If you do not like change and get paralyzed by indecision when you have to consider choices and make decisions you probably won’t feel too comfortable with this article and podcast because it involves the inevitability of change and how the forces of change compel us to change even when we don’t want to. This is not out of our control but remember we are guided by our soul mission and when we resist change we’re engaged in a battle between the ego and the soul and that is rarely pleasant. 

What compels us to make changes in our life? Sometimes it is what other people do and the choices that they make.  I have counseled many clients who were going about their daily lives and then they had to make changes because their partner cheated on them, or left, or died, or made a choice that they could not align with and the change had to occur.

Sometimes we change when we have had enough of a situation and one day we decide we’re done with the status quo.

Other times we decide we’re going to change and we go for it, only to find that we didn’t choose wisely because we didn’t get the outcome we wanted. Is that the truth or did we try to choose something we were not aligned with or could not create or we are in the habit of second guessing every choice. 

When we second guess our actions it’s from the point of completion, after the change has been made. We forget our thoughts, mindset, and beliefs at the time we were considering that action. At the time it was probably the most obvious action, the only action we would consider, or the only action that we thought had any chance of success. Later, when we have different options available to us, we think we made a wrong choice but we didn’t. We made the right choice at that time.

If we look at change we have to look at the path of change and that has 4 parts, 

             Beliefs

             Potential

             Possibilities

            Consequences

If we’re going to make a change our belief system has to support it or it just won’t happen. Do you ever wonder why you procrastinate a lot when you try to make a decision? It’s because the choices you are considering are not aligned with your belief system. There is another reason that I’ll talk about in a few minutes. But first you have to consider what you believe about your choices if you have trouble taking action. 

We need to believe that we can successfully act on our choices to be successful. Otherwise, we won’t have any confidence and we won’t make any changes. 

We need to see some kind of positive, uplifting, fulfilling, and satisfactory potential in the change or we won’t do it because it will be like stepping in a black hole. Why would we upset our lives in that way if we are not going to have any idea how the outcomes that we are creating are going to create change that we like and can live with.

The possibilities of our potentials is critical because no matter how much potential something has, if we do not believe that it is possible, it won’t happen. Someone could tell you that you have the ability to be a trapeze artist but if you are afraid of heights it won’t happen, it just won’t be possible. 

It is important to explore our possibilities as we set intentions and open the path to change because without the alignment of our possibilities we won’t allow change to happen. No matter how exciting the potential may be, if there is not a matching possibility in our belief system, we will not do it.

And then there is our good friend, consequences. We do not think about consequences very much, or only when we have an accident or something happens to us. We call those consequences and yet consequences are part of every change and choice, every decision, and every action we take. Every action has a consequence, which is also a universal law, the Law of Cause and Effect.

Believe it or not, because it is true, consequences are what we use to decide on our choices, actions, changes, the paths we will take, and the potentials that we will allow to manifest. We base every decision on consequences and that includes what others do, say, and think about us and what we’re doing.

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