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- Episode 14: Teach, learn, love with Edwin Vega
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Episode 14 continues our conversation series with professional certified coaches. This episode features a chat with coach Edwin Vega. You'll hear from Edwin about how he feels he's always been a coach, or at least coach-like. We learn about his particular approach with clients informed largely by his 'why' in life and his love of children. Edwin shares how he even tells some of his corporate clients that he loves them. We know for some this may sound revolutionary!
Interesting to note that Edwin has become more of who he always was through his coaching journey. Perhaps just a more deeply concentrated version of himself. His essence is palpable in our chat and the very thing that is his signature with his clients.
Edwin is faculty at the Co-Active Training Institute. Another example of Edwin's investment in human via teaching, learning, and loving. We were thoroughly inspired by this conversation with Edwin and hope you are too!
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#thecoachingconfidentialpodcast #coaching #podcast37 min - Episode 13: "Stop coaching me right now!" a conversation with Terry Barkman
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In this episode of Coaching Confidential we begin a series of conversations with professional coaches on the topic of what is different in their life since they've chosen coaching as a profession.
Our first conversation is with Terry Barkman of Sailboat Coaching International. Terry and Lisa chat about one aspect of how personal relationships are impacted by coach-like behaviors. Terry will tell us about one relationship that faced a dead end and how he thinks about the idea that "the conversation between two people IS actually the relationship between two people." Finally, we explore how some skills learned in coaching school are actually valuable relationship resources in human relationship. And how these are sometimes confused for coaching. A topic we'll dive into more deeply in future episodes.
Also, check out Terry on Tedx. His recent talk is here.
Editors note: The statement: "The conversation IS the relationship" was so powerful for me (Lisa) that I wrote this piece about it. A great coaching indoor utilizing #perspective and #curiosity to get #clarity on some of your relationship #values.
#coaching #relationships #confusion #clarity #conversation #coachlike #values #resources #superpower #intimacy #alliance #sailboat #depth #friends #curiosity #career #fun #wonder #askIf you would like to sample coaching for yourSelf, CONTACT US.
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#thecoachingconfidentialpodcast #coaching #podcast23 min - Episode 12: Excavating & Celebrating your raw materials, a retrospective coaching session.
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In episode 12 we share a looking back (or retrospective) session with our client Kate. Recently reaching a significant career goal, we walk along with Kate as she recalls some of the key milestones of her journey to a new, significant promotion in her work. But we don't only accompany Kate, we help her pause, reflect, and dig a bit deeper.
In a retrospective coaching session we focus on slowing the client down in the replay of how they met their goal. We invite them to linger in key moments long enough to fully embrace the ingredients (or gifts) they brought to bare that were instrumental to their success in reaching the goal. We invite the client to name and claim these raw materials. And create some inquiry around how these materials are useful in other pursuits in their life.
In our fast paced culture we are often moving from one accomplishment to the next without stopping to celebrate, acknowledge or even take inventory of the raw materials we possess. This type of session is powerful.
This episode is an actual , real life, unscripted coaching session. Unlike episode 11, where we also looked back, but in a coach-like conversation, not an actual session.
Our invitations to you as you listen include:
-What do you notice in your thoughts and your body sensations?
-What are some of your natural resources?
-How do you call them up when needed?
-What could you gain from looking back at a goal recently accomplished? (
Episode credits:
Kate.
Vimla.
Lisa.
#coaching #retrospective #goals #playful #selfleadership #takingcharge #leadership #careerpath #careermapping #confidence #milestones #celebration #lookingback #invisibleresources #naturalresources #essentialqualitiesIf you would like to sample coaching for yourSelf, CONTACT US.
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#thecoachingconfidentialpodcast #coaching #podcast47 min - Episode 11: Coaches in conversation *not* getting coached
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This episode is all about the magic and pure value of the reflective process. Have you ever reached a goal and moved immediately from the worlds shortest 'congrats' straight to forming the next goal? Do you usually skip 'celebrating' meeting a goal? Culturally (in America) it's fair to say we don't place a lot of value on stopping to celebrate even the smallest successes.
As a coach with your clients, or as a human having met a goal, if you don't spend much time celebrating OR looking back on the moments that got you to the finish line, this episode is for you. There is so much to be learned from taking a pause and reflecting on the moments along the way. What is observed in this pause often becomes the key to our future successes.
In this episode we do just that with your hosts Vimla & Lisa. @JohnPoelstra.com (Episode 3) returns to help us celebrate, reflect, and get curious, but not actually coach us after meeting our goals of creating 10 episodes of our podcast Coaching Confidential just for play.
In this episode you'll hear a "coach-like" conversation not an ACTUAL coaching session. Can you spot the difference?
THEMES:
#goals #celebrating #lookingback #postgame #appreciation #notcoaching #coach-like #laughter #relationshipcoaching #systemcoaching #mywhy #boundaries #noflyzoneIf you would like to sample coaching for yourSelf, CONTACT US.
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#thecoachingconfidentialpodcast #coaching #podcast1 hr 9 min - Episode 10: Taking it personally
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This episode has so many dimensions to it. On the surface the topic is about how the client can improve her relationship with her adult daughter. Underneath the layers we find so much more, including the details of what's really going on. And a potential solution.
Listen in to hear how we got there!
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#relationships #family #mother-daughter #expectations #clarity #emotions #triggers #arguments #disagreements #conflict #adulting #parenting #relatableIf you would like to sample coaching for yourSelf, CONTACT US.
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#thecoachingconfidentialpodcast #coaching #podcast43 min - Episode 9: Resilience & the jewels in your pocket (aka: the answers you already have)
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This episode focuses on our client Yamini. Yamini's topic is focused on becoming more resilient. Specifically, resilience in the face of feelings that result in behaviors she feels aren't good for her or those around her. 'Being with' both "good" and "bad" outcomes can be a real balancing act. Can you relate?
What you will hear is the client showing up to the session seeking advice, tips or tricks. What you will notice is that by the end of the session she comes to her very own. She creates for herSelf an experiment in which the results can neither be right nor wrong.
We include a brief follow up session to check in on the results of her experiment and what's different for her.
At the end of the episode, Lisa and Vimla discuss some of the coaching skills used in this session. Spoiler alert: They are skills you can use in your own life and relationships.
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#resilience #coaching #ourownanswers #reclamation #innerknowing #expectations #disappointment #attachment #triggers #recovering #Self #selftalk #success #failure #polarization #negativethoughts #beliefs #themindssoundtrack #themindsplaylist #shoulding #unexpected #comparison #ridingthewaves #unplannedmoments #control #empathy #compassion #possibility #innerpeace #relationships #selfkindness #herenow #calm #healthyhabits #spiraling #motivation #regret #binging #clarity #reflecting #toolbox #If you would like to sample coaching for yourSelf, CONTACT US.
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#thecoachingconfidentialpodcast #coaching #podcast44 min - Episode 8: WHY: the conclusion of our exploration into Authentic Relating
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This episode is the conclusion of a 3-part series exploring Authentic Relating & Coaching with ICF Credentialed Coach Gabe DeRita & Lisa DiMatteo, PCC. In this episode we begin by looking at the WHY.
- Why would someone want to explore Authentic Relating?
- What impact might it have in one's life?
We conclude with a discussion on how Authentic Relating and Coaching share some similar qualities but distinctly different in very important ways.
We'd like you to consider your own reality as you listen. There are references to facts, statistics and quotes in this episode. In this and all our episodes we do not intend to share inaccurate information or neglect to credit original creators for their work. We have done some work to validate some of the obvious data but are human and as such we may miss some things. Please always be your own critical thinker and do your own fact checking.
#coaching #authenticrelating #authenticity #self #relationships #communication #connection #learning #listening #qualityofattention #values #transformationIf you would like to sample coaching for yourSelf, CONTACT US.
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#thecoachingconfidentialpodcast #coaching #podcast50 min - Episode 7: Let the (authentic relating) games begin...
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In this episode, the second in a series of three on the topic of Authentic Relating, we continue to learn by playing. Yes, playing. Our guest Gabe DeRita leads your host Lisa D through Authentic Relating games, or exercises. Listen in as an entirely new way of relating (to your host) is exposed. Trigger warning: This gets a bit intimate for some.
Some of what you'll hear between Gabe and Lisa includes; naming what's present in connection, noticing what's emerging in the moment, questioning assumptions, revealing emotional states and taking ownership of one's own experience.
As a reminder the 5 practices of "AR":- Welcome Everything
- Assume Nothing
- Reveal Your Experience
- Own Your Experience
- Honor YourSelf and Other
The 'Noticing Game' stems:
Being here with you I notice...
Hearing that I notice/feel...
What's going on for you, what you imagine is going on for other, what's happening in the shared space.
A slightly edgier version invites us to get better at noticing, naming and dropping assumptions as they arise.
More on Authentic Relating.
More on Gabe DeRita.
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#thecoachingconfidentialpodcast #coaching #podcast32 min - Episode 6: Authentic Relating with Gabe DeRita
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This episode is refreshingly authentic. A slight change of format too! We were curious about what supporting practices other coaches bring to their work with clients, there are so many possibilities. In this episode we explore one, Authentic Relating.
Over the next 3 episodes we will learn from another ICF credentialed coach; Gabe DeRita - what authentic relating is about, how he came upon it, and you'll be a fly on the wall witnessing your host Lisa D stretching herself into the space of curiosity, vulnerability and courage while practicing an authentic relating 'game' with Gabe. We hope you take away a sense of how Authentic Relating (or coaching) might support your goals in life.
*5 principles of Authentic Relating (short hand of your hosts)- Welcome everything.
- Assume nothing.
- Reveal your experience.
- Own your experience.
- Honor yourSelf and other.
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#thecoachingconfidentialpodcast #coaching #podcast34 min - Episode 5: Your awesome life: EVEN AWESOMER!
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If you ever thought coaching was a tool to fix a problem - you're right, and that's not all it's about. If your life is great and you want to make it awesome, coaching could be for you, too.
In this episode we invite Ilinca Manu, ACC (associate certified coach) to the podcast to coach Lisa DiMatteo, PCC (professional certified coach) on the topic of making an awesome life 'awesomer.'
This conversation is about:- Creating a solid plan to ensure completion of a project
- Raising the bar on a goal already in progress
- Recognizing a "non-supportive" habit pattern & working around it
You will hear how the coach in this episode helps the client unlock a custom designed solution. She does this by asking open-ended questions, reflecting what the coach is hearing & sensing, and while being a creative thought partner, not being attached to her own ideas of what is happening.
You'll also hear the coach & the client debrief the session. And your hosts, Lisa D & Vimla will talk about why a session like this is helpful in reaching goals, changing habits, working with 'what is', and creating a more awesome life.
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About Coaching Confidential
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This is a podcast that takes you directly into a real life, unscripted life coaching session. Be a fly on the wall and listen to a conversation you don't normally get access to hearing. After each…
session, two professional coaches take you behind the scenes of the session deconstructing what came up for both the client AND the coach. Your hosts are; Lisa DiMatteo, PCC & Vimla Gulabani, PCC (PCC stands for Professional Certified Coach - a designation from coaches governing body, the ICF or International Coach Federation.