Episode 75: Life Update, A New Season, and Building a Sustainable Path

Yay, we made it to Episode 75!

In this solo episode, I’m giving you a real-life update — from navigating motherhood and lupus to the behind-the-scenes work of building something new for you.

I share:

• What’s really been going on in my life lately (yes, toddler HFMD, lupus, and all the things 🫠).

• Why planning isn’t just about productivity — it’s about healing, growth, and creating a life that’s actually sustainable.

• Details about the new Chronically Planned Community launching this fall — a soft, healing-centered space with step-by-step accountability and access to not just me, but also some of your favorite experts from the podcast.

• A simple 3-question Fall Reset Practice you can use right now to close out the year with clarity and grace.

This isn’t just an update — it’s a vision for where we’re going next, and I’d love for you to be part of it. 💜

Links Mentioned in This Episode:
👉🏽 Subscribe to my newsletter for updates + early access to the new community
👉🏽 Follow me on Instagram: @lupusspeaks
👉🏽 Visit my website: chronicallyplanned.com

Link to Book Mentioned in Episode:

A Happy Pocket Full Of Money

Infinite Health and Abundance in the Here and Now

By: David Cameron Gikandi

Thank you Holly for your testimonial today.

If this episode encouraged you, share it with another warrior who needs a reminder that healing is part of the plan too.

Wellness isn’t about chasing perfection—it’s about building rhythms that last.

In this week’s episode of Chronically Planned Podcast, I’m joined by Karin & Chris from The Invisible Strength Podcast to talk about sustainable wellness, invisible strength, and creating rhythms that actually fit your life.

We cover:

• Why invisible strength matters more than what people see on the outside

• Small, practical ways to create wellness practices that last

• How story-sharing and community can heal beyond checklists

This is for every mother, warrior, or builder trying to balance chronic illness, family, and life with compassion.

🔗 Connect with Karin & Chris

• 🎧 Listen to The Invisible Strength Podcast: Apple Podcasts

• 🌐 Explore free wellness tools: InvigorateYourJourney.com

💜 Stay Connected with Shedrica

• Instagram: @lupusspeaks

• Join the Inner Circle waitlist:

If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend who needs a reminder of their invisible strength—and don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss a new conversation.

What happens after you’ve done the work to “become her”? I’m fresh from the Podcast Summit, and the insights I gained will shift everything — for me and for you.

In this episode, I’m sharing what I learned from being in the room with powerhouse podcasters, what’s next for this show, and how you can step into your own “what’s next” with clarity.

In this episode:

• Behind-the-scenes from my Podcast Summit experience

• The big mindset shift after the Becoming Her series

• My next moves for the podcast and community

🎙 Episode Title: Relationships + Chronic Illness (with Semi)

Podcast: Chronically Planned with Shedrica Shant’e
Episode Type: Guest Conversation | Chronic Illness, Relationships, Mental Health

Episode Description / Show Notes:

What does love look like when you’re living with a chronic illness? What about friendship, family dynamics, or even the relationship you have with yourself?

In today’s honest and unfiltered conversation, I’m joined by my good friend Semi to unpack the complexities of maintaining healthy relationships while navigating the daily realities of chronic illness.

Whether you're living with lupus, another invisible illness, or just trying to understand how to better support someone who is, this episode offers an emotional, insightful look into:

🧡 How chronic illness affects dating and long-term partnerships
💔 The grief of losing friendships when your energy changes
💬 Why communication, boundaries, and self-awareness are everything
🧠 Mental health and the loneliness of invisible illness
🌱 The healing power of community with people who get it

This episode is a longer one—but it’s worth every minute. It’s real, raw, and filled with reminders that you’re not alone in this journey.

✨ Scripture of the Week:
"Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." — Galatians 6:2

🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned:

• 📞 Book a free Clarity Call with Shedrica: Clarity Call

• 🎤 Leave a voice note for the podcast: speakpipe.com/chronicallyplanned

• 📸 Follow on Instagram: @lupusspeaks

  
  

Love this episode?
Share it with a friend, leave a review, or tag me on social with your biggest takeaway.
And if you’re navigating your own relationship challenges while living with chronic illness—let’s talk.
Clarity Calls are open, and I’d love to hear your story and support your next step.

Chronic illness and relationships, lupus dating advice, friendship with chronic illness, boundaries with lupus, chronic illness self-worth, grief and invisible illness, emotional health with chronic disease, relationships and chronic pain, lupus mental health support, healing community chronic illness

Letting Go of Who You Had to BecomeEpisode Summary:

In this unfiltered episode of Chronically Planned, Shedrica Shant’e shares from the heart about what it truly means to let go of the woman you had to become in survival mode.

Through the lens of chronic illness, heartbreak, and spiritual alignment, she opens up about the journey of becoming—one where vulnerability, self-love, and faith hold more power than pretending to have it all together.

This episode is raw, real, and deeply reflective. If you’ve ever felt like being “the strong one” was silently breaking you, this is your invitation to breathe, release, and step into the woman God already said you are.

Key Takeaways:

• Letting go of survival mode is necessary to grow.

• Vulnerability is not weakness—it's a doorway to truth.

• You don't have to carry everyone's burdens to be valuable.

• Healing isn't always pretty, but it’s sacred.

• You're not behind—you’re in transition.

• Being strong doesn’t mean staying silent.

• God still sees you, even when it feels like no one else does.

• It’s okay to not have everything figured out.

• Becoming “Her” is about coming home to yourself.

• Your story—as it is—can free someone else.

🔗 Episode Links & Resources:

💌 Subscribe to the Newsletter – Weekly notes from my heart:
https://www.chronicallyplanned.com

📅 Book a Free 15-Min Clarity Call – Let’s talk through what you’re carrying and create a plan to honor the woman you’re becoming:
https://chronicallyplanned.com/shop/claritycall

🎙️ Leave a Voice Testimonial – How has this podcast spoken to you? Leave me a message to be featured on a future episode:
https://www.speakpipe.com/Chronicallyplanned

🛍️ Shop Planning Tools & Resources:
https://chronicallyplanned.com

If this episode resonated with you, don’t keep it to yourself.
🎧 Share it with another strong woman who’s learning how to be soft again.
And remember—you’re not behind, you’re becoming. 🤍

We can’t plan to profit if we’re still planning from confusion.

In this episode of the Becoming Series, we’re talking about what it really takes to get clear — not just in your schedule, but in your spirit, your story, and your season. Because clarity isn’t just a strategy; it’s a surrender.

Mentioned in This Episode:

You’ll hear me share:

• Why confusion is often a sign of carrying what’s not yours

• How chronic illness and survival mode impact our ability to plan

• What spiritual clarity looks like when you're rebuilding your life or business

• The questions I ask myself when I feel unclear or overwhelmed

  
  

  Take This Further:

If you've been in a fog, trying to figure out what's next while navigating health, motherhood, and purpose — this episode will feel like a deep breath.

✅ Book Your Free 15-Min Plan for Purpose Clarity Call
→ https://chronicallyplanned.com/shop/claritycall

✅ Start from the Beginning of the Becoming Series:

1. [Becoming Still]

2. [Becoming Whole]

3. ➤ You’re listening to Becoming Clear

4. [Becoming Her] (Coming Soon!)

   
   

✅ Leave Me a Voice Note & Be Featured on the Show
→ https://www.speakpipe.com/Chronicallyplanned

✅ Explore More Support, Tools + My Inner Circle
→ https://chronicallyplanned.com

After you listen, take 5 minutes and ask yourself:

• What am I trying to plan that I’m not even clear on?

• What story am I carrying that might not be mine?

Instagram: @lupusspeaks
Website: www.chronicallyplanned.com
Email: [email protected]

In this episode of Chronically Becoming, we’re exploring what it really means to feel whole — especially while living with chronic illness.

Shedrica Shant’e shares her personal journey of reconnecting with her body, slowing down long enough to hear what it truly needs, and choosing wholeness over hustle. This isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about honoring where you are and making intentional choices that reflect the life you want to feel.

Whether you're navigating life with lupus, chronic fatigue, or simply craving clarity, this episode invites you to create space for nourishment, responsibility, and deep self-care.

Inside This Episode:

• The difference between appearing whole and feeling whole

• What your body might be asking you for right now

• How to shift from survival mode into intentional healing

• The role of clarity, nourishment, and faith in your becoming era

• Gentle questions to check in with yourself this week

  Favorite Quotes:

“Wholeness isn’t about being seen — it’s about feeling light.”
“It’s on you to decide how you want your life to feel.”
“You don’t have to rush to be whole. You just have to honor what’s real.”

Tags: wholeness, chronic illness healing, lupus, self-care, body awareness, faith and clarity, personal growth, nourishment, becoming her, mindset reset

Welcome back to the Chronically Planned Podcast — a space where planning meets purpose, and chronic illness doesn’t stop the becoming.

In this reintroduction episode, I’m sharing what’s shifting behind the scenes as I enter my “Becoming Era” — a softer, slower, and more intentional approach to how I plan, live, and lead in this season.

✨ Inside this episode:

• Why I hit reset on my routine & goals

• What it means to plan without pressure

• How chronic illness taught me to realign with grace

• A reminder that your pace is sacred — and so is your healing

This space is for the woman becoming her — whole, present, and aligned. You don’t have to hustle to be worthy. Let’s plan to be instead of just do.

Links & Offers:

💖 Free Reset Checklist📝 Book a 1:1 Planner & Purpose Audit💌 Weekly Newsletter, Inner Circle Waiting List

📺 Want to see how I plan?

Subscribe to my YouTube channel for planner girl content, monthly setups, and soft life routines → Chronically Planned with Shedrica🎧 New episodes drop weekly on Wednesdays — subscribe so you don’t miss the next part of the Chronically Becoming series.

If you’ve ever felt like you had to apologize for needing more rest, canceling plans, or just doing what’s best for you—this episode is for you.

As a lupus warrior, I’ve had to unlearn a whole lot of guilt. I used to feel bad for needing rest, for dreaming big, and even for protecting my peace. But I’ve reached a point in my journey where I just can’t keep shrinking myself to make others comfortable.

In today’s episode of Chronically Planned, I’m sharing the real-life things I stopped apologizing for—not because I have it all together, but because I finally realized I don’t have to explain my survival.

Whether you’re newly diagnosed or deep in your healing journey, this episode is a reminder that:

You’re allowed to need rest.
You’re allowed to protect your peace.
You’re allowed to want more—even with chronic illness.

What I’m talking about today:
✨ Why rest is a life-giving rhythm, not laziness
✨ Saying “no” and meaning it—without guilt or explaining
✨ Letting go of the shame around flare days and changing plans
✨ Embracing joy as a part of healing, not something extra
✨ The moment I stopped shrinking my goals because of lupus
✨ Giving yourself permission to show up imperfect, unapologetic, and still worthy

Timestamps:
00:00 — Embracing Self-Care as a Lupus Warrior
06:41 — Prioritizing Joy and Dreaming Bigger

Takeaways:

• I stopped apologizing for needing rest.

• I no longer over-explain my boundaries.

• Choosing peace is a non-negotiable.

• Joy is not a distraction—it’s medicine.

• I’m done shrinking my vision to fit other people’s comfort.

• You can live with lupus and still build a life you love.

  
  

💌 Keep going, don’t do it alone:
→ Join the Chronically Planned Inner Circle (6-week coaching & support space)
→ Download the Plan With Your Body Starter Pack

→ Follow me on Instagram: @lupusspeaks
→ Get on my email list for weekly encouragement + planner love.

💜 Episode Summary

Hey sis. Today’s bonus episode is personal.

I’m sharing the truth about what it really felt like after I was diagnosed with lupus—and how I slowly started reclaiming my power, one choice at a time. I talk about what it’s like to live in survival mode, to wake up in pain, and still be expected to keep going like everything’s fine.

This episode isn’t just a reflection—it’s a reminder: You still have power, even when you don’t feel strong.

We’re breaking down why I had to stop copying hustle culture, how I started planning around my energy (not against it), and why redefining success for myself changed everything.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, tired, or unsure how to move forward with chronic illness—this is for you.

✨ What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• I didn’t feel powerful after my diagnosis—I felt defeated.

• I was surviving… but not really living.

• I realized I still had choices in how I responded.

• Suffering in silence almost broke me.

• I started planning with my body—not against it.

• I stopped trying to follow hustle routines that didn’t fit my season.

• Success looks different when you’re healing.

• Gratitude became my secret weapon.

• Your power never left—you just get to reclaim it.

• You get to choose how you show up from here.

📌 Quotes To Hold Onto:

• "I reclaimed my power after my lupus diagnosis."

• "Suffering in silence is a deadly killer."

• "I had to redefine what success meant for me."

🎧 Episode Timeline:

00:00 – Why I had to share this episode
05:55 – Building a life that fits you, not the algorithm
09:05 – The shift: Healing, grace, and planning on your own terms

📥 Helpful Links & Resources

🦋 Join the Chronically Planned Inner Circle
🦋 Book a 1:1 Planning Power Hour
🦋 Download digital journals & tools
🦋 Subscribe to the newsletter

💌 Stay Connected

✨ Instagram: @lupusspeaks
✨ Website: www.chronicallyplanned.com
✨ Email me anytime: [email protected]