Cómo Cae La Luz: Preguntas De Un Coach Que Reflejan La Esencia De Nuestros Miedos Y Anhelos

"It’s easy to compare your current level of skill or ability with someone else. It becomes overwhelming and gives the ground for your mind to create an internal narrative that diminishes your self-worth by a single measurement."   

"The reason why it is ridiculous to do such comparisons is that we are simplifying our lives and the lives of others into a single game. At the end of the day, everyone has their own struggle. Sometimes visible to others, sometimes not."  

"We are all playing different games. At some point, you should acknowledge that most likely you are on top of another hierarchy were literally thousands of people struggle to get the position that you currently have."    

"We all choose to put our eggs in different baskets. Your allocation of resources (time, energy, attention) might not be better or worst… Just different. So please, if the current allocation of resources is not fitting your goals … don’t complain, change it."

Some features of Flow  

- The state is achieved by pursuing challenging but attainable tasks 

- Brings strong focused concentration 

 - The activity is intrinsically rewarding - Feeling of serenity 

- Loss of self- consciousness  

- Timelessness - Lack of awareness of physical needs 

- Complete focus  

Reference:  Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

"Money is a fictional story. It is a collective agreement rather than an objective reality.   In other words, it doesn’t have intrinsic value. You cannot eat it, drink it or wear it."   

“Money is the most successful story ever invented and told by humans, and that’s because everyone believes in it. Nationalism, God, Human rights is something not everyone believes in, but everyone believes in the dollar bill." Yuval Noah Harari  

"Social studies tell us that money doesn’t bring happiness. Yet, we know that the lack of money, is in fact, correlated with unhappiness."  

"Money in itself is fuel. It reveals who you really are and allows you to do more of what you are already doing."  

5 principles for smart spending (Happy Money by Michael Norton and Elizabeth Dunn): 

1. Buy experiences, rather than material things. 

2. Make it a treat, meaning that if you reduce the frequency of specific pleasures, you will appreciate them more. 

3. Buy time, outsource low-return activities so that you can spend your time in more meaningful activities. 

4. Adjust to a lifestyle you can afford instead of living on credit. Being in debt is more a source of stress in the long term. Delaying consumption allows us to reap the pleasures of anticipation. 

5. Invest in others, it makes you happier than spending the money on yourself.   

More money is not the solution for your life if you are still spending it on the wrong things.

"A true mentor guides you through the path of self-discovery."   

“The adequate teacher provides the tools for unobstructed self-expression… He teaches you to get out of your own way. He pushes you to the stretch point. He dances with you at the edge of your ability”.  Josh Waitzkin  

A valuable mentor conveys: 

1. The power of loving yourself in the scope of your own process. 

2. The importance of defining what is meaningful and the reasons why you devote yourself to your art. 

3. The significance of honoring the struggle. 

4. The need for creating and not only replicating. 

5. The value of enhancing relationships that support your goals and that are ready to catch you when you fall.  

6. The difference between quitting because of hardship and quitting because it isn’t the right thing for who you are. 

 "Remember to inspire by example, and communicate honest appreciation. In addition, help them to be the person they aspire to be, not who you aspire to be."

"You cannot be a figure of inspiration for someone without being at the same time a reason for a laugh for another one."  

"The judgment of skill comes from a point of reference."   What you might not realize is that by not sharing your progress you are taking away the possibility to inspire someone who looks up to you."  

"The reality is that your work/progress can always be appreciated… only if you can acknowledge that it will also be judged as ordinary, mediocre and average for others.  * "A sense of relief comes when you stop showing your milestones with the intention of earning validation and respect, and realize that every milestone you achieve gets you closer to adopt a new identity."   

James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, expresses that "every action you take is a vote for the type of person you want to become. Therefore, the goal is not to run a marathon, the goal is to become a runner. Similarly, the goal is not to write a book, the goal is to become a writer."   

"To adopt a “new identity” you don’t need to be part of the elite group of the best in the world. Understand that at whatever stage you are in your journey you have the power to inspire others using your own story of how you arrived to do something you couldn’t do before."

"Are you quitting because it is too difficult? Are you quitting because you don’t see the progress? Perhaps because it makes you feel incompetent?  None of the reasons above are good indicators to quit."  

"What then is a good reason to quit? To my knowledge, you have the right to quit when you realize that... it is not right enough for who you are TODAY."   "Getting emotionally attached to an activity you spent a lot of energy, emotion, attention, or money to obtain reflects what in economics is known as the “Sunk Cost Fallacy”."   

"Do you really want to get to the top of the mountain only to notice you climbed the wrong mountain? Today you can take a new decision with new information."  

"Treat quitting as a lifesaver, as if you only had a couple to use in your lifetime. Stick with something until you realize it is not helping you get where you want."