Come Talk with Aimee: Sex, Intimacy, and Conversations Worth Coming Back To

What if the key to hotter, more pleasurable sex was hiding in your pelvic floor? Most of us only hear about it after pregnancy, but pelvic floor health is for everyone. And yes, it can take your orgasms to the next level.

In this episode, I sit down with movement coach and pelvic floor expert Elyse Sparkes to break down everything you need to know about your pelvis. We talk about why pelvic floor health matters beyond childbirth, how it impacts pleasure in the bedroom, and the biggest myths that need to be retired once and for all.

Elyse shares how to spot the red flags of pelvic floor issues, why “tight is right” is a damaging myth, how breath and movement play into better sex, and what simple exercises can reconnect you to your body. Whether you’re looking to reduce pain, improve sensation, or just turn up the heat, this conversation will change the way you think about your pleasure.

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What happens when you date three dominant men — blindfolded — and one of them is your ex? 

In this episode of Come Talk with Aimee, I sit down with Amanda, The Kink Consultant, and producer/host Catherine Drysdale to go behind the scenes of The Ex Factor, the bold live show where kink, chemistry, and past relationships collided on stage.

We get into why Amanda said yes, how Catherine brought it to life, and what it means to center desire and sexual preferences in dating.

Raw. Playful. Provocative. This is The Ex Factor, unmasked. 

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Guests

01:03 The Concept of The Ex Factor

02:59 Dynamics of Blind Dating with Exes

04:44 The Role of Blindfolds in Dating

06:50 Creating a Unique Dating Experience

08:30 Kink and Sexuality on Stage

10:57 The Importance of Kink Education

13:35 Understanding Kink Dynamics

15:13 Sexual Compatibility in Relationships

17:43 Breaking Down Societal Norms

21:47 Navigating Rejection and Societal Expectations

21:47 Empowerment in Dating: Flipping the Script

22:24 Redefining Relationships: The Role of Community

24:50 The Experiment: Revisiting Past Relationships

27:33 The Reality of Dating: Chemistry vs. Compatibility

33:50 Changing the Narrative: Dating in Modern Culture

40:05 The Role of Influencers in Dating Dynamics

42:45 Catherine's Journey as a Host

45:15 The Importance of Sexual Compatibility

47:47 Navigating Vulnerability in Relationships

50:08 The Power of Communication in Kink

56:34 The Role of Family in Relationships

56:41 Future Plans for The Ex Factor

57:53 Coming to Completion: Kink or Cringe?

What if love didn’t come with rules? Relationship anarchy challenges everything you think you know about commitment, desire, and connection—and it’s hotter than you might expect. 🔥

In this episode of Come Talk with Aimee, I sit down with the brilliant Adriana Smith to explore how to craft relationships on your own terms—where honesty, autonomy, and radical desire lead the way. We talk about breaking free from labels, rewriting the “relationship escalator,” and embracing love that’s unapologetically yours.

Whether you’re curious, adventurous, or ready to ignite your own love revolution, this episode is your wild invitation.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Relationship Anarchy

02:11 Understanding Relationship Anarchy

04:34 Communication and Agreements in Relationships

06:31 Exploring Intimacy and Connection

12:04 Pleasure and Sexuality in Relationship Anarchy

16:08 Self-Discovery and Understanding Needs

17:41 Understanding Intentions in Relationships

20:05 Navigating Relationship Challenges

22:22 Communicating Compatibility and Connection

23:16 Exploring Relationship Anarchy

23:59 Applying Relationship Anarchy to Life

25:41 Coming to Completion

Hot take: there’s nothing wrong with your desire—it just has a flavor, babe. Join Aimee and Angie Enger as they spill the tea on spontaneous vs. responsive desire, why ‘low libido’ is a total myth, and how to turn frustration into exploration. It’s time to stop feeling broken and start owning your unique, sexy blueprint.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Self-Intimacy and Desire

01:11 Understanding Desire Types

02:56 Exploring Arousal and Sensation

06:16 Personal Experiences with Desire

07:56 The Impact of Life Changes on Desire

11:37 Desire Types and Their Misunderstandings

14:08 The Role of Communication in Relationships

17:51 Shame and Societal Expectations

21:33 Creating Safe Spaces for Conversations

23:40 Navigating Different Desire Types in Relationships

27:15 Exploring Myths of Desire

29:08 Cultural Conditioning and Its Impact

33:04 Understanding Desire Types

38:11 Communication in Relationships

42:21 Nervous System and Trauma

44:38 Self-Assessment of Desire

49:29 Reconnecting with Desire

51:40 Coming to Completion

Ready to blow the lid off your pleasure potential?

In this juicy convo, Aimee and certified sex coach Amari Leigh dive deep into the world of orgasms, sexual wellness, and self-empowerment. From the orgasm gap in heterosexual dynamics to the power of self-exploration and communication, they unpack why so many of us are disconnected from pleasure — and how to reclaim it.

You’ll learn:

• The difference between 40 types of orgasms (yes, really)

• Why the orgasm gap still exists — and how to challenge it

• How to communicate your desires with more confidence

• Why your body holds more pleasure than you’ve been taught

Whether you’re looking to expand your orgasmic toolkit or just want to feel more at home in your body, this episode is a must-listen.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Orgasms

11:14 Understanding the Types of Orgasms

15:21 The Pressure of Climaxing

16:57 Distinguishing Orgasm from Ejaculation

18:39 Exploring Lesser-Known Orgasm Types

22:45 Energy and Cervical Orgasms

24:43 Overlapping Orgasms and Their Experiences

26:07 Exploring Factors Affecting Sexual Experience

27:50 The Importance of Play in Sexual Exploration

29:21 Reclaiming Orgasms: A Personal Journey

31:24 Communication: The Key to Sexual Satisfaction

33:38 Understanding the Orgasm Gap

36:09 Prostate Orgasms: Breaking Taboos

38:41 The Role of Lubrication in Pleasure

39:56 Coming to Completion: Orgasmic Preferences

We’re kicking off Anal August with a bold convo on anal sex, female pleasure, and why butt stuff should absolutely be on the brunch menu. 🍑✨

Aimee is joined by Whitaker Cohen, founder of AmorSui, to talk anatomy, aftercare, and how to center your pleasure — with zero shame. Whether you’re new to backdoor play or already a baddie, this one’s for you.

We get into:

Why anal play is about more than penetration

How to center female pleasure in anal sex

Talking about butt stuff with your partner & besties (yes, even at brunch)

Emotional safety, boundaries, and anal prep basics

And so much more!

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Chapters

00:00Introduction to AmorSui and Whitaker Cohen

02:00The Inspiration Behind AmorSui

04:07Breaking the Taboo: Conversations Around Anal Play

10:09Understanding the Stigma of Anal Play

13:23Education and Unlearning Shame

16:18Exploring Pleasure: The Journey of Anal Play

18:46Getting Started with Anal Play

20:27Supporting Partners in Exploration

24:39The Role of Products in Enhancing Pleasure

28:39Creating an Approachable Brand for Anal Play

29:20Cultural Expectations and Women's Pleasure

30:05Empowerment Through Open Conversations

31:57Claiming Anal Pleasure

32:27Inclusivity in Anal Play

33:36Brunch Conversations About Butt Stuff

38:23Myth Busting in Anal Play

42:10The Importance of Aftercare

47:39 Come To Completion AKA Rapid Fire Questions on Anal Play

Before the heat, there has to be safety—and sometimes, pleasure is the pathway.

In this episode, somatic sex coach Meryl Victoria joins Aimee to explore the powerful link between the nervous system and intimacy. From polyvagal theory to embodied arousal, we’re flipping the script on what turns you on.

We dive into:

• How nervous system regulation sets the stage for deeper connection

• Why some bodies shut down—and how to invite them back online

• Using sex as a tool for nervous system regulation

• Somatic practices to shift from freeze to flow

  
  

Whether you’re craving more connection or curious about why you feel “off” in the bedroom, this episode is your roadmap. Because regulation is the real foreplay—and sometimes, pleasure is the medicine.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Polyvagal Theory

01:00 Understanding the Nervous System States

01:41 The Impact of Trauma on Sexuality

04:20 Exploring Co-Regulation and Connection

06:42 Rewiring the Nervous System for Pleasure

07:41 Navigating Consent and Safety

09:38 Practical Tools for Nervous System Regulation

21:30 Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS) in Therapy

22:51 Supporting Partners with Trauma Histories

25:12 The Importance of Relationship Check-Ins

29:16 The Role of Aftercare in Intimacy

30:52 Navigating Communication in Relationships

32:40 Exploring Erotic Styles and Nervous System Regulation

37:18 Coming to Completion

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🔥 Pleasure in the Pause with Tony-Nominated Broadway Legend Brenda Braxton

What if menopause wasn’t the end of pleasure—but a powerful new beginning?

This week, Aimee is joined by the fierce and fabulous Brenda Braxton—Tony-nominated actress, Broadway royalty, and founder of Pause by BBraxton. They get real about sex after 50, the myths that keep us silent, and how to keep the fire burning even as hormones shift.

From hot flashes to hot nights, Brenda brings humor, heart, and unfiltered truth about embracing your body at every stage.

🎭 Aging doesn’t mean fading. It means rising—with style, swagger, and yes… plenty of orgasms.

✨ Hit play, share with a friend, and don’t forget to follow the show for more unfiltered intimacy realness.

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Intentional intimacy doesn't leave you guessing - it comes with clarity, care, and damn good boundaries. In this episode, Aimee and Dakota unpack what it means to stop settling for crumbs and start owning your yes, your no, and your worth.

If someone can't hold your "no," they don't deserve your "yes."

Part of being healthy? Don't be a d*ck.

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Chapters

00:00 Welcome and Intro to Dakota

00:48 Challenging Societal Norms Around Sex

01:30 Understanding Boundaries and Personal Desires

03:35 The Role of Safety in Sexual Relationships

06:41 Navigating Sexuality and Self-Worth

10:08 Intentional Intimacy and Relationship Dynamics

13:50 The Journey of a Lover Girl

19:23 Embracing Queer Joy and Community

21:19 Creativity in Pleasure and Relationships

25:43 Be Gentle with You 28:50 Coming to Completion - Just To Be Queer

31:53 Come Again, Come Again, Come Again

Why does romance always get the spotlight—and everyone else becomes the understudy?

In this spicy episode, I sit down with the brilliant Adam Fitzgerald to take a sledgehammer to relationship hierarchy—that cultural obsession with putting your romantic partner above all else. We unpack how this model often leads to co-dependency, unrealistic expectations, and emotional burnout.

But here’s the truth: healthy relationships don’t happen in isolation. They need community—the friendships, chosen family, and support systems that queer folks have long known are essential to thriving love and intimacy.

Adam brings a powerful lens to how queer relationships challenge the default and lean into non-hierarchical structures that center freedom, autonomy, and deep connection across many forms.

This one’s for anyone ready to build love that’s grounded, expansive, and rooted in more than just one person.

Because love without the ladder?That’s where the good stuff lives.

Chapters

00:00Happy Pride Month and Intro

02:53Understanding Relationship Hierarchy

07:10Exploring Codependency

10:20The Impact of Codependency on Relationships

12:16Correlation Between Relationship Hierarchy and Codependency

12:46Navigating Loneliness in Relationships

14:12The Importance of Maintaining Individuality

15:29Compassion and Self-Discovery

17:27Understanding Codependency

18:08Queerness and Relationship Structures

21:00Breaking Down Relationship Hierarchies

23:17Exploring Non-Traditional Relationships

27:41The Role of Community in Healthy Relationships

30:52Understanding Healing and Triggers

32:34Navigating Codependency and Interdependence

35:05Building Community Beyond Relationships

39:29Self-Reflection in Relationship Dynamics

40:16Exploring Alternative Relationship Structures

46:45Embracing Queer Joy

47:41Navigating New Queerness

48:20Defining Queer Identity

50:02Coming to Completion AKA Just So We're Queer

52:00Come Again, Come Again, Come Again

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