Episode One of Chronically Over It is live.

This isn’t a podcast about personal branding pivots or “how I rebuilt my life in 5 steps” advice. It’s about being smack in the middle of the mess—mid-sob, mid-spiral, mid-unraveling—and choosing to show up anyway.

In this first episode, I’m talking about the myth of having your shit together and why chasing that fantasy might actually be what’s making you feel broken. Because let’s be real—most of us are just trying to stay afloat in a world that rewards polish and punishes honesty. And I don’t want to play that game anymore.

I talk about the grief of starting over. The discomfort of disappointing people who were attached to your old identity. The kind of tired that comes not from doing too much, but from performing too much.

This episode is me cracking open the myth of the “put-together” version of myself I spent years trying to become—and finally admitting she never actually existed. She was a survival strategy. A coping mechanism dressed up as a success story.

So if you’re the type who’s tired of pretending, who spirals at 2 p.m., who forgets to eat, who’s rebuilding slower than you’d like—this episode is for you.

You don’t need a rebrand.You don’t need a new planner.You might just need space to tell the f*cking truth.

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We’re in the middle together.That counts for something.

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to the brave thing,

You ever spiral so subtly that it doesn’t even register as a spiral until you're elbow-deep in your Notes app, trying to cross-reference your childhood trauma with your current mood like you're prepping for an emotional thesis defense? Yeah. That was me this week.

In this episode of Chronically Over It, I’m unpacking the sneakiest coping mechanism so many of us “emotionally intelligent” girlies fall back on: intellectualizing our feelings instead of actually feeling them.

It looks like growth. It sounds like self-awareness. It feels like you're nailing the healing thing. But really? You’re narrating your emotions like a detached tour guide instead of living in your body with them. You’re writing essays on your grief instead of grieving. You’re mapping your anger’s origin story instead of just… being mad.

And look—I’m the queen of frameworks. I love finding the perfect phrase that captures exactly what I’m going through. But sometimes, I use language to create distance. If I can define it, I don’t have to feel it. But the truth is? Healing doesn’t happen in the head. It happens in the body.

In this episode, I talk about:

* What it looks like when self-awareness becomes avoidance

* Why women especially struggle to express anger without shame

* How to catch yourself intellectualizing instead of embodying

* And why the real flex is letting yourself feel the thing you’ve spent your whole life avoiding

I also share the moment I screamed in a U-Haul van (with a friend’s full consent) because I needed to let it out, and how that moment became a weird, beautiful turning point in learning to feel safe with my own emotions.

So if you’re tired of being emotionally intelligent but emotionally exhausted, this one’s for you. You don’t need another coping tool—you need a soft place to land.

→ Go listen, then send this to the friend who hasn’t cried in six years but can quote Brené Brown verbatim. They need it.

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Episode Two of Chronically Over It is live.

If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, “Cool, now what do I do with THAT?”—same. Especially in therapy I can’t tell you how many times I feel like I can not work through one more trauma wound.

In this episode, I talk about the sneaky, relentless urge to “improve” ourselves into worthiness. The voice that tells us our peace is on the other side of being more disciplined, more healed, more emotionally regulated, more [insert exhausting checkbox here].

And let’s be honest—it’s not just hustle culture. It’s that deep internal programming that makes us believe love, rest, and gentleness have to be earned.

I get into how my own late ADHD diagnosis cracked that open for me. I spent years treating my identity like a never-ending group project with invisible deadlines. Always chasing a “better” version of myself that—spoiler alert—didn’t exist.

What I’m starting to realize (and say out loud in this episode) is that self-worth doesn’t come from becoming more palatable or impressive. It comes from stopping long enough to ask, “Who told me I wasn’t enough before?”

Maybe you don’t need to reframe it. Maybe you don’t need a new plan.Maybe you’re just tired.And the most honest thing you can do is stop performing long enough to hear what you actually need.

This episode is a reminder that rest is not a reward. Growth is not a checklist. And you don’t need to be inspiring to be worthy of love.

🎧 Episode Two is live: Listen on Spotify or Apple, or anywhere you listen to podcasts!📌 Save it for the next time you spiral and try to solve it with a new routine.

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You're not broken.You're just not a machine.

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to the brave thing,

Chronically Over It is the anti-performative personal development space for neurodivergent, burnt-out humans who are tired of doing life by someone else’s blueprint. Created by Cait—a late-diagnosed ADHD multi-hyphenate who’s reinvented herself more times than she can count—the podcast and platform challenge the noise of self-help culture by replacing it with radical honesty, self-trust, and the freedom to begin again.

We don’t do curated content.

We don’t glorify hustle.

We don’t pretend failure isn’t part of the process.

We unravel, rewire, and reimagine what success, growth, and identity actually look like in real life—not just on the internet.

Chronically Over It is where healing gets loud, failure gets reframed, and the mess becomes the most powerful part of your story.

New Episodes drop every Thursday (at least that's the hope) k, ttyl, bye!