Ally and Jill explain what a GAL in Massachusetts is and their experiences with them.

Ally and Jill talk holidays!

keywordsco-parenting, divorce, family restructuring, Concilium process, support systems, women's empowerment, litigation abuse, family dynamics, domestic violence, conciliation, family law, co-parenting, attorney-client relationship, guardian ad litem, legal process, empowerment, judicial system, divorcesummaryThis conversation explores the complexities of co-parenting and divorce, emphasizing the importance of support systems, the Concilium process, and the empowerment of individuals, particularly women, during and after divorce. The speakers discuss the emotional and legal challenges faced by families restructuring after divorce and the need for a holistic approach that includes legal, financial, and mental health support. In this conversation, experts discuss the complexities of domestic violence cases, the importance of shifting control to the court, and the role of attorneys in empowering clients. They explore the long-term implications of co-parenting, the function of guardian ad litem, and the cost-effectiveness of the conciliation process. The discussion emphasizes the need for a holistic approach in family law, highlighting the significance of finding trained conciliant professionals.takeaways

co-parenting, divorce, financial planning, financial advisor, single parents, college costs, financial education, emergency funds, financial shame, support community

Summary

In this conversation, Jill and Ally discuss the complexities of co-parenting and financial challenges that arise during and after divorce. They emphasize the importance of community support, understanding financial implications, and the role of financial advisors in helping individuals navigate their new financial realities. The discussion also covers practical advice for single parents, managing expectations around college costs, and the significance of having an emergency fund. The speakers highlight the need for empathy and understanding in financial planning, especially for women who may feel overwhelmed by their circumstances.

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Hilary Smiley shares her experience of parenting a transgender child and the challenges she faced. She emphasizes the importance of early intervention and seeking help from gender clinics. Hilary discusses the medical aspect of caring for a transgender child, including puberty blockers and hormone therapy. She also talks about the emotional journey of accepting and affirming her child's gender identity. Hilary encourages parents to forgive themselves for any mistakes and to prioritize their child's happiness and well-being. The conversation explores the challenges and experiences of co-parenting a transgender child. We discuss the importance of open communication, patience, and understanding in supporting their children's gender identity. We also address common misconceptions and offer advice for parents who may be struggling to accept their child's gender identity. The conversation emphasizes the need for therapy and professional support for both the child and the parents. Overall, we highlight the importance of affirming and empowering transgender children to live their authentic lives.

Keywords

transgender, parenting, gender identity, early intervention, gender clinic, medical care, puberty blockers, hormone therapy, acceptance, emotional journey, co-parenting, transgender child, open communication, acceptance, therapy, support

Takeaways

Early intervention and seeking help from gender clinics is crucial for transgender children.

Medical professionals play a vital role in guiding parents and children through the transition process.

Parents may experience a range of emotions and challenges, but it's important to prioritize their child's happiness and well-being.

Forgiving oneself for mistakes and being open to learning and growth is essential in supporting a transgender child. Open and honest communication is crucial when co-parenting a transgender child.

Parents should be patient and understanding as their child explores their gender identity.

Therapy and professional support are essential for both the child and the parents.

Acceptance and affirmation are key to helping transgender children thrive.

Parents should educate themselves and seek resources to better understand their child's experience.

We discuss all things co-parenting and back to school in this short espresso shot!

In this epresso shot we discuss schedule changes, vacations, and how to manage summer break while co-parenting!

In this espresso shot Ally and Jill discuss their experiences with sharing clothes, toys, sports equipment between houses. They also discuss things that have worked and not worked so well for them in keeping track of the stuff!

A story shared from one of our listeners reclaiming her voice!

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This very special episode covers an important and serious topic: coercive control, a form of domestic abuse. Our Coffee Date today is with advocates Larissa Crane, MSW, LICSW, MRT and Hilary Purtell. We will explore what coercive control is, how to recognize it, and what to do if you or someone you love is in a relationship with a coercive controller. Even if you have not experienced coercive control, this is a must-listen to know how to recognize it, either for your future self, or to know what to look for as you support friends and family going through a challenging relationship.

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Coffee Date Info

Coffee Date Guest: Larissa Crane, MSW, LICSW, MRT

Coffee Date Bio: Larissa Crane is a psychotherapist and yoga teacher based in the Boston area who specializes in helping people overcome anxiety, depression, and eating disorders using a trauma-informed approach.  Her practice is dedicated to supporting "high conflict" litigants who are navigating the Massachusetts probate and family court. Larissa is highly skilled in conducting GAL (Guardian ad Litem) reports, parenting coordination services, and counseling for those who have experienced coercive control or narcissistic abuse. 

Coffee Date Guest: Hilary Purtell

Coffee Date Bio: Hilary Purtell is a professional actor, voice talent and on-camera host, and is co-director of the Jane Does Well Education and Advocacy Committee. Hilary holds a master's degree in Counseling Psychology, and writes articles about family law best practices and divorce in Massachusetts.

Coffee Date Links and Resources:

Article on janedoeswell.com:

National Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 799-7233

National Resource Center on Domestic Violence: https://www.nrcdv.org/ 
Casa Myrna (Massachusetts): https://casamyrna.org/

Massachusetts Coercive Control Bill Information: malegislature.gov/bills/193/s1097