While divorce is painful for the couple, it can haunt the children caught in the middle for a lifetime. Author of Helping Children Survive Divorce, Dr. Arch Hart, was traumatized at the age of 12 when his parents divorced. As a therapist, he first advises parents to be honest with their kids about why they’re divorcing. Second, parents should seek healing quickly since it’s difficult to give kids First Aid when you’re bleeding yourself. Third, invite kids to talk about their emotions. Arch encourages those in the midst of a divorce to make great effort to maintain as much normalcy as possible for the children’s sake.