Come Together with Erin + Abe Lichy

The new RHONY season has begun and Erin and Abe are finally talking about it. They clear up the headlines (disputes, not debts — there’s a real difference), react to the Jessel moments, and discuss what it’s actually like watching yourself on TV months after filming. Also on the agenda: Mezcalum updates, Lioness is a must-watch, and they’re heading to Paris for Fashion Week — including a Celine Dion concert that Abe was once dragged to and definitely, absolutely cried at.

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Brooke Taylor — career coach and author of Healing the Success Wound — comes on to talk about the thing high-achieving women don't want to admit: that the drive to do more, be more, and accomplish more is sometimes a wound dressed up as ambition. She breaks down the five types of unfulfilled achievers (Erin immediately claims "work hard, play hard" and "grinder," which tracks), why dopamine hits in the anticipation of success and not the success itself, and what it actually looks like to want things without making your whole identity contingent on getting them.

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September was a lot. Erin's been running around nonstop, Abe's been holding down the fort, and Levi got himself on a yacht. They kick things off with the Stassi Schroeder show — what Abe related to about Beau, why a man suffering on camera is actually not that complicated, and the five-second editing format that might be changing reality TV forever. Then it's audience questions: spacing out your kids, night nurses (and why Erin didn't get one until baby four), sleep training without the cry-it-out guilt, keeping the spark alive when you have four kids and approximately zero time, and whether the spark even has to be there all the time. Spoiler: it doesn't.

Also, go outside. Get off the apps.

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Erin's out. Abe's in charge. What could go wrong.

This week Abe takes your questions solo — and doesn't sugarcoat a single answer. Should your spouse come before your kids? Yes. Is it okay to go to bed angry? Also yes. Is a little jealousy healthy? Absolutely. Are men actually simple creatures? Mostly, but they need more hugs than they'll ever admit.

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For a long time, Erin has been waiting to open up about how grief has shown up in her life. But the time wasn't right, until now.

If you've ever lost someone and tried to keep moving anyway — you'll recognize this. The repressing, the distracting, the moment your body finally forces you to stop. Erin shares what happened after her dad died, what showed up physically when the grief ran out of places to hide, and how Nicole Sachs helped her understand what was actually going on.

Whether you've dealt with chronic pain, anxiety, autoimmune stuff, or just feel like your body is working against you, this episode is for you.

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Serena Kerrigan is in the building, and she has a book, a boyfriend, and approximately 600 men worth of dating experience to draw from. We cover all of it.

We get into why wanting a relationship has somehow become embarrassing, why the talking stage is ruining everything, and why butterflies might actually be a red flag. Serena makes the case for rebranding dating as fun — and explains why the women who stop trying so hard are always the ones who find someone. We also get into first date etiquette (drinks, not dinner, and definitely not Nobu), why sex on the first date almost always leads to spiraling, and what it actually means to let yourself be pursued without losing your edge.

Her book Let's Fcking Date is out September 22nd.

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Okay, hear us out...

Erin's not here this week. So naturally Abe brought in a very special guest: Claude. Yeah, the AI. We're honestly just suprised it took him this long to do it.

Together, they cover AI relationships, consciousness, mortality, the three things quietly killing most marriages, and whether presence can survive the attention economy. It's a philosophy episode disguised as something weirder.

We know. Just trust us on this one.

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We're recording this one from the Maidstone in East Hampton, which means we're relaxed, slightly sleep-deprived, and ready to get into it.

The topic: scorekeeping in relationships — what it actually looks like, why it's so easy to fall into, and how defensiveness is basically its evil twin. We get into the detail-oriented partner debate (Erin has thoughts, Abe has counterpoints, neither fully wins), why how you ask for help matters as much as asking for it, and what it actually means to operate as a unit instead of two people keeping tabs.

We also go on a tangent about the algorithm, cancel culture, comment section wars, and why people who curse at old ladies in their cars are the same people saying unhinged things online. It made sense in the moment. Enjoy!

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It's just Erin today, and I've got a lot to say.

You sent in your marriage questions and I'm answering all of them — unfiltered, no notes, no Abe to interrupt me. We get into the biggest lesson marriage has actually taught me, how to know when a relationship is worth fighting for versus when to walk away, and whether love is enough. (The answer is complicated.)

Also: why I don't think happy couples fight less, why intimacy can't be optional, what it actually means to reconnect after a big argument, and why you should absolutely be paying attention to how your partner treats their mother.

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We get into the husband habits that need to be addressed (loud chewing is a crime, dental hygiene is private), why Erin didn't change her name for 11 years and what finally made her do it, and the sorority hazing story that has genuinely never come up before. It involves rotten eggs, a basement, and something we're not going to explain further. You'll have to listen.

We also revisit the chase — why playing it a little cool still works, why over-texting kills the vibe even when you're married, and why some version of mystery is just always gonna be hot. Plus: House of the Dragon, the Rothschilds, and whether two people in a relationship can both be shopaholics. (They cannot.)

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