Coming Out Late

Life coach Sarah Ott joins Robin to shed light on her own coming out late experience and why she believes in the power of authenticity and being the best version of yourself.

In this episode, you will learn…

• How Sarah grew up feeling like she just always felt different
• Following the path she thought she should but still feeling unfulfilled
• Deconstructing her religious programming and connecting the dots about her sexuality
• Shifting from couples therapy to individual therapy to coming out
• Why it’s so important to listen to your body and stop ignoring what you feel
• How Sarah is the best version of herself now, even after she finally broke
• Letting fear go and the difference between surviving and thriving
• Sarah’s experience of keeping her divorce separate from her sexuality
• Sarah’s current relationship status and what led her to start a coaching business
• The power of being aligned to fulfill our purpose in authenticity

Links to resources:

Sarah Ott - Email: [email protected]

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahottcoaching

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahottcoaching/

Website: sarahottcoaching.com

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: [email protected].

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: [email protected] and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

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Happy Birthday to Women Loving Women! Robin shares exciting news about the upcoming Speaker Summit, opportunities to be a guest on the Coming Out Late podcast, and helpful advice for online dating and long distance relationships.

In this episode, you will learn…

• Happy 1 Year to Women Loving Women!
• Top 3% news and request for podcast sponsors, logos, and branding ideas
• Details about the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit
• Addressing internalized homophobia and how it impacted Robin’s life
• Upcoming podcast topics and call for parents willing to have their children on the show
• Red flags of online dating apps and how to avoid scammers
• Questions about long distance relationships and advice for managing them  

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: [email protected].

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: [email protected] and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!!

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Robin talks with late bloomer Dawn Noble about the influence of her religious upbringing, how she finally embraced who she really is and the loving relationship she’s found now, and details about her work helping other couples connect with PACT therapy.

In this episode, you will learn…

• How being raised with 12 siblings in a Latter Day Saints home impacted her
• How Purity culture taught her to keep her cards to herself about being gay
• Confessing her first gay experience and then abstaining from women for 10 years
• What led Dawn to eventually pursue the life she wanted for herself
• Rushing into her first gay marriage and balancing joy and grief
• Setting boundaries, shifting into a new relationship and healing her inner child
• Remembering you don’t have the power to change anybody but yourself
• How PACT therapy differs from other forms of therapy
• Understanding relationships require agreements that allow you to connect, disconnect, and repair so resentment doesn’t stay
• Recognizing your partner’s triggers: the bigger the response, the older the wound   

Links to resources:

Dawn Noble Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/Dawnanoble/

Click here to book a FREE 15-minute Consultation with Dawn: https://app.squarespacescheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=24623606

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: [email protected].

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: [email protected] and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!!

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Robin welcomes late bloomer Kristie Brassard to share her exploration of being gay, coming out late, and living a life of authentic love.

In this episode, you will learn…

• Kristie’s experience of growing up with a lack of representation
• Recognizing the complicated programming of what we think we should want in life
• Kristie’s research phase of being gay and coming out to her therapist
• Acknowledging the support and guilt Kristie felt during her separation
• Mental gymnastics of coming out and why you should grieve your past life
• Understanding your transformation will have pain, but beautiful things can come from it
• Give yourself permission to feel your feelings and honor them
• How moving through discomfort led Kristie to the genuine, authentic life she has now
• Reminder that you’re never too old and it’s never too late

Links to resources:

Kristie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lateinlifeguide/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelateinlifeguide

Website: https://lateinlifeguide.com/

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: [email protected].

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: [email protected] and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Julia Ruiz Hoffman, Founder of Bloomers Society, a safe community to gather and meet other women who are also coming out later in life: https://www.bloomerssociety.com

Melisa and Alli of The Lesbian Chronicles Podcast found wherever you listen to podcasts!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!!

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Late bloomer Kathy Kiger joins Robin and shares her incredible story of coming out late, how her family reacted, and what her life is like one year later.

In this episode, you will learn…

• Kathy’s religious upbringing and when the gay started to creep up
• Avoiding her inner voice and what it was like raising 4 kids after divorce
• How her business mentorship led to a beautiful revelation
• Acknowledging the mental gymnastics of internalized homophobia and trying to Christian harder
• The incredible experience of coming out as a family and supporting each other
• Kathy’s dating life since coming out and using different dating apps
• How identifying as gay has impacted Kathy’s life and appearance
• Details about Kathy’s coach and coming out while on a zoom call—in a closet 

Links to resources:

For all-things Kathy Kiger, go to her website at: https://www.BetterLateThanStraight.com or https://www.instagram.com/betterlatethanstraight/

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: [email protected].

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: [email protected] and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

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Robin talks with Julia Ruiz Hoffman, founder of Bloomer’s Society, about her growing online community and how she is living her one wild and precious life.

In this episode, you will learn…

• Details about the Bloomers Society and Robin and Julia met
• The beauty of connections both online and in person
• Julia’s coming out story and growing up the good girl
• How Julia ended her marriage and where they are now
• Life is not linear and there will be a lot of hiccups and bumps along the way
• The power of making the right decision for yourself
• Collaborative divorce and throwing up rainbows
• Recognizing the vulnerability of your partner before, during, and after separation
• The need for breaks: Takeout, Netflix, and NO feelings
• Julia’s coaching and counseling experience and how she’s adapting retreats 

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: [email protected].

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: [email protected] and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Julia Ruiz Hoffman, Founder of Bloomers Society, a safe community to gather and meet other women who are also coming out later in life: https://www.bloomerssociety.com

Melisa and Alli of The Lesbian Chronicles Podcast found wherever you listen to podcasts!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

Support the show

Robin shares a Late Bloomer’s coming out story that captures different stages of her confusion, acceptance, devastation, and guilt and how ultimately she just wants to be happy, along with the ones she loves.

In this episode, you will learn…

• Growing up without realizing being gay is an option
• Acknowledging the heartbreak of first crushes
• Realizing the Haunting of Bly Manor is the first healthy lesbian relationship she’s witnessed
• I am super gay but it’s too late since I’ve been married for 30+ years
• Her sister’s response when she finally shares that she’s gay
• The blessing of finding a supportive community after the devastation of telling her husband
• What it was like to finally end her marriage and how it feels to salvage their friendship
• Remembering hurting someone you love sucks but it doesn’t mean you deserve to take on shame or guilt

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: [email protected] and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

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Robin shares a common challenge of finding the right time to embrace your truth and the importance of knowing you’re never alone in this journey!

In this episode, you will learn…

• The problem of not wanting to put your children through a divorce
• Recognizing there is no perfect time to be true to yourself or to teach children that people change
• From delaying hurt and confusion to having people survive and thrive
• Don’t stay trapped or unhappy for anyone, especially your kids
• 10 Key Takeaways from this story:

1. Our stories are relatable, sharing is imperative to feel hope and inspiration

2. None of us are ever truly alone in this journey, no matter how it might feel

3. You are all stronger than you believe you are

4. It will get better, no matter how impossible it may seem today

5. Freedom and happiness does lie ahead

6. Know that you’re not alone (yes, it’s worth repeating)

7. The unknown is scary but the leap is so worth it

8. You’re not alone (I really want you to get that message)

9. You have an amazing community of supporters

10. We are all in this together and we will all come out on the other side, no matter what the other side looks like

• An invitation to climb to the top of Mount Fear

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: [email protected] and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

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Robin shares different responses of people reflecting on the past year and the power of embracing the changes you experience!

In this episode, you will learn…

• Exciting updates about upcoming guests, Facebook group and Bloomer’s Society
• Finding the light at the end of the tunnel if you’re in the messy middle of coming out
• Reflecting on the most significant difference in your life from this time last year
• How Robin is changing her language to reflect her current journey of launching a small service business
• Remembering it’s better late than never because it’s never too late

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: [email protected] and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

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Cosmos Kumar shares the power of embracing your truth, nurturing relationships and being okay with knowing the only constant in life is change.

In this episode, you will learn…

• Cosmos’ background and why she calls herself a Universalist
• Nobody deserves to be in pain and nobody should be in a situation where they’re unhappy
• Why Cosmos loves synchronicity and following nature
• When Cosmos began to feel inklings about her identity and sexuality
• Advice for those coming out to themselves during the pandemic
• Give yourself permission to be who you want to be and trust yourself that you know who you are
• How Cosmos’ son, friends and family reacted to her coming out
• Appreciating other people’s lifestyles instead of shutting them down
• Owning your truth and knowing it can change whenever you want
• Understanding bisexuality and confusion about the LGQBTI+ spectrum
• Details about Cosmic Soul Coaching

Links to resources:

Cosmos/Meenakshi Kumar, MD: you can find Cosmos and her Bio and ALL of her coaching services at: Link tree: https://linktr.ee/docmk; FB: https://facebook/groups/docmk; Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/docminx/; Art: internalescence.etsy.com Blog: https://wonderwomansearches.com/. Dr. Kumar, MD, also mentioned the book, "The Fountainhead", by Ayn Rand: One of the 20th century's most challenging novels of ideas, The Fountainhead champions the cause of individualism through the story of a gifted young architect who defies the tyranny of conventional public opinion.

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: [email protected] and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

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