Coming Up Clutch with J.R. Helping Pro and Executive Athletes maximize their success and significance

FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real

When I first saw this acronym, a BIG light bulb went off. For the first time, I realized that there's absolutely ZERO truth behind the door of our fear. Although WHAT we fear isn't real, the WHY behind our fear is. …and a lot of it has to do with the lies we believe or the lie-based stories we tell ourselves.

So, what do you do when you feel trapped by your fear?

Today's Guest answers this question and then some. This week, I sit down with 22-year U.S. Navy Veteran, Executive Director of Warfighter Advance, and Internationally Recognized Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Mary Vieten. For decades, this woman has helped American war heroes overcome their fears and severe levels of trauma. She's going to break down how we can master ours.

Dr. Mary draws from personal stories and real-life experiences while she unpacks a range of topics from hilarious military moments to serious mental health concerns. Join us as we reflect on the strength of overcoming fear and trauma, as well as the significance of showing up for those who come to us in times of need.

If you want to overcome your fears more confidently and consistently, then don't miss today's episode.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• What to do when you feel like you're trapped by your fear.
• Signs that you're dealing with unresolved trauma.
• How you could be a better citizen, friend, and family member in today's crazy world.
• Importance of faith, forgiveness, empathy, genuine relationships, and unconditional positive regard in the healing process.
• The unfortunate case of a military man's struggle with the mental health system's over-reliance on medication.
• The power of overcoming fear and trauma and how societal conditioning often instills fear of our own feelings.
• Dr. Mary's plea to shift from living as human doings to thriving as human beings.

Key Quotes

• When someone is sharing their struggle with you, your first response shouldn't be, 'You should talk to someone.' It should be to tell yourself to 'shut up and listen.' - Dr. Mary Vieten
• Instead of retreating from your fear, look at it. - Dr. Mary Vieten
• The answers to our challenges are already built into our body and brain - we just don't take the time to access them. - Dr. Mary Vieten
• We need to be more focused on being human BEings, not human DOings and TALKings. - Dr. Mary Vieten

Connect with Dr. Mary

• Website: www.warfighteradvance.org
• Medicating Normal Movie: www.medicatingnormal.com
• Facebook: @warfighteradvancereintegration | https://www.facebook.com/warfighteradvancereintegration
• Instagram: @warfighter_advance | https://www.instagram.com/warfighter_advance/
• LinkedIn: @warfighter-advance | https://www.linkedin.com/company/warfighter-advance%E2%84%A2/

Connect with J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
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• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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How well do you respond to things not going as planned? Are you a blamer? Complainer? Rager?

Life's detours are tough, but I've found pit stops to be even tougher. So what do you do in those seasons when you feel like your progress towards your purpose and goals is halted?…like you got out of life's race and find yourself in an unplanned pit stop confused, frustrated, or even depressed?

In today's 5 Minute Drill, I'm kicking off a 4-part series on purpose pit stops. There's a recurring theme I'm hearing from my clients and the guys in my Clutch Club that I feel needs to be addressed. If we don't address it, any goal you set will be shallow. And that's speaking from firsthand experience!

If you want a better approach to breaking through the pit stops in your life, then lock in to today's Drill. You'll get plenty of insights on resilience and how to step into a future that aligns with your values.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• The underutilized source of power during periods of uncertainty and how it can provide you peace and clarity.
• Life lessons learned from interactions with renowned celebrities and executives.
• The benefits of seeing life's pit stops as purposeful pauses rather than setbacks.
• Key insights from J.R.'s personal struggles with depression, disconnection from his values, and the eventual renewal of purpose and strength.
• Strategies for resilience and ways to unleash your best capabilities to create a better future.
• The importance of staying aligned with your values and maintaining a strong relationship with your family, especially even in challenging times.

Connect with J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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Are you feeling stuck in a toxic work environment and don't know what to do? Leadership coach and TEDx speaker, Rob Kalwarowsky, joins us to provide insight into this very issue. As a former star athlete who struggled with acceptance from his father, Rob understands the impact of toxic leadership and the power of personal growth. Together, we explore the importance of self-care and self-awareness in navigating professional and personal obstacles.

Toxic leadership impacts us all, whether at work or in our personal lives. Rob illuminates the journey from depression to a TED Talk, showcasing the importance of mindset and self-work. We also delve into the realm of subconscious programming and how it influences our decision-making process.

Additionally, we explore the significance of seeking professional help during difficult times. Rob emphasizes the power of asking for help when overcoming toxic situations and shares insights on how to identify toxic relationships. If you've ever found yourself in a toxic situation and didn't know how to escape, this episode is for you. Listen in as we discuss the importance of self-awareness, personal growth, and breaking free from toxic situations.

In this episode, you will hear:

• The experience and impact of toxic leadership.
• Importance of personal growth, self-work, and the necessity of professional help when struggling with oppressive situations or toxic leadership.
• The role of mindset in personal and professional success.
• Exploration of subconscious programming and its influence on decision-making processes.
• The consequences of working under toxic bosses.
• The need to recognize toxic relationships and the importance of seeking help when needed.
• How to take control of your professional environment, make conscious decisions, and break free from toxic environments.

Key Quotes

• "You can do anything in a short period of time."
• "You need to become the leader of you."
• "As you grow, you need to uplevel the folks around you."
• "Don't fight the fear. Give love and compassion to it."

Resources from this Episode

• Website: https://www.howtodealboss.com/ | https://www.elitehighperformance.com/
• $50 OFF How to Deal with an Asshole Boss Program (use promo code: CLUTCH): https://elitehighperformance.mykajabi.com/offers/XhaHniY2/checkout
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rob-kalwarowsky/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bosscoachrobk/
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bosscoachrobk
• On-Demand program: https://www.howtodealboss.com/howtodealwithanassholeboss

Connect with J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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How much energy and brain space do your problems and challenges take up?

Let's be honest, they take up more space than we typically want to admit. Two approaches usually happen when hurdles pop up:

#1: complain

#2: do everything humanly possible to find solutions to them (and don't stop until they're solved).

#2 seems better than #1, right? That's what us high achievers do…we find solutions. But at what cost?

Oftentimes, it's burnout. Because we have a tendency to OBSESS about solving our problems, even when it's not our problem to solve. Then we wonder why we have more problems and less blessings in life.

In today's 5 Minute Drill, let's talk about how to put yourself in position to receive more blessings in life. There's a key paradigm shift and process surrounding life problems that I want to share with you. I believe with every bone in my body that it will position you for more blessings and miracles in your life.

If you want a better approach to addressing your problems and put yourself in better position to receive more blessings, then lock in to today's Drill.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• The key paradigm shift and process that will position you for more blessings and miracles.
• The "L.A.P.S." acronym for overcoming challenges.
• The importance of surrendering your challenges and problems.
• The significance of concentrating on the source of the blessing vs. the problem.

KEY QUOTES

"Your problem gets more persistent when your Provider isn't in it." - J.R.

CONNECT WITH J.R.

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• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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Confidence. When you see the word, what comes to mind?

"I want more of it."

That's typically the response I get from people. What about you? What would your life and leadership look like if you had more confidence?

On today's episode of the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show, I sit down with Paul Epstein - the man who took the NBA's Los Angeles Clippers from #28 in sales to #2. NUMBER 2! I'd say it took some confidence to walk into a role in what seemed like a lose-lose situation. That's Paul's M.O. The guy has a track record in the NFL and NBA for making great decisions and turning low morale teams into confident and courageous overachievers, even in the most uncertain of times. And we tap into all of that on today's show!

In this episode, you'll hear:

• The two keys to overcoming uncertainty
• How to close the confidence gap
• How to make better decisions faster
• The role of core values in building unshakeable confidence and making more impactful decisions
• Maintaining resilience, acknowledging your worth, and living a values-driven life
• The "Head, Heart, Hands" equation as a tool for making better decisions

Connect with Paul

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paulepsteinspeaks/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paulepsteinspeaks/
• Website: https://www.paulepsteinspeaks.com/
• Paul's Latest Book: Better Decisions Faster
• Take Paul's Confidence Quiz: https://www.paulepsteinspeaks.com/confidence-quiz

Connect with J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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Ever found yourself boxing up your life into neat categories only to end up feeling drained and out of balance? Join me as I unravel my personal journey of navigating through a stressful season of my life, where compartmentalizing each aspect left me with an unnecessary cognitive load and feeling imbalance. With real-life experiences and some hard-hitting truths, I reveal how to shift our focus from compartmentalization to collaboration among different areas of our lives.

In this episode, I unveil my transformation from having competing categories to collaborating ones and the mindfulness it entailed. Learn how I introspected and made intentional changes in my life that led to a noticeable shift in my overall demeanor.

You won't want to miss this episode!

In this episode, you will hear:

• How compartmentalizing life into boxes can lead to stress and imbalance.
• My journey of transforming stress into serenity through mindful strategies and intentional energy allocation.
• How to create a life where categories collaborate instead of competing against each other.
• The importance of auditing and reflecting on one's life to improve performance in all areas is emphasized.
• The concept of treating life's categories as members of a symphony, all meant to work in harmony.

Connect with J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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Listen in as I welcome Billie Jauss to the show! Billie is the author of Making Room and The Distraction Detox. She's also a keynote speaker, host of The Family Room podcast, and has served as a mentor to Major League Baseball wives for over three decades. Billie shares insights from overcoming personal tragedy and from her vast experience in professional baseball inspiring others to live life to the fullest. During our conversation, Billie uncovers the emotional toxins of fear, unbelief, and shame, as well as shares her 5-Step plan on how to navigate the ups and downs of life with strength and courage.

Billie gets real and helps us explore what to do when you're feeling discouraged and have allowed your thoughts to bully you. She also teaches us how to hear God's voice amidst the craziness of life. Just wait until you hear Billie's story of faith and obedience in the face of a family tragedy! It's inspiring to say the least.

If you want to detox from all the distractions making your life and career more difficult, then lock in to today's episode!

In this episode, you'll hear:

• The impact that emotional toxins have on our faith and spiritual health.
• How to identify, evaluate, and terminate emotional toxins.
• 5-Step strategy to overcome negative thinking and toxic thought patterns.
• Practical advice on how to hear God's voice amidst life's chaos.
• Insight on how to build stronger relationships.

KEY QUOTES

• "You'll forget what's possible with God if you're caught up in the impossible." - Billie Jauss
• "You can't, but God can. Just take one step at a time." - Billie Jauss
• "By giving in to your emotional toxins, you're not stopping God…you're stopping him from moving through you." - Billie Jauss
• "Just because tragedy strikes doesn't mean that God isn't there." - Billie Jauss
• "When we have our heads filled with our own inner voice, we're not able to hear God's." - Billie Jauss

CONNECT WITH BILLIE

• Instagram: @billie_jauss
• Twitter: @billiejauss
• Facebook: @billiejaussauthor
• Website: https://www.billiejauss.com
• Book: The Distraction Detox
• Book: Making Room: Doing Less So God Can Do More

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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Today, we're going to talk about what to do in those moments where you feel under attack by the people closest to you. When I say under attack, I'm talking about those moments when something was said to you that triggered negative emotions, or when someone called you out on something you didn't like being called out on. This topic means a lot to me because, if I'm being honest, the passionate half-Italian athlete in me has failed SO many times in these moments. But, I've learned a ton from them and want to share a strategy that's going to help you stay strong in those moments instead of falling apart.

Lock in to find out how to turn challenging moments into powerful, win-win opportunities.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• How acknowledging and owning your feelings can be a powerful tool for personal growth and emotional maturity
• How to prevent yourself from bottling up your feelings
• A four step method for transitioning from being emotionally triggered to responding objectively
• Analysis of the common tendency to view loved ones as liabilities instead of assets, with strategies to shift this perspective

KEY QUOTES

"Ignoring your feelings is the fuel for falling apart." - J.R.

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
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• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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Join me and my Special Guest, Phil Nicaud, a seasoned entrepreneur and the CEO of Legendary Leadership Consultants. Phil has coached hundreds of top-level leaders across America and has become their highly confidential and strategic sounding board and tactical coach in his role at Legendary. On today's episode, we explore several topics around leadership and personal development. Listen in as Phil shares insights from his multifaceted life, ranging from his time in the U.S. Marine Corps to running multiple successful businesses. Phil's story is filled with lessons, from the importance of relationships and mentoring to the difference between a Christian leader and a Kingdom leader.

As we talk about his book "Our Secret Life," Phil and I unpack the three different lives people often live. Be inspired by Phil's take on how generosity and giving are prominent attributes in the secret lives of his clients.

Today's conversation will provide you with fresh perspectives on leadership, accountability, and relationships. Whether you're an aspiring leader or a seasoned veteran, you're going to find several nuggets of wisdom from Phil's experiences.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Phil's most embarrassing moments and how he turned them into learning experiences.
• What drove Phil to write a book titled, "Our Secret Life"
• What the "E.P.A." Advantage is and how you can incorporate it into your life and leadership
• What top leaders do intentionally to protect their leadership position
• The importance of relationships and mentoring in leadership, including the concepts of input, output, and neutral relationships
• The concept of 'secret lives' in business and the impact of these hidden aspects on leadership and personal development.
• Key questions to ask yourself when it comes to personal and professional growth
• The distinction between a Christian leader and a Kingdom leader

KEY QUOTES

• "People who fall hard fall alone." - Phil Nicaud
• "When you realize how short life is, you wisen up." - Phil Nicaud
• "You have to learn how to let the right people in. You cannot live isolated." - Phil Nicaud
• "The learning process isn't complete until you give it away." - Phil Nicaud
• "Who's close enough to you that they can see every part of your life, and you're OK with it?" - Phil Nicaud
• "Relationships are messy, but they're worth it." - Phil Nicaud
• "Grit is good, but God's grace is better." - Phil Nicaud
• "God cares way less about what you're doing and cares way more about who you're becoming." - Phil Nicaud

CONNECT WITH PHIL

• Instagram: @phil.nicaud (https://www.instagram.com/phil.nicaud/)
• Linkedin: /in/phil-nicaud (https://www.linkedin.com/in/phil-nicaud-6a58a536/)
• Website: https://legendaryleadershipconsultants.com/
• Book: Our Secret Life (https://amzn.to/3qcWc4s)

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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If you've ever felt overwhelmed by endless options and paralyzed by decisions, you're not alone. We're diving into the concept of discipline this week, discussing how constraints can be our greatest ally in this battle, helping us focus on what truly matters.

In this episode, we delve into the neuroscience of peak performance and how limits can trigger flow, reducing cognitive load and maximizing our capacity. We discuss the paradox of choice, exploring how an overabundance of options can leave us stuck in our tracks. We also touch upon how Steve Jobs harnessed the power of constraints to achieve greatness. Join us on this captivating journey to conquer the enemy of discipline and achieve your highest potential.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Understanding the power of constraints in achieving discipline and peak performance.
• Examining the neuroscience of peak performance and how constraints can trigger flow and reduce cognitive load.
• Discussing the paradox of choice and how too many options can lead to decision paralysis.
• The role of constraints in Steve Jobs' success.
• Providing a practical drill to identify constraints in one's life and maintain discipline amidst numerous choices.

Connect with J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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