The Inner Compass Podcast with Vanessa Bennett

Why does the thing we long for most (real closeness, being truly seen) so often make us want to run? In this solo episode, Vanessa unpacks what happens in the nervous system when connection starts to feel unsafe, drawing on attachment theory, polyvagal theory, and depth psychology to explain the shutdown, the merge, and everything in between. She traces how early relational wounds get encoded in the body long before they show up as adult patterns, and offers a simple, uncomfortable practice for rewriting them: saying the true thing, especially when it's the hardest thing to say. This is depth work on what it actually takes to stay present in your own skin while someone else gets close.

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Kelsey Crane found her way from unexplained infertility to the healing intimacy of soil — and from there, to writing climate fiction that refuses to look away from collapse or give up on hope. In this conversation, Vanessa and Kelsey trace the thread between fertility and land, motherhood and creative risk, and what it actually means to become an apprentice of regenerative living. They talk about self-publishing a debut novel in the stolen pockets of a busy life, the difference between despair and grief, and why permaculture's first rule — observe before you act — might be the most important thing any of us can learn about healing the earth and ourselves. This is depth work: about soil, story, and the courage to plant something you may never see fully grown.

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GUEST LINKS

Kelsey Crane / The Exiles Series

https://www.theexilesseries.com/

The Vanishing — Amazon

https://www.amazon.com/Vanishing-Book-One-Exiles/dp/B0HFCB846K

The Vanishing — Goodreads

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/253169082-the-vanishing

Shop The Exiles Series

https://the-exiles-series.myshopify.com/collections/products

Instagram — @artforartssake

https://www.instagram.com/artforartssake/

TikTok — @thewildwriter

https://www.tiktok.com/@thewildwriter

Plant A Revolution — Substack

https://substack.com/@plantarevolution

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In this episode, Vanessa sits down with New York Times bestselling author and intuitive Laura Day to talk about The Prism, intuition, ego, and what it actually takes to create a different life. Together they explore why transcendence can become a spiritual cop-out, why a strong “I” is necessary for relationship and impact, and how old childhood contracts can keep us recreating familiar patterns even when we think we are choosing something new. Laura brings her signature grounded approach to intuition, showing how practical change often comes through small, safe, repeated actions rather than dramatic reinvention. This is a conversation about ego, alchemy, responsibility, and learning how to recognize the life you say you want when it finally arrives.

GUEST LINKS

Laura Day

• Website: https://lauraday.com/

• The Prism: https://lauraday.com/product/the-prism/

• Events + Boot Camp: https://lauraday.com/events/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauradayintuit/

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In this episode, Vanessa sits down with Dr. Shefali, clinical psychologist, New York Times bestselling author, and pioneer of the conscious parenting movement, for a conversation about parenting as one of the most direct encounters with the parent’s unconscious. Together they explore projection, control, codependency, rupture, repair, and the painful ways parents can use children to soothe their own anxiety or fulfill an unlived life. Dr. Shefali also shares the heart behind her two new books, Raising Conscious Daughters and Raising Conscious Sons, including how screens, algorithms, gender conditioning, and unconscious shame are shaping children today. This is a conversation about raising children by becoming more conscious ourselves—not more perfect, but more honest, attuned, and willing to repair.

Early applications for the next cohort of Inner Compass Academy are now open to the waitlist only.

If you’ve been feeling called toward deeper work with depth psychology, shadow, somatics, the unconscious, relational patterns, and learning how to hold space with more consciousness and integrity, this is the first window to apply.

The early application window is only open for one week. Those who submit during this window will receive early bird pricing, which is $200 off tuition, as well as access to extended payment plan options.

Again, this early application window is for the waitlist only, and it closes in one week.

Join the waitlist and find the application here:

https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-compass-academy

Connect with Dr. Shefali Tsabary:

Website:

https://www.drshefali.com/

Books:

https://www.drshefali.com/books/

Raising Conscious Daughters:

https://books.google.com/books/about/Raising_Conscious_Girls.html?id=3nihEQAAQBAJ

Raising Conscious Sons:

https://books.google.com/books/about/Raising_Conscious_Sons.html?id=uXihEQAAQBAJ

Conscious Parenting / Dr. Shefali Courses:

https://courses.drshefali.com/

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/

Podcast:

https://www.drshefali.com/podcast/

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If you grew up learning that the safest thing you could do was manage the emotional environment, this episode is for you. Vanessa explores the Three C’s from codependency and Al-Anon recovery spaces: I didn’t cause it, I can’t control it, and I can’t cure it. Through family systems, Bowen’s differentiation of self, Jungian ego inflation and individuation, detaching with love, and the grief underneath control, this episode looks at why overfunctioning, rescuing, fixing, and emotional caretaking often feel like love while secretly functioning as anxiety management. The invitation is not to stop caring, but to stop confusing love with responsibility for someone else’s healing.

Applications are now open to the public for Cohort 4 of Inner Compass Academy.

ICA is Vanessa’s 10-week depth psychology training for therapists, coaches, space holders, creatives, seekers, and anyone who wants to go beyond surface-level self-help and learn how to work more deeply with shadow, the unconscious, embodiment, relational patterns, dreams, archetypes, and the symbolic life.

This is not a program promising quick formulas or coaching scripts. It is a certificate training rooted in depth, Jungian theory, relationship, liberation psychology, and the kind of inner work that changes how we hold ourselves and others.

Cohort 4 begins September 13.

Learn more and apply here:

https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-compass-academy

RESOURCES & REFERENCES

Al-Anon: The Three C’s

A reminder that you didn’t cause it, you can’t control it, and you can’t cure it.

https://al-anon.org/pdf/P46_2003_web.pdf

Al-Anon Family Groups

Information and support for people affected by someone else’s drinking.

https://al-anon.org/

Melody Beattie: Codependent No More

A resource on codependency, boundaries, self-care, and the ways we can lose ourselves while trying to help someone else.

https://www.melodybeattie.com/codependentnomore

The Bowen Center: Differentiation of Self

An introduction to staying emotionally connected to others while maintaining a clear and distinct sense of self.

https://www.thebowencenter.org/differentiation-of-self

International Association for Analytical Psychology: Individuation

An introduction to the Jungian concept of individuation—the process of becoming more conscious and more fully yourself.

https://iaap.org/jung-analytical-psychology/short-articles-on-analytical-psychology/individuation-2/

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In this episode, Vanessa sits down with Lizzie Tilia, spiritual guide, psychic, teacher, and founder of Earth Mystery School, for a conversation about intuition, earth-based practice, soul work, and what it means to take the unseen seriously without losing your ground. Together they explore Lizzie’s path from OCD, Catholic conditioning, and fear of the spirit world into psychic development, containment, and a more loving relationship with the unseen. They also talk about Jung’s collective unconscious, pan-cultural wisdom, spiritual performance, ego versus soul versus spirit work, and why some people need stronger ego structure before entering deeper soul or spiritual spaces. This is a conversation about intuition as a skill, discernment as devotion, and learning to become a good spiritual friend to yourself before trying to guide anyone else.

Applications are now open to the public for Cohort 4 of Inner Compass Academy. ICA is Vanessa’s 10-week depth psychology training for therapists, coaches, space holders, creatives, seekers, and anyone called toward deeper work with shadow, the unconscious, embodiment, dreams, archetypes, relational patterns, and the symbolic life.

Cohort 4 begins September 13. Learn more and apply here:

https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-compass-academy

For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy.

Connect with Lizzie Tilia:

Website: https://www.lizzietilia.com/

Earth Mystery School: https://www.earthmysteryschool.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzietilia/

References:

• The Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious — C. G. Jung
• Pacifica Graduate Institute
• The Blackfoot Origins of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
• Happier Hour — Cassie Holmes
• The Creative Act — Rick Rubin

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In this episode, Vanessa sits down with Ailey Jolie, Chartered Psychologist, somatic psychologist, certified sex therapist, and creator of INBODY, for a conversation about what embodiment actually means beyond the performance of being calm, sensual, regulated, or healed. Together they explore why disembodiment and dissociation can be intelligent survival strategies, how food and sexuality both ask us to reconnect with hunger, desire, permission, disgust, control, pleasure, and shame, and why the body cannot be separated from the larger cultural systems that taught us to leave it. This conversation moves through eating disorder recovery, sexual trauma, chronic illness, pleasure, sensuality, intergenerational stories, and the body as a doorway into the unconscious. The invitation is not to force yourself back into the body, but to bring mind and body back into relationship with more consciousness, safety, and truth.

Applications are now open to the public for Cohort 4 of Inner Compass Academy.

ICA is Vanessa’s 10-week depth psychology training for therapists, coaches, space holders, creatives, seekers, and anyone who wants to go beyond surface-level self-help and learn how to work more deeply with shadow, the unconscious, embodiment, relational patterns, dreams, archetypes, and the symbolic life.

This is not a program promising quick formulas or coaching scripts. It is a certificate training rooted in depth, Jungian theory, relationship, liberation psychology, and the kind of inner work that changes how we hold ourselves and others.

Cohort 4 begins September 13.

Learn more and apply here:

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Resources & References

Ailey Jolie

Website: https://www.aileyjolie.com/

INBODY Method

Learn more about Ailey’s body-based healing work and 14-week INBODY program: https://www.inbodymethod.com/

About Ailey Jolie & INBODY https://www.inbodymethod.com/about

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/in-this-body/id1749208603

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aileyjolie/

Substack: https://aileyjolie.substack.com/

In This Body Podcast https://in-this-body.com/

Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/in-this-body/id1749208603

Gabor Maté

https://drgabormate.com/

Marion Woodman — Addiction to Perfection

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/330307/addiction-to-perfection-by-marion-woodman/

C. G. Jung / Jungian Analysis

International Association for Analytical Psychology: https://iaap.org/jung-analytical-psychology/

Pacifica Graduate Institute

https://www.pacifica.edu/

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If you’ve ever wondered whether suffering can be meaningful without becoming your whole identity, this episode is for you. Vanessa explores the difference between suffering that humbles, transforms, and moves us toward greater honesty, and suffering that becomes a role, a claim, a performance, or a way to stay morally protected. Through depth psychology, meaning-making research, Viktor Frankl, Jung, terror management theory, Freud’s mourning and melancholia, secondary gain, pathological altruism, and the martyr archetype, we look at why pain can become so hard to release when it has given us significance, belonging, or leverage. The question is not whether your suffering is real; the question is what it is doing.

Applications are now open to the public for Cohort 4 of Inner Compass Academy. ICA is Vanessa’s 10-week depth psychology training for therapists, coaches, space holders, creatives, seekers, and anyone called toward deeper work with shadow, the unconscious, embodiment, dreams, archetypes, relational patterns, and the symbolic life.

Cohort 4 begins September 13. Learn more and apply here:

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RESEARCH & REFERENCES

Crystal Park — Meaning-Making After Stressful Life Events

Research on meaning-making, including global and situational meaning and how people integrate stressful or traumatic experiences into broader beliefs, goals, and worldviews.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20192563/

Ronnie Janoff-Bulman — Shattered Assumptions

Explores how trauma can disrupt fundamental assumptions about ourselves, other people, safety, meaning, and the world.

https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Shattered-Assumptions/Ronnie-Janoff-Bulman/9780743236256

Viktor Frankl — Man’s Search for Meaning & Logotherapy

Frankl’s work on the human search for meaning, particularly in the context of suffering.

https://www.viktorfrankl.org/books_by_vf.html

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/538699/mans-search-for-meaning-by-viktor-e-frankl/

Jung — The Religious Function of the Psyche

A Jungian perspective on the psyche’s production of religious, symbolic, and numinous material in relation to meaning and psychological wholeness.

https://jungchicago.org/the-religious-functions-of-the-psyche/

James Hollis — Jungian Psychology & the “Larger Life”

Hollis’s work explores suffering, meaning, the ego, and the movement toward what he describes as a larger life.

https://jameshollis.net/

“Martyr” — Etymology & the Meaning of Witness

The etymology of martyr, tracing its roots through Latin and Greek martyr/martys, meaning “witness.”

https://www.etymonline.com/word/martyr

Terror Management Theory

Research and theory concerning mortality awareness, existential anxiety, cultural worldviews, self-worth, meaning, and symbolic immortality.

https://dictionary.apa.org/terror-management-theory

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/9781118430873.est0813

https://doi.org/10.4135/9781071840801.n283

Secondary Gain — APA Dictionary of Psychology

A psychological concept describing benefits or advantages that may arise from symptoms beyond their primary psychological function.

https://dictionary.apa.org/secondary-gain

Sigmund Freud — Mourning and Melancholia

Freud’s distinction between mourning and melancholia, including identification with the lost object, self-reproach, and the displacement of reproach toward the object onto the self.

https://ia903101.us.archive.org/29/items/FreudMourningAndMelancholia/Freud_MourningAndMelancholia_text.pdf

Barbara Oakley — Pathological Altruism

Explores circumstances in which altruism, empathy, or helping behavior can produce unintended harmful consequences.

https://barbaraoakley.com/books/pathological-altruism/

Heinz Kohut — Self Psychology & the Grandiose Self

Background on Kohut’s self psychology, including self-esteem regulation, narcissistic development, external relationships, and the grandiose self.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/nursing-and-health-professions/self-psychology

Vanessa Bennett — Codependency, Martyrdom & Relational Patterns

Vanessa’s clinical and depth-psychology framework for understanding codependency, overgiving, resentment, moral armor, indirect communication, and martyrdom within relationships. https://www.vanessabennett.com/

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If you’ve ever gone through something that changed you so completely that the language of “getting back to normal” started to feel almost insulting, this episode is for you. Vanessa explores initiation as the kind of rupture that does not return us to who we were, but reorganizes the self entirely. Through rites of passage, liminality, trauma, witness, and the loss of ritual in modern life, we look at why some experiences are not interruptions to the old life, but thresholds into another one. The invitation is to stop measuring healing by whether you can become who you were before, and begin asking what kind of life can be built around who you are now.

For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy.

Early applications for the next cohort of Inner Compass Academy are now open to the waitlist only.

If you’ve been feeling called toward deeper work with depth psychology, shadow, somatics, the unconscious, relational patterns, and learning how to hold space with more consciousness and integrity, this is the first window to apply.

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Again, this early application window is for the waitlist only, and it closes in one week.

Join the waitlist and find the application here:

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Narcissism is usually imagined as arrogance, dominance, and the loudest person in the room, but it is not always that obvious. In this episode, Vanessa explores narcissism as a problem of selfhood: what happens when a person does not have a stable enough inner sense of Self to stay emotionally coherent without constant reflection from the outside. Through Kohut, Kernberg, the myth of Narcissus, vulnerable and grandiose narcissism, the false self, parental overvaluation, and the difference between traits and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, we look at why these dynamics can feel so confusing inside real relationships. The question is not only whether someone can be charming, wounded, or empathic when things are easy, but whether they can stay curious about your reality when it no longer mirrors back the version of themselves they need to see.

For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy.

Join Vanessa for the free Inner Compass Academy Summit, August 5–7, where we’ll explore depth psychology, shadow, embodiment, and what real transformation asks of us. Register here: https://www.vanessabennett.com/ica-summit

Reference Links:

Heinz Kohut — Self Psychology

Use for: Kohut’s self psychology, narcissism, mirroring, and development of a cohesive sense of self.

Link: https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/nursing-and-health-professions/self-psychology

Note: ScienceDirect overview identifies Kohut as the theorist most associated with self psychology and describes his focus on the development of a cohesive and positive sense of self.

Kohut’s Self Psychology Model / Narcissism

Use for: Kohut’s view of narcissism, unmet selfobject needs, and narcissism as part of development rather than simple arrogance.

Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2860525/

Note: Useful accessible clinical article describing therapy through Kohut’s self psychology model.

Selfobject

Use for: Kohut’s selfobject concept: another person experienced as part of the self’s regulation and cohesion, rather than fully as a separate subject.

Link: https://www.encyclopedia.com/psychology/dictionaries-thesauruses-pictures-and-press-releases/self-object

Note: Use for the episode’s explanation of relationships organized around mirroring and self-regulation.

Narcissus Myth

Use for: Narcissus as the mythic image of attachment to reflection/image rather than real mutual relationship.

Link: https://www.britannica.com/topic/Narcissus-Greek-mythology

Note: Use as the basic myth reference. The episode’s psychological interpretation is Vanessa’s depth-oriented reading.

Otto Kernberg — Pathological Narcissism / Grandiose Self

Use for: Kernberg’s work on pathological narcissism, object relations, and the grandiose self.

Link: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/2678027/

Note: PubMed abstract summarizes Kernberg’s theory and mentions treatment focused on the pathologic grandiose self.

Otto Kernberg — Borderline Conditions and Pathological Narcissism

Use for: Primary book reference for Kernberg’s work on pathological narcissism.

Link: https://www.bloomsbury.com/us/borderline-conditions-and-pathological-narcissism-9780876681770/

Note: Book citation for producer if referencing Kernberg’s broader theoretical framework.

Grandiose and Vulnerable Narcissism

Use for: Distinction between grandiose narcissism and vulnerable / hypersensitive narcissism.

Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5601176/

Note: Research article describing grandiose narcissism as overt superiority/entitlement and vulnerable narcissism as hypersensitivity and introversive self-absorption.

Pathological Narcissism and Psychosocial Functioning

Use for: Grandiosity and vulnerability as two core themes of pathological narcissism.

Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6710132/

Note: Useful source for explaining that narcissism can have both grandiose and vulnerable expressions.

Narcissistic Vulnerability / Pathological Narcissism Inventory

Use for: Narcissistic vulnerability as fragile self-concept, limited self/affect regulation, shame/rage, and sensitivity to perceived threats to self-esteem.

Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3354008/

Note: Supports the episode’s discussion of narcissistic injury, collapse, shame, and fragility.

Winnicott — True Self / False Self

Use for: Winnicott’s false self concept, compliance, performance, and protection of the more vulnerable self.

Link: https://academic.oup.com/book/1192/chapter-abstract/140028848

Note: Oxford Academic page for Winnicott’s “Ego Distortion in Terms of True and False Self.”

Parental Overvaluation and Narcissism — Eddie Brummelman et al.

Use for: Research showing parental overvaluation predicts child narcissism, while parental warmth predicts healthy self-esteem.

Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4378434/

Note: PNAS article, “Origins of Narcissism in Children.”

Parental Overvaluation and Narcissism — PubMed

Use for: Quick PubMed reference for the Brummelman study.

Link: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25775577/

Note: PubMed abstract states narcissism was predicted by parental overvaluation, not lack of parental warmth, while self-esteem was predicted by parental warmth.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder — APA Dictionary

Use for: Clinical definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and diagnostic features.

Link: https://dictionary.apa.org/narcissistic-personality-disorder

Note: APA Dictionary includes grandiose self-importance, need for attention/admiration, rage/humiliation/emptiness in response to criticism, entitlement, exploitation, and inability to empathize.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder — MSD Manual Professional

Use for: DSM-5-TR-oriented overview of NPD as a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration/adulation, and lack of empathy.

Link: https://www.msdmanuals.com/professional/psychiatric-disorders/personality-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder-npd

Note: Useful accessible clinical reference for the distinction between narcissistic traits and a diagnosable personality disorder.

Love Bombing — Empirical Study

Use for: Love bombing as a relationship formation pattern associated with narcissism, insecure attachment, low self-esteem, and excessive communication early in relationships.

Link: https://scholarworks.uark.edu/hdfsrsuht/1/

Note: Undergraduate honors thesis / empirical study. Use lightly. Love bombing is not a formal clinical diagnosis, but this source provides research support for the term.

Love Bombing — Research Summary

Use for: Additional accessible reference for love bombing as connected to narcissistic tendencies and early relationship intensity.

Link: https://www.kristenjozkowski.com/publications/18156-love-bombing-a-narcissistic-approach-to-relationship-formation

Note: Use as a secondary support source if needed; avoid overstating love bombing as a formally established diagnostic concept.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder — Recent Research Overview

Use for: Current overview of NPD, grandiose and vulnerable presentations, diagnosis, and treatment complexity.

Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10187400/

Note: Helpful scholarly overview of recent progress in understanding and treating NPD.

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