Come Talk with Aimee: Sex, Intimacy, and Conversations Worth Coming Back To

From vibrator myths to dating app disasters, we're breaking down what sex education actually missed.

In this episode, I sit down with licensed psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Sonya Maya to bust myths, challenge performative sexuality, and talk about what real pleasure actually looks like. Sonya breaks down why chemistry does not equate to compatibility, how vibrators actually build nerve endings (not numb them out), and why that whole "if he wanted to, he would" narrative is more nuanced than what other “experts” are trying to put it. 

This conversation gets into the science of hormones during sex, the difference between swingers spaces and ethical non-monogamy communities, and why social media is both helping and hurting our sex lives.

We talk about

• why sex is so much more than penis-in-vagina penetration

• why simultaneous orgasms are rare and shouldn't be the goal

• the myth that vaginas get loose from sex (they don't)

• body count, slut-shaming, and why that question reveals more about the asker

• how porn warps our expectations of real sex

• why removing expectations is actually the sexiest thing you can do

If you've been scrolling TikTok for sex advice, watching porn as your primary sex education, or trying to figure out why your dating life feels hollow, this episode will shift your perspective on what good sex actually requires.

Connect with Dr. Sonya Maya  

Website: https://www.sonyamaya.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sonyamaya/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sonya_maya?lang=en

YouTube: https://www.tiktok.com/@sonya_maya?lang=en

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What if understanding your cycle could make you better in bed, more confident in your body, and more connected to your pleasure?

In this episode, I sit down with fertility awareness educator Kate Douglas to explore how tracking your cycle isn't just about baby-making or avoiding pregnancy, it's about understanding when you're at your most creative, confident, and yes, turned on. Kate breaks down how hormones affect everything from your libido to your skin to who you want to have sex with, and why knowing where you are in your cycle can transform your intimate life.

This conversation goes beyond basic biology into why cervical fluid is nature's lube and how becoming cycle literate can help you communicate what you need in and out of the bedroom.

We talk about

• how your hormones affect libido, who you're attracted to, and when you're most turned on

• why cervical fluid is nature's lube and what it tells you about your body

• the two biomarkers you need to track: cervical fluid and basal body temperature

• ovulation as creative and sexual energy, not just a fertility event

• how cervical fluid is literally a sperm snack (you'll never forget this)

• myth busting: day 14 ovulation, feeling ovulation, and textbook cycles

• why hormones don't make you unstable (they make you dynamic and cyclical)

If you've ever wondered why your sex drive changes throughout the month, felt disconnected from your body, or want to understand what your hormones are doing to your libido and confidence, this episode is your invitation to start listening to what your body is telling you.

Connect with Kate Douglas: 

Website: https://helloearthbody.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helloearthbody

Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6aga7AGBMwRfJA4g3dmjZ0?si=2ba47da338cf4327

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Your body is always talking to you. The question is, are you listening?

In this episode, I sit down with intimacy coordinator, sexologist, and podcast host Arielle Zadok to explore embodied consent, the practice of checking in with not just your mind, but your entire body when it comes to desire, boundaries, and sexual experiences. Arielle breaks down what it means to truly listen to your body's signals, why silence is never consent, and how stress responses like fawning can complicate our ability to advocate for ourselves.

This conversation goes beyond the bedroom into play parties, film sets, and everyday interactions, showing us how consent is a practice that requires slowing down, getting curious, and honoring what our bodies are telling us, even when our minds want something different.

We talk about

• embodied consent and the difference between what your mind wants and what your body is saying

• physical signs to look for in yourself and your partners (breath, tension, engagement)

• the four stress responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn

• how to practice saying no in low-stakes situations before high-stakes ones

• consent at play parties and how structured consent talks create safer spaces

• intimacy coordination on film sets and protecting actors' boundaries

• why "maybe" is always a no until it becomes a clear yes

• repair over punishment in consent violations

If you've ever said yes when your body was screaming no, if you struggle with people-pleasing in sexual situations, or if you want to understand how to create truly consensual experiences, this episode will shift how you think about consent forever.

Connect with Arielle: 

Website: www.thepleasureproducer.com

Podcast: https://www.birdsandbeesdontfck.com 

Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/thepleasureproducer

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thepleasureproducer

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Pussy worship isn't just about technique. It's about enthusiasm, devotion, and creating a space where pleasure is mutual and unapologetic.

In this episode, I sit down with psychologist, sexologist, and host of In Bed with Alexa, Alexa Andre. She talks about what real pussy worship looks like, why enthusiasm beats technique every time, how to identify true eaters versus people just going through the motions, and what it takes to receive pleasure without guilt or performance anxiety.

This conversation is a permission slip to want more, ask for more, and settle for nothing less than worship.

We talk about

• ​identifying red flags versus green flags in sexual partners
• ​how to receive pleasure without getting in your head
• ​the play lab concept for exploring techniques and preferences together
• ​reassurance, communication, and creating safe spaces for pleasure
• ​integrating toys into pussy worship
• ​why "are you satisfied?" is the most important question after sex
• ​raising your standards and refusing to settle for mediocre sex

If you've been settling for obligation when you deserve devotion, or if you've been wondering whether real pussy worship even exists, this episode will change how you think about pleasure, reciprocity, and what you deserve in the bedroom.

Connect with Alexa

Website: https://sexwithalexa.co/

Patreon: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithalexa/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithalexa/

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/za/podcast/in-bed-with-alexa-have-better-sex/id1721576655

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What happens when we stop whispering about desire and start telling the truth about it?

In this episode of Come Talk with Aimee, I’m joined by Carly Pifer, founder of Read Aurore, a platform dedicated to sharing real, confessional erotica. Not fantasy wrapped in perfection, but honest stories about sex, longing, curiosity, and the messy, beautiful reality of being human in a body.

We talk about why storytelling can be such a powerful gateway to understanding our desires, how writing about pleasure can shift shame into self-awareness, and why seeing real experiences reflected back to us can feel both liberating and deeply validating.

This conversation explores how erotica can be more than entertainment. It can be a tool for self-discovery, communication, and reclaiming pleasure on our own terms.

In this episode, we talk about:

• What makes real erotica different from traditional romance or fantasy

• Why writing about sex can be a powerful form of self-discovery

• The connection between storytelling, desire, and empowerment

• How reading real experiences can normalize pleasure and reduce shame

• What happens when women start telling the truth about their sexuality

If you’ve ever been curious about erotica, or wondered why stories can feel so powerful when it comes to desire, this episode opens the door to a whole new way of thinking about pleasure.

Connect with Carly Pifer 

Website: https://readaurore.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/readaurore 

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What does it actually mean to step into your pleasure power?

In this quickie episode, I'm getting personal and sharing my own journey from purity culture to tapping into my pleasure power. I’m pulling back the curtain on how I reclaimed my pleasure and share about how I went from thinking "sex isn't fun" to discovering what my body is truly capable of. 

This is the story of how I went from having painful, controlled sex in my marriage to fully owning my erotic self. It's about the 3 P's that changed everything for me: Permission, Presence, and Play.

We talk about

• growing up in purity culture and the mixed messages I received about sex

• my marriage, mismatched desire, and painful sex that I thought was "normal"

• the conversation with a friend that gave me permission to want pleasure

• my first vibrator and the moment everything changed

• why masturbation isn't just for single people

• tools for exploring your erotic self, including erotica, ethical porn, and toys

• stepping into kink and exploring my edges

  
  

If you've ever felt disconnected from your pleasure or been told that sex is supposed to hurt, this episode is your permission slip to want more.

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So, tell me about the last time you had sex… 

In this episode, I had the privilege of interviewing New York Times bestselling author and sex therapist Ian Kerner, whose books She Comes First and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex have deeply influenced how I think about pleasure, intimacy, and sexual connection. Ian joins me for a grounded, refreshing conversation about sex scripts, performance pressure, desire, and why so many people feel disconnected from pleasure even when they’re doing everything “right.”

We talk about

• sex scripts and how they quietly shape desire and arousal

• performance anxiety and why it shuts down pleasure

• receiving pleasure without feeling like you have to perform

• why intercourse-centric sex limits intimacy

• psychological arousal, fantasy, and creating the right conditions for desire

• how communication becomes a form of foreplay

If you’ve been craving intimacy that feels less pressured, more connected, and actually pleasurable, this episode offers a new way to understand what great sex really requires.

Connect with Ian Kerner 

Website: https://www.iankerner.com/

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If you have ever been curious about play parties but also slightly terrified, confused, or convinced it is just one big chaotic orgy, this episode is for you. Consider this your permission slip to get informed before you go out to play. 

In this episode, I sit down with Le Organizer, a longtime play party host and event producer, for a no-BS conversation about what actually happens at play parties and how to navigate them safely. We break down the biggest misconceptions, why most play parties are far more social than sexual, and how consent, communication, and aftercare are taken seriously in well-run spaces.

We talk about

• Vetting events and reading descriptions like your safety depends on it

• Navigating scenes and knowing when to watch and when to join

•  Saying no without guilt, using consent advocates, and why you never owe anyone play just because you showed up

• Swinger culture versus play parties

• Why education and community matter more than ever  in sex-positive spaces

Listen in for an honest and informative conversation that demystifies play parties and puts consent, safety, and pleasure back where they belong. Whether you are just curious or thinking about buying your first ticket, this episode will help you walk in informed, confident, and grounded.

Connect with Le Organizer 

Instagram: http://instagram.com/le_organizer

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If you have not watched Heated Rivalry yet, get off this podcast and start watching. No, seriously this episode will have a lot of spoilers. 

In this episode, I have my first-ever repeat guest, Rebecca Giguere, intimacy researcher, relationship coach, and the person fully responsible for wrecking my emotional stability by recommending this series to me. We break down why women everywhere are losing their minds over this show, from the slow burn tension and locker room glances to the emotional vulnerability, tenderness, and male softness we rarely get to see on screen. We get into masculinity, taboo desire, emotional safety, and why watching men be both strong and gentle at the same time is doing things to us.

We talk about:

• Why yearning is hotter than instant gratification

• Male vulnerability and why it feels rare and electric to watch

• Queer love, representation, and the relief of no male gaze

• Female allyship and the power of safe women in men’s lives

• Why this show quietly raises your standards without you realizing

Listen in for a swoony, chaotic, emotionally unhinged breakdown of Heated Rivalry that will make you want to rewatch the entire series, text someone you miss, and rethink what you actually want from love, sex, and connection.

Connect with Rebecca Giguere, 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/unscripted.intimacy

Website:  www.unscriptedintimacy.com

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Physician assistant, intimacy educator, and podcast host Jordan D’Nelle joins me on the show for a bold, honest, no-sugarcoating conversation about casual sex, casual relationships, and how to actually enjoy them without losing yourself. From defining what casual really means to calling out the double standards women still face, we get into the real mechanics of having sex for pleasure without shame, confusion, or emotional burnout. We talk about why intention matters, how assumptions wreck the dynamic, and why self-respect is the sexiest boundary you can have.

We talk about:

• How to define casual sex in a way that centres women’s pleasure, agency, and desire

• Knowing your intentions before you get naked and why it changes everything

• Setting boundaries around overnights, cuddling, kissing, communication, and aftercare

• Knowing the red flags, green flags, and why chemistry makes us ignore what we should not

• Keeping yourself safe from STI’s 

• How to stop chasing approval and start choosing yourself

Listen in for a real, unfiltered conversation that gives you permission to enjoy casual sex with confidence, self-respect, and zero shame.

Connect with Jordan D’Nelle

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jordandnelle/

Jordan’s Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/thevvvpodcast/

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