ok in the end. Even when things are so messy and unclear and you have no idea where you are going to go or how life will end up, it will be ok. I hope you find comfort in my story, I hope you can see that I made it out alive and you too will. I hope I help. I hope you find some peace. I hope that you take whatever pressure there is off your shoulders - there is no need to stress because the things that are meant for you will find you.

All my love, Lydia

‘Children of Divorce’ is available wherever you get your podcasts, including Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube

Find me on TikTok & Instagram under @childrenofdivorcepod and @lydianathenson

Hey everyone! Thank you so much for joining Carolina and I - she's the best, right?! Today's episode was so much fun to film, and even funnier to watch back. I really do hope you enjoy it.

In the episode, Carolina and I spoke through our 'Healthy Friendship List' which we made the second time we hung out. I'm down to post the list on instagram if you guys want to see it, but don't worry, it will be coming to bookstores near you at some point in the future...

Both of us haven't had serious relationships, but we have had about 30 friendships, which is something we bonded over. This time around, we're trying something different with friendship, demonstrated by our 'Healthy Friendship List.' From feeling like your friends don't care about you, to over(and under!)communicating, this list covers it all.

Now, I'm not saying that you have to go and make a friendship list with every person you see - this was an abnormal circumstance and somehow, it just worked...but I do think some of the stuff we brought up today is food for thought. How do you want to be treated in a friendship? How do you want to show up for your friends? All things to ponder when one has the time! But, remember, we're not perfect, friends aren't perfect, it's never going to be 'perfect,' but it can be beautiful and wonderful, and you can make amazing connections with people that you meet on a random Thursday in a park :)

Thanks again for listening, all my love and appreciation, Lydia XXX

PS: and thank you to my wonderful queen, Carolina, for joining us today - she was fantastic!

‘Children of Divorce’ is available wherever you get your podcasts, including Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube

Find me on TikTok & Instagram under @childrenofdivorcepod and @lydianathenson