Codependency isn’t a personal flaw - it’s a cultural adaptation shaped by shame, external validation, and the belief that your worth lives outside of you. In this workshop episode, Vanessa Bennett and Madeleine Downey break down how codependent scripts form a false self and a shadow self, then show how the patterns keep reinforcing themselves in relationship (over/under-functioning, rescuing, and people-pleasing). You’ll get a practical framework for seeing the “unconscious agreement” in the dynamic - and three archetypal invitations to move toward conscious interdependence: the Divine Alchemist, the Mystic, and the Rebel. This is a map for doing the work in real life: staying whole while staying connected.

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