Coach Her Game

Team dinners feel like connection. But proximity is not the same as trust. Learn systems that build a championship culture. Get the free training for coaches here → coachfreetraining.com 

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre - a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a long-time head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.

In this episode, I'm breaking down why teams that look connected in September fall apart in November - and the exact method I use to build the kind of chemistry that holds up under pressure.

Here's what you'll learn:
✅ Why fun team activities create proximity, not trust
✅ The 3 pillars of real team chemistry (vulnerability, trust, psychological safety)
✅ Google's research on what actually makes teams perform at their highest level
✅ How to run the Open Circle method - a 15-minute weekly meeting that changes everything
✅ The mistake I made last season by skipping it (and what happened) 

🎯 The teams that stay connected when things get hard aren't the ones who ate the most pasta together. They're the ones who built psychological safety on purpose. 

🕓 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction
00:17 Proximity vs. Chemistry
02:35 Why Surface-Level Connection Fails
04:25 Three Keys to Real Chemistry
06:07 The Open Circle Method
08:18 How to Run Open Circles
09:49 Lessons Learned
10:30 Recap & Call to Action 

💬 Comment below: What's your current go-to team building activity? I want to know what's working (and what's not) for coaches right now! 

📩 Work with Coach Bre: coachfreetraining.com

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps
🔹 Grab our in-depth FREE training → https://coachfreetraining.com
🔹 Follow us on IG → @elitecompetitorcoach
🔹 Follow us on TikTok→ @coachhergame
🔹 Championship Program Membership: champions.elitecompetitor.com
🔹 Player Impact Plan: https://elitecompetitor.kit.com/6639eaaf9f 

🔔 Subscribe for more for weekly coaching tools, mental game systems, and team culture strategies for coaches of girl athletes.

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
⚡️ Psychological safety - not talent, not leadership - was the #1 factor in high-performing teams, according to Google's Project Aristotle. (Google, 2016)
⚡️ Teams with high psychological safety are 35% more likely to report high performance. (McKinsey & Company, based on Project Aristotle findings)
⚡️ Athletes who feel a strong sense of team belonging perform significantly better under pressure than those who feel socially isolated on their team. (Journal of Sport and Exercise Psychology, Eys et al., 2015) 

The Coach Her Game YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping coaches of girl athletes strengthen their mental game and team culture in order to develop a competitive edge. 

#teamchemistry #coachinggirls #mentalperformance #highschoolcoach #teamculture

Head to coachfreetraining.com to grab our free training for coaches to quickly level-up your team's mental game!

Ever had parent drama or complaints about playing time? 🤦‍♀️ Here's a simple 2-minute activity to prevent those issues before they even start! Grab more coaching tools → https://coachfreetraining.com

As coaches, we know how important parent communication is—especially when it comes to setting expectations early. In this video, I’m sharing a simple, yet powerful, note card activity that helps build trust with parents and prevent playing time complaints later in the season. By creating an open line of communication, you can set the tone for a successful and drama-free season.

🎯 What you’ll learn:
✔️ How to establish trust and set expectations early with parents
✔️ A simple note card activity to ensure parents feel heard and valued
✔️ How to communicate that you're a team working together for the benefit of the athlete
✔️ Why mental toughness and player development matter just as much as physical skills
✔️ How to reinforce family values and strengthen the parent-coach partnership

🎙 I’m Coach Bre—a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a 4-time state championship-winning coach. After 14 years of coaching, I’ve learned that building strong relationships with parents is key to a successful season and mentally tough athletes.

🕓KEY MOMENTS:
00:00 – Why So Many Coaches Struggle Early On
00:30 – The Parent Meeting Strategy That Changes Everything
00:55 – How Sharing Personal Stories Builds Parent Trust Fast
02:21 – The Simple Note Card Activity Every Coach Should Try
04:23 – Tools and Tips to Build Mentally Tough, Connected Teams

📢Coaches—what’s the best strategy you’ve used to set expectations with parents? Comment below!👇

🚀 Want more strategies to empower your athletes and improve communication with parents?
🔹 Grab our FREE training for coaches → https://coachfreetraining.com
🔹 Learn more about Plug & Play Elite Mental Game → https://elitecompetitor.com/plugplayemg
🔹 Follow us on IG → @elitecompetitorcoach

Head to coachfreetraining.com to grab our free training for coaches to quickly level-up your team's mental game!

Girl drama is happening on your team. Put a proactive system in place to address it before it costs you. For more coaching resources check out the championship program membership → https://champions.elitecompetitor.com/ 

Team tension doesn't fix itself. It gets worse. And most coaches don't find out until the season is already falling apart. 

🙋‍♀️ Hi, I'm Coach Bre, a certified Mental Performance Coach and former collegiate athlete with 14 years of coaching experience, including 4 state championships. I'm also the co-founder of The Elite Competitor and host of the Coach Her Game podcast, where I help coaches strengthen their athlete's mental game so they can perform their best when it matters most.   

👤 My guest is Sheri Gazitt. She founded Teen Wise 15 years ago after 30 years in psychology. Sheri specializes in helping teen girls navigate friendships, team dynamics, and mean girl behavior through private coaching, community presentations, and her Game On webinar for coaches.  

In this episode, Sheri and I discuss drama and how to proactively and successfully navigate it. She gave our athletes 10 responses to mean girl behavior on a recent Level Up call, and coaches, they had SO many questions! 

Here's what you'll learn:
✅ The most common types of drama affecting girl athletes right now
✅ The 4-step conflict conversation framework (with the exact words to teach your players)
✅ The 3 parent traps that accidentally make everything worse
✅ Why gathering the whole team to address bullying backfires
✅ The one proactive tool that prevents most drama before it starts 

This isn't about eliminating conflict. It's about teaching girls how to navigate it, and that skill follows them into every locker room, boardroom, and relationship they'll ever have. 

Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction
05:14 Most Common Types of Drama
07:51 Teaching Conflict Resolution
14:55 Early Warning Signs
16:41 How Parents Should Respond
18:01 The Power of Mindset
19:33 When to Address Bullying
24:49 Helping Excluded Girls
29:30 Top 3 Parenting Mistakes
32:39 Processing Your Own Past
35:46 Guidance for Coaches
38:06 Proactive Team Culture 

💬 Coaches - comment below: What's the hardest part of navigating team drama as a coach? 

📌 Resources & Tools
🔹You can find Sheri at: Teen Wise Website: https://www.teen-wise.com/
🔹Be Teen Wise Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beteenwise/
🔹 Grab our in-depth FREE training → https://coachfreetraining.com
🔹 Follow us on IG → @elitecompetitorcoach
🔹 Follow us on TikTok→ @coachhergame
🔹 Championship Program Membership: champions.elitecompetitor.com
🔹 Player Impact Plan: https://elitecompetitor.kit.com/6639eaaf9f 

🔔 Subscribe for More → Never miss an episode of Coach Her Game! 

P.S. Here's what the research shows:
⚡️ Girls drop out of sports at twice the rate of boys by age 14, and negative team social dynamics are a leading driver. (Women's Sports Foundation, 2016)
⚡️ 75% of girls who quit sports cite social reasons including peer conflict and feeling excluded from the team. (Tucker Center for Research on Girls & Women, University of Minnesota)
⚡️ Relational aggression - exclusion, gossip, and social manipulation - occurs at significantly higher rates in adolescent girls than boys. (Crick & Grotpeter, Developmental Psychology, 1995) 

The Coach Her Game podcast is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping coaches of girl athletes strengthen their mental game and team culture in order to develo

Head to coachfreetraining.com to grab our free training for coaches to quickly level-up your team's mental game!

Coaching female athletes as a male coach? It’s a different game. Girls respond to emotion, connection, and trust. When you coach them like boys, it backfires. Grab more coaching tips → https://coachfreetraining.com
 
In this episode, I’m sharing the top 3 mistakes male coaches make with girl athletes—and how to fix them with strategies that build resilience, regulation, and results.
 
🎯 Learn:
Why aggressive motivation shuts her down
What her brain needs to feel safe and perform under pressure
The Snapback Routine every girl athlete should know
Coaching emotionally while still demanding excellence
How boundaries build leadership (and avoid blurred lines)
 
🎙 I’m Coach Bre, mental performance coach for girl athletes and co-founder of The Elite Competitor. I’ve led teams to 4 state titles, and I’ve learned that great coaching girl athletes starts with intentional structure—not just drills.
 
KEY MOMENTS:
00:00 Introduction: Coaching Girls vs. Boys
00:34 Common Mistakes in Coaching Girls
00:44 Mistake #1: Handling Errors
01:33 Mistake #2: Silence Isn't Golden
02:11 Mistake #3: Over Coaching
03:35 Conclusion and Additional Resources
 
📢 COACHES – Ever felt unsure how to handle the emotional side of the game? Drop your experience in the comments. Let’s support each other. 
 
📌 Want to coach the mental game with confidence?
🔹 Learn more about Plug & Play Elite Mental Game → https://elitecompetitor.com/plugplayemg 
🔹 Follow us on IG → @elitecompetitorcoach
🔹 FREE Mental Game Training → https://coachfreetraining.com

Head to coachfreetraining.com to grab our free training for coaches to quickly level-up your team's mental game!

Girls aren't quitting because they stopped loving their sport. Get the free mental game training here → coachfreetraining.com 🎯

In this episode, I'm sitting down with my co-founder Kristina to share something we've never talked about publicly before.

We both quit our sports. Me: volleyball. Her: basketball. Not because we weren't good enough. Because we didn't have the mental skills to survive the pressure.

👉 In this episode you'll learn:
✅ Why girls quit at twice the rate of boys by age 14 (and the real reason behind it)
✅ The invisible confidence killers coaches don't see coming
✅ What "Stay. Play. Lead." means and why it drives everything we build
✅ How to give your athletes the tools to handle pressure, mistakes, and comparison

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre, a 4-time state champion volleyball coach and Certified Mental Performance Coach. I've spent 14+ years coaching girl athletes and built The Elite Competitor to give coaches proven, plug-and-play mental training systems that actually work.

🏆 This is the most personal episode we've ever recorded. And it's the heart behind every program, every tool, and every resource inside The Elite Competitor.

🕓 Key Moments: 
00:00 Introduction: The Girls Sports Crisis
04:39 Kristina's Basketball Story
12:30 Bre's Volleyball Journey
17:29 Coming Back to the Game
22:12 Introducing Play Stay Lead
23:17 The Mental Game Gap
24:01 Sports and Leadership
25:27 Building Partnerships
26:35 Call to Action

💬 Comment below: Did you play a sport growing up? Tell us what kept you in it (or what made you walk away).

📩 Work with Coach Bre: coachfreetraining.com

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps
🔹 Grab our in-depth FREE training → https://coachfreetraining.com
🔹 Follow us on IG → @elitecompetitorcoach
🔹 Follow us on TikTok→ @coachhergame
🔹 Championship Program Membership: champions.elitecompetitor.com
🔹 Player Impact Plan: https://elitecompetitor.kit.com/6639eaaf9f

🔔 Subscribe for More → Never miss an episode of Coach Her Game!

P.S. Here's what the research shows:
⚡️ Girls quit sports at twice the rate of boys by age 14, with "emotional cost" cited as a primary driver. (Women's Sports Foundation, 2023)
⚡️ 94% of C-suite women played sports, linking athletic participation directly to adult leadership outcomes. (Ernst & Young / ESPNW)
⚡️ Girls have 1.3 million fewer opportunities to play high school sports than boys, meaning access AND retention both matter. (National Federation of State High School Associations)

The Coach Her Game Podcast is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping coaches of girl athletes strengthen their mental game and team culture in order to develop a competitive edge.

#mentalperformance #coachinggirls #girlsinsports #youthsports #mentaltoughness

Head to coachfreetraining.com to grab our free training for coaches to quickly level-up your team's mental game!

Struggling with playing time drama and confusion on your team? 😩 It’s time to take control and eliminate confusion with these 3 proven strategies! Grab more coaching tips → https://coachfreetraining.com
 
Coaches, if you’ve ever faced issues with playing time confusion, you’re not alone. Whether you're battling it in a championship-winning season or a tough rebuild, it’s a challenge we all face. In this episode, I’m sharing the exact strategies I use to define roles, communicate expectations clearly, and have regular check-ins to keep everything on track. These steps have drastically reduced confusion and eliminated drama on my teams!

🎙 I’m Coach Bre, a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a 4-time state championship-winning volleyball coach with 14 years of experience. Let’s dive into how you can avoid playing time headaches and create a cohesive, focused team.
 
🎯 Here’s what you’ll learn:
✅ How to clearly define roles on your team 
✅ The exact way I run 1:1 Player Impact Plan meetings with athletes
✅ My simple bi-weekly check-in system that keeps players focused and clears up confusion fast
 
These steps have drastically reduced frustration, drama, and second-guessing around playing time—and they’ll help your team too.

🕓 Key Moments
00:00 Introduction to Playing Time Issues
00:27 Defining Roles on Your Team
00:58 Communicating Roles Clearly
01:29 Implementing Player Impact Plans
01:37 Regular Check-ins with Players
02:35 Conclusion and Further Resources

📢 COACHES – What’s your biggest challenge with playing time right now? Drop it in the comments below 👇
 
📌 Want more tools to build confident athletes and strong team culture?
🔹 FREE Mental Game Training → https://coachfreetraining.com
🔹 Follow us on IG → @elitecompetitorcoach

Head to coachfreetraining.com to grab our free training for coaches to quickly level-up your team's mental game!

Playing time drama isn't about entitled kids. It's about unclear roles. Here's the 15-minute system that eliminates it! Join the Championship Program Membership → champions.elitecompetitor.com for more tips and resources! 

In this episode, I'm breaking down why playing time drama happens (spoiler: you're probably creating it without knowing) and the exact Player Impact Plan system I use with all 12 varsity athletes.

Here's what you'll learn:
✅ Why "open door policies" don't work with 14-year-olds 
✅ The confusion cycle that creates resentment and drama 
✅ How to document roles, expectations, and playing time in one meeting 
✅ Why this 15-minute investment saves you hours later 

This isn't theory. It's the system I've used for years as a four-time state champion coach. 

👋🏼 Hi, I'm Coach Bre, a 4-time state champion high school volleyball coach with 14+ years of coaching experience. I'm also a Certified Mental Performance Coach and co-founder of The Elite Competitor, where I help coaches build mentally tough, confident girl athletes who perform when it matters most. My signature frameworks (like the Snapback Routine and 3-2-1 BRAVE) are used by thousands of coaches to teach mental training without adding hours to their schedule. 

The Player Impact Plan (PIP) gives every athlete crystal-clear answers to: 
👉 What's my role? 
👉 How much will I play? 
👉 What are my strengths? 
👉 Where do I need to grow? 
👉 What does my coach expect from me? 

When everyone's on the same page from day one (including parents), the drama doesn't start. Grab the PIP template here: https://elitecompetitor.kit.com/6639eaaf9f 

🕓 Key Moments:
0:00 The Root Cause of Playing Time Drama
00:42 Why Players Get Confused
01:17 Common Coaching Mistakes02:10 The Player Impact Meeting Solution
02:54 What's in the Player Impact Plan
03:56 How to Make Time for These Meetings
04:29 Get the Free Template 

💬 Coaches - comment below: How do you handle athlete communication and expectations? 

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps
🔹 Grab our in-depth FREE training → https://coachfreetraining.com
🔹 Follow us on IG → @elitecompetitorcoach
🔹 Follow us on TikTok→ @coachhergame
🔹 Championship Program Membership: champions.elitecompetitor.com
🔹 Player Impact Plan: https://elitecompetitor.kit.com/6639eaaf9f 

🔔 Subscribe for More → Never miss an episode of Coach Her Game!

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
⚡67% of high school athletes report unclear expectations from coaches as a top source of stress (Journal of Sport Psychology in Action, 2022)
⚡Athletes with clearly defined roles show 34% higher team commitment and 28% lower dropout rates (Sport Management Review, 2021)
⚡Proactive communication reduces parent-coach conflicts by 41% compared to reactive approaches (National Federation of State High School Associations Research, 2023) 

The Coach Her Game YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping coaches of girl athletes strengthen their mental game and team culture in order to develop a competitive edge. 

#playingtime #highschoolcoaching #coachinggirls #teamculture #mentalperformance

Head to coachfreetraining.com to grab our free training for coaches to quickly level-up your team's mental game!

Want a winning practice structure that builds a championship culture? Here’s how to make your practice plan work for both skills and mindset! Grab more coaching tools → https://coachfreetraining.com
 
Most coaches think their practices are effective… but when athletes show up late, waste time, or go through the motions instead of pushing themselves, it’s a clear sign something’s missing. In this video, I’m breaking down my 3-part system for creating practices that build connection, mental toughness, and competition—without adding hours to your day.
 
🎯 Learn:
The #1 "must do" in the first 5 minutes of practice
A proven mindset routine to boost mental toughness
Simple ways to coach pressure (not just hope they handle it)
How to end every practice with reflection and confidence
 
🎙 I’m Coach Bre, mental performance coach for girl athletes and co-founder of The Elite Competitor. I’ve led teams to 4 state titles, and I’ve learned that great coaching starts with intentional structure—not just drills.
 
🕓 Key Moments
00:00 Introduction: Importance of Practice Structure
00:28 Starting Strong: Pre-Practice Routine
01:36 Building Connections and Mental Training
03:09 Training Adversity and Competitive Drills
03:47 Reflection and Final Thoughts
 
📢 COACHES – What’s one thing you include in every practice? Drop it in the comments!
 
📌 Want more tools to help your athletes thrive?
🔹 Grab our FREE mental game training → https://coachfreetraining.com 
🔹 Learn more about the Plug & Play Elite Mental Game → https://elitecompetitor.com/plugplayemg 
🔹 Follow us on IG → @elitecompetitorcoach

Head to coachfreetraining.com to grab our free training for coaches to quickly level-up your team's mental game!

The open door policy feels like the right move, but here's the truth - it's actually making communication worse. Grab the free Player Impact Plan template → https://elitecompetitor.kit.com/6639eaaf9f 

I used to tell my team "just come talk to me" at the start of every season. I genuinely wanted to be approachable. But athletes don't come to you first when they have issues. They spiral, catastrophize, and create stories in their heads. By the time they work up the courage to approach you, the situation is 10 times worse. 

Here's what I do instead: Player Impact Meetings at the start of the season (15 minutes to clarify role, playing time, strengths, development plan) + bi-weekly 5-minute check-ins throughout the season. 

👋🏼 Hi, I'm Coach Bre, a 4-time state champion high school volleyball coach with 12+ years of coaching experience. I'm also a Certified Mental Performance Coach and co-founder of The Elite Competitor, where I help coaches build mentally tough, confident girl athletes who perform when it matters most. My signature frameworks (like the Snapback Routine and 3-2-1 BRAVE) are used by thousands of coaches to teach mental training without adding hours to their schedule. 

In this episode, you'll learn:
✅ Why open door policies don't work for teen athletes
✅ The three problems with reactive communication
✅ How to structure Player Impact Meetings
✅ The exact three questions I ask in bi-weekly check-ins
✅ How this system saves me hours of drama management 

This proactive approach eliminates drama before it starts, creates equity across all players, and removes intimidation barriers. It catches issues early instead of waiting for explosions. 

⚡ If you want the exact Player Impact Plan template I use, comment PLAN below. 

Want the complete system for building mentally tough, confident athletes? Join the Championship Program Membership where I break down communication systems, mental training frameworks, leadership development, and team culture - all the things no one teaches you in coaching school. 

This month we're diving deep into captain selection and leadership development. Check it out here: champions.elitecompetitor.com 

🕓 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction
00:59 Why Open Door Policy Doesn't Work
02:48 The Player Impact Meeting04:19 Biweekly Check-Ins
06:16 Why This System Works Better
08:16 Championship Program Membership 

💬 Coaches - comment below: How do you handle athlete communication and expectations? 

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps🔹 Grab our in-depth FREE training → https://coachfreetraining.com🔹 Follow us on IG → @elitecompetitorcoach🔹 Follow us on TikTok→ @coachhergame🔹 Championship Program Membership: champions.elitecompetitor.com🔹 Player Impact Plan: https://elitecompetitor.kit.com/6639eaaf9f 

🔔 Subscribe for More → Never miss an episode of Coach Her Game!  

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:

• 88% of teen athletes say they want more communication from their coaches about their role and playing time expectations (Positive Coaching Alliance, 2022)
• Athletes who receive regular one-on-one feedback from coaches report 43% higher confidence levels (Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, 2021)
• 67% of high school athletes say they've experienced anxiety about approaching their coach with concerns (National Federation of State High School Associations, 2023) 

The Coach Her Game Podcast is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping coaches of girl athletes strengthen their mental game and

Head to coachfreetraining.com to grab our free training for coaches to quickly level-up your team's mental game!

🔥 Your team is falling apart in a big game. Panic is setting in. What do you say? What do you do? This is how you coach through pressure like a pro. Grab more strategies here → http://coachfreetraining.com
 
When momentum shifts and your girls get rattled, what happens next is all on you. In this episode, I share exactly how to train AND coach your athletes through high-pressure situations—so they show up strong when it counts most.
 
🎯 Learn:
✔️ Real-time coaching tactics (without yelling)
✔️ Practice strategies that simulate pressure
✔️ Snapback routines & reset words that work
✔️ The exact plan that helped us win the state title under pressure
 
🎙 I'm Coach Bre  mental performance coach for girl athletes, co-founder of The Elite Competitor, and four-time state championship-winning volleyball coach. I’ve made every coaching mistake in the book when it comes to pressure, and I’ve learned how to turn those into powerful, practical tools any coach can use to build mentally tough teams
 
🕓 Key Moments
00:00 Introduction to Coaching Under Pressure
00:52 In-the-Moment Strategies for Coaches
03:02 Out-of-the-Moment Preparation
04:25 Practical Training Techniques
05:50 Visualization and Mental Preparation
09:26 Conclusion and Next Steps

📢 COACHES – What’s one pressure situation your team struggles with most? Let’s help each other grow in the comments. 👇
 
📌 Want more coaching tools to help you stay calm and strengthen your team’s mental game?
🔹 Grab our FREE training for coaches → https://coachfreetraining.com/  
🔹 Learn more about Plug & Play Elite Mental Game → https://elitecompetitor.com/plugplayemg 
🔹 Follow us on IG → @elitecompetitorcoach

Head to coachfreetraining.com to grab our free training for coaches to quickly level-up your team's mental game!