You're Not Failing. You're Dysregulated. Episode 28

Most of us were never taught how our nervous system works. We were told to calm down. We were told to try harder. We were told to be professional. But no one taught us how to regulate. In this episode of Coded In Gold, I'm joined by Dr. Chris Lee, a medical neuroscientist who works with high-performing executives and leaders. Together, we break down:

• The five pillars of self-regulation

• Why shame isn't the enemy, but shaming yourself is

• How to repair conflict with your partner and your kids

• How to stay steady in chaotic environments

This might be one of the most practical conversations we've had on the show.

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Big problems. Burnout everywhere. And a question I keep hearing from people: what can I actually do?

In this episode of Coded in Gold, I'm joined by my friend Colleen Gregerson, whom I met nearly ten years ago in San Francisco. She has helped raise more than $1.9 billion for global health initiatives worldwide. More importantly, she has seen what happens when people choose to step into community instead of opting out.

In our conversation we talk about collective philanthropy. The idea is simple. Instead of trying to make change alone, we pool our resources, learn together, and give together. It turns generosity into something communal and human, not distant or abstract.

If you have been feeling overwhelmed or unsure where you fit, this conversation is an invitation.

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What would change if every institution we interacted with lived by one principle: fiduciary in all things?

In this new episode of Coded in Gold, I sit down with George D. Kinder, widely regarded as the father of Life Planning in financial services, to explore that question and what it could mean for our lives, our communities, and our future.

We also talk about the three questions he's used to train thousands of advisors, the growing weight many of us are carrying right now, and the quiet power of kitchen-table conversations to reconnect us.

We dive into his latest book, The Three Domains of Freedom and what it might look like to live and lead from the freedom of moments, the freedom of life, and the freedom of civilization today.

If you care about meaningful work, community, and creating a more connected and humane future, this conversation is for you.

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In this episode, I sit down with Tony Martignetti. Tony's journey took him from a creative childhood in Boston, through a seemingly successful career in biotech, an intense moment of reflection and ultimately into the work he does today as an executive coach and author. What drew me to this conversation was his willingness to speak honestly about the tension so many people feel between creativity and corporate life, and the courage it takes to live more fully expressed.

As you'll hear, we talk about authenticity, self-reflection, and what it really means to integrate all parts of yourself into your work and leadership. Tony also shares insights from his book, Illuminating Hidden Brilliance, which invites us to stop compartmentalizing who we are and start leading from a more genuine place.

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In today's episode, I sat down with Todd Reesing. Many people know Todd as the record-setting quarterback who led the University of Kansas through one of its most memorable eras. But what drew me in first wasn't his athletic career, it was his extensive travel, the perspective he's gained from it, and how intentionally he's shaped his life after football, including his work in finance and leadership, currently leading growth strategy and client relationships at Cap Six.

As we got deeper into the conversation, I realized I had far more in common with Todd's athlete mindset than I expected. We explore how the discipline, presence, and resilience he developed on the field translates into some of the values I care about most: personal growth, purpose, and building a grounded life. We also touch on the community he's built with former athletes, the role meditation has played for him, and the way he continues to evolve in his career.

It's a thoughtful, energizing conversation, and I'm excited to share it with you.

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This week, I had the joy of sitting down with my dear friend, Larissa Conte — a Wayfinding Coach and one of the most insightful people I know. I first connected with Larissa just before my son was born, and her work around self-discovery, power literacy, and embodied leadership has shaped the way I think about growth and meaning — both personally and professionally.

In our conversation, we talk about what it really means to understand our own power, how trauma reshapes that relationship, and how community can help us alchemize pain into purpose.

Watch On Youtube: https://youtu.be/VJlO8PMUJEU

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In today's episode I had the pleasure of sitting down with Xanthe Wells. Xanthe wells is the VP of global creative at Pinterest. She has had a truly impressive career as a world class marketer, heading campaigns we've all seen from Pepsi, Netflix, Mattel and Google. I came into this interview as a fan of her work, hoping to learn more about the secrets of her success. This interview delivers on that hope, but Xanthe also surprised me with her generous vulnerability and honest conversation about difficult life transitions.

Watch On Youtube: https://youtu.be/Wo5vvyMpccA

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In today's episode I had the pleasure of sitting down with Jeffrey Shaw. Jeffrey is a business coach, consultant, speaker and author of "Selling To The Rich". In our conversation, we discussed his insights from his years as a portrait photographer, his "soft life era", and his simple community-building traditions. We also get deep into one of my favorite aspects of marketing, human behavior and psychology.

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In today's episode I had the pleasure of sitting down with Jennifer Dazols. Jenni co-founded Modern Family Finance with her wife several years ago after leaving a career in tech. But as you'll hear in this conversation we have much more in common than I even realized, from navigating leaving the faith we were raised in to now raising 7 year old boys. We also discuss the documentary film she and her wife produced in 2015, 'Out and Around', which follows their travels over the course of a year to meet with LGBTQ activists and pioneers all around the world

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Watch Out & Around: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=niWQfArDTZk

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