Come Talk with Aimee: Sex, Intimacy, and Conversations Worth Coming Back To

Kink isn't just the hardcore stuff you see online. It's also sensation play, power dynamics, and deep trust. And with the right tools, it can be safe, sexy, and transformative.

This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with Rae Szereszewski, a certified sex educator, former latex designer, and former event coordinator at Oasis Aqualounge, a lifestyle club in Toronto. We get into how to assess physical and emotional risk, how to vet a kink partner, what green and red flags look like, and why aftercare and check-ins are non-negotiable. 

We also talk about:

• The importance of small moments of consent

• The difference between aftercare and check-ins

• How to identify your own aftercare needs

• What to do when something goes wrong in a scene

• How to stay safe with pickup play at parties

• Practical first steps for kink-curious beginners

• Why kink can be soft, gentle, and deeply connecting

If you've ever been curious about kink but didn't know where to start, or if you've wondered how to stay safe while exploring your desires, this episode is for you.

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What if orgasm wasn't the goal? What if pleasure was allowed to just be?

This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with Nathalie Dewalhens, a certified somatic intimacy coach, author, and creative force helping people reconnect with desire, pleasure, and their most authentic selves. We get into non-coming practices, how our goal-oriented approach to sex has turned orgasm into a finish line, and why slowing down, savoring, and staying present can transform your erotic life. 

We also talk about:

• How goal-oriented sex turns pleasure into a task

• The difference between rushing to orgasm and staying in the room longer

• Reclaiming sensuality and desire after menopause

• The "sensual crone" archetype and why aging can deepen eroticism

• Why we live in an oversexualized and under-sensualized society

• Practical tips for reconnecting with your body

• Nathalie's upcoming retreat for post-menopausal women in Spain

  
  

 If you've ever felt like sex has become a task with a destination, this episode is your invitation to slow down, savor, and stay in the room longer.

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Women are taught to prioritize everyone else's pleasure in the bedroom and out of it. But what happens when you finally stop performing and start taking charge of your own orgasm?

This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with Brooke Bralove, an AASECT-certified sex therapist with over 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples, and throuples heal from trauma and build deeply satisfying sex lives. We get into the biggest myths about female orgasm, why only 13% of women orgasm from penetration alone, and why taking responsibility for your own pleasure is the most empowering thing you can do. 

We also talk about:

• How Hollywood and media shape our expectations

• Why masturbation is the foundation of great sex

• How to talk to your partner about what you want

• How to give feedback with curiosity, not criticism

• How unresolved trauma can impact desire and how to heal

• Why pleasure is your birthright

  
  

If you've ever wondered why orgasm feels complicated, why you're performing instead of enjoying, or how to finally take charge of your pleasure, this episode is for you. Your orgasm is yours to own.

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What does ADHD have to do with kink? This episode explains why neurodivergent brains crave intensity, how to navigate desire discrepancies, and why your needs aren't the problem. 

This week on Come Talk with Aimee, sexologist Tarah Sykes is breaking down why neurodivergent brains work differently when it comes to intimacy, desire, and pleasure. We get into the neuroscience of it all: dopamine, oxytocin, and why intensity can actually create calm. She also explains why traditional sex can feel like trying to listen to someone whisper in a crowded room for ADHD brains, and how kink, power dynamics, and sensory play can provide the strong signal they need to finally drop in and be present. Because when your brain is finally getting enough input, that executive function hamster wheel stops spinning, and you can actually enjoy yourself.

We also talk about:

• how ADHD brains process desire and intimacy differently

• why traditional sex can be challenging for neurodivergent people

• how kink and BDSM provide the strong signal ADHD brains crave

• why intensity creates calm for neurodivergent nervous systems

• how shame from being "too much" or "not enough" shows up in the bedroom

• navigating intimacy when one partner is neurodivergent and the other isn't

• why curiosity over correction is a game changer for relationships

• and why your needs have never been the problem

If you've ever felt broken for needing more intensity, more structure, or more novelty in the bedroom, Tarah wants you to know something: your brain isn't the problem. It's just different. And when you stop fighting how you're wired and start working with it, pleasure becomes possible in ways you might never have imagined.

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Sexual intimacy does not end when you turn 80, and Linda is living proof.

This week at Come Talk with Aimee, Linda talks about sex and intimacy after 80 and why desire never expires no matter what stage you are in life. Linda is an author, intimacy and relationship coach, and the unapologetic voice behind the fast-growing digital talk series Next with Linda. She shares her own love story, including falling head over heels at 80, how women can shed the “stinking thinking” that tells them their best days are behind them, and why sexual health and desire look different, and often better, with age.

We also talk about:

• why desire and desirability do not have an expiration date

• what changes about sex as you age and how intimacy can actually get better

• how menopause affects the body and the practical ways to work around it

• why self-pleasure matters for your sexual health at every age

• the conversations around aging and desire that women over 60 are rarely given space to have

• how to stop apologizing for who you are and reclaim what you still want

If you have ever told yourself that sex and intimacy are no longer for you, this episode is your permission slip to think again. Linda is 83, still open to desire, and she wants every woman to know it is your turn.

Connect with Linda

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The script you were handed about sex and relationships was never written for you. And if you are neuroqueer, it probably never even came close.

In this episode, I sit down with Emily Zawadzki, also known as Emily Zed Sex Ed, a Canadian queer sex educator, coach, and support worker with over 10 years of experience supporting kinky neuroqueer folks. We talk about what it means to be neuroqueer, how social conditioning shapes the way we think about sex and relationships long before we even start having them, and how masking shows up in the bedroom in ways we might not even recognize. Emily also shares how her wife's ADHD diagnosis transformed the way they communicate and connect, and why redefining what intimacy looks like is one of the most liberating things a neuroqueer person can do.

We also talk about:

• how to tell the difference between a genuine desire and an inherited cultural script

• why sensory accommodations can actually create more eroticism, not less

• why sexual confidence is not about experience but about self-awareness and having your own sexy toolkit

• the huge overlap between neurodivergence and kink

• what neurotypical partners can do to show up better for their neuroqueer loves

If you have ever felt like you were performing in your relationships, or wondered why the standard relationship script never quite fit, this episode is your permission slip to throw it out and write your own.

Connect with Emily Zawadzki 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilyzedsexed/

Website: https://www.emilyzedsexed.com/

From Awkward to Assured Webinar: https://www.emilyzedsexed.com/neuroqueer-webinar

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What if the reason you struggle to receive pleasure has everything to do with how your nervous system was wired?

In this episode, I sit down with Lorina Manzanita, somatic intimacy coach, somatic experiencing trauma resolution practitioner, author, and educator with over 25 years of experience in the healing arts. We get into why so many empaths, caregivers, and people pleasers have a hard time receiving, how your nervous system sets your pleasure threshold, and how to expand your capacity for pleasure, intimacy, and connection through somatic practices. Lorina also introduces us to the savoring practice, the Wheel of Consent, and her own framework called the Four Rs of Fulfillment, all of which are practical tools you can start using right now.

We also talk about:

• how self-abandonment shows up in intimate relationships, from tolerating touch you do not love to overgiving financially and emotionally

• why receiving a compliment, touch, money, or pleasure can feel physically uncomfortable

• the savoring practice and how mindfully luxuriating in good feelings rewires your nervous system

• why grief is a common response when people finally begin to receive

• how advocating for your pleasure becomes even more important as your body and desires change over time

If you have ever deflected a compliment, tolerated less than you deserve, or felt uncomfortable the moment things started to feel really good, this episode is your permission slip. You do not have to nibble on scraps. The full course meal is available, and you are allowed to receive it.

Connect with Lorina Manzanita

Website: https://www.lorinamanzanita.com/

Held and Fulfilled: A 6-week small group program for professional empaths who struggle with owning our desires & boundaries: https://integratingeros.com/

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How well do you know your finger techniques? 

In this second anniversary episode, I’m sharing another After Hours moment with you! This time, it’s with Steph Zapata, sexual health educator, anti-colonial organizer, and the visionary behind SLAM, a groundbreaking conference centering sex, liberation, and movement work. We kick things off with a game called Fingering It Out, where Steph schools us on fingering techniques, erogenous zones, and why lube is always the answer. Then we get real and go deeper into Steph's personal journey from years of shame and disconnection to reclaiming their body, their pleasure, and themselves. 

We also talk about:

• how shame shows up in the bedroom and what to do instead of fighting it

• reclaiming your identity and body as home through sex education

• how to live from your heart instead of your anxiety-riddled mind

• using dirty talk to turn intrusive thoughts into real-time communication with your partner

• why imposter syndrome and fear do not have to hold you back from showing up

If you have ever felt disconnected from your body, stuck in your head during sex, or like pleasure is something you have to earn, this episode is your reminder that becoming whole is a process, shame is not yours to keep, and dirty talk might just be the hack that changes your sex life.

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Did you know that different kinds of lube are designed for different sensitivities, toys, and sexual activities? Because yes, your lube actually matters more than you think.

In this anniversary episode, I’m sharing an After Hours moment with previous podcast guest and founder of Lubify, Orla Maguire. We break down the differences between water-based, silicone, oil-based, and organic lubes, how to know which one works best for your needs, and why ingredients matter when it comes to intimate care. 

We also talk about:

• ingredients to look for and why lube should feel like skincare for your vulva and penis

• somatics and what it means to reconnect with your body

• self-pleasure, sensation, and embodied intimacy

• simple breathwork techniques for grounding and nervous system regulation

• why slowing down helps you experience more pleasure and connection

• how to become more aware of what your body actually wants and needs

  
  

If you have ever grabbed a random bottle of lube without thinking twice, this episode might completely change the way you think about pleasure products. Your body deserves care, attention, and products that actually support your pleasure instead of working against it.

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Your sexual energy is not dirty, shameful, or something you need to suppress. It is life force, creativity, connection, and one of the most powerful expressions of being human.

In this episode, I sit down with transformational life coach, Kundalini yoga teacher, and Sacred Alchemy podcast host Elizabeth Hudson for a deeply expansive conversation about sacred sexuality, shame, spiritual connection, and reclaiming pleasure. We talk about the ways religion, purity culture, trauma, and societal conditioning disconnect people from their bodies and desires, and why so many people carry shame around the very energy that created them. Elizabeth breaks down the sacral chakra, sexual energy as creative force, and the connection between spirituality, embodiment, pleasure, and healing. 

We also talk about:

• healing sexual trauma through somatic work, breathwork, and nervous system regulation

• why pleasure is your birthright and not something to feel guilty about

• the connection between spirituality, sensuality, and divine energy

• conscious partnership and creating deeper intimacy through presence and awareness

• feminine energy, embodiment, and reclaiming pleasure without shame

• why creativity and sexuality are more connected than most people realise

  
  

If you have ever struggled with shame around your body, your pleasure, or your desires, this episode is your reminder that there is nothing inherently wrong with your sexuality. Your body is not something to disconnect from. It is something to come home to. 

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https://www.instagram.com/elizabeth.hudson11/

https://elizabeth-hudson.com/sexual-alchemy-podcast/

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