Cómo Cae La Luz: Preguntas De Un Coach Que Reflejan La Esencia De Nuestros Miedos Y Anhelos

Everyone has the responsibility to create, to give... not only to consume  

"The marketing argument to convince the adaptation of the mainstream culture was that it would make you feel part of the community. It makes you feel validated by others by having a common topic to talk about."   

"You have to filter what you consume on a daily basis to avoid thrash content."   

"To start applying, you need to start creating."  

"Write your ideas to organize them much deeper in your head. Make them visible, share them as a gift to the world.   

"At best, you will be involved in a thoughtful disagreement where the weaknesses and the blind spots of your creation will raise to the surface."   

Call for action: 

"I beg you to evaluate the quality of the content you consume, to consider creating today with what you have learned, and to engage in open discussions. "  

"We need more of your thoughtful perspectives, otherwise, we will keep drowning in average content, irrelevant news, uninformed views, and ultimately in the wrong conversations."

"Managing the tension between your present self and your future self requires thoughtful design."   

"It is through the concept of delayed gratification that the present self shows how much one cares for the future self."  "Future self has to pay for the regret of the unexplored potential."  

"You either get the pain from the experience or later for the regret."  

"You don’t want to be the addict who jumps from one shiny object to the next in search of more dopamine only to realize that every expedient experience will never fulfill you inside."   

"On the other hand, taking life too seriously by assuming too much responsibility can distract you from spending enough time with loved ones and losing sensibility and appreciation for the ordinary things."'

In order to build consistency, try applying this framework:  

1. Your core values need to align with your daily actions. The reason why you might struggle to create new habits is because you either don’t value them enough to rewire your lifestyle or you are captured by a self-limiting belief.  You have to be exposed to other people that value those habits. Don’t look at their results, observe their lifestyle and processes, and ask yourself if you are willing to commit to those. 

2. Strong reasons, will bring strong motivation. When you start running out of the emotional drive you need to tap into the reason why you cannot stop, the reason you doing this in the first place, and why you cannot fail the people who count on you.   

3. Specificity will bring clarity: when, where, and how The more clear you are on the details the better your probability to succeed will be.  

WOOP Wish: Explicitly articulate  what it is that you want Outcome: Visualize how the end result would it look like, and how it would feel Obstacles: What could go wrong Plan: How can you tackle those obstacles  

James Clears advice to - Optimize the physical environment to facilitate starting. You want your environment to trigger to do a behavior.   

- Every time you succeed, give yourself a treat.  

- Accumulation of actions becomes the evidence of who you are. The goal is not to change behavior, process or results but rather to reshape your identity   

Tips for you 

- Lower your standard, make every day achievable. 10min of imperfect work will always be better than the ideal 60-minute session that never happens. 

- Go for incremental progress, and be kind to yourself. Reprogramming your unconscious, and managing your emotional self is by no means easy - Get support from the people around you, hire a coach if you need guidance - Build your own pace, don’t feel pressured to deliver results fast  

Reference: 

Gabriele Oettingen -  Rethinking Positive Thinking: Inside the New Science of Motivation 

James Clear - Atomic Habits

The key to acquiring knowledge, building skills, and strengthening your relationships is consistency. 

This episode was made to present what I consider a more appropriate mindset regarding this topic:  

People like intensity because 

-  Is easy to measure 

- Due to our wiring for instant gratification 

- Our inability to see how small, unsexy, smart decisions on a consistent basis lead to incomprehensible results 

 “Not everything that counts can be counted, and not everything that can be counted, counts.” Albert Einstein  

High Performers Play the long game. In other words, they ask themselves “what do I need to today to be great 8 - 10 years?” The volume of reps is still the priority, but they drop the expectation for quick improvement. Learn to appreciate the feeling of accomplishing the task of the day   

Keep an eye for part 2 where I will be breaking down how to create better habits, and how to build more endurance and consistency.

Principles for Deliberate Practice  

1. Treat your work as a science 

2. You get better by modeling the experts on the field, studying the work of masters. 

3. Record yourself and study yourself failing 

4. Have access to immediate and consistent feedback from others (especially those who have had much more exposure than you)  

Understand that even if you are putting the time and the effort to learn something… the cruel reality is that it doesn’t mean you are actually getting better at it. The end goal is to be mindful at all times of what you are doing, how are you doing it, and more importantly… why you are doing it.  

References

Pomodoro Technique (Francesco Cirillo - 1980’s)

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Breaking down the work sessions in blocks of 25 minutes and adding a 5 min of break in between. Take a longer break of 30min after 4 pomodoros

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What do you do in the break? You should change your position, hydrate, eat a snack, get some movement, stretching, do exercises of deep breathing, turning off any input, or even just closing your eyes.

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You can get a lot done in just 25min but only if you are fully immersed in the activity. You cannot allow yourself to get distracted surfing on the web, in social media, answering messages. Make sure also you don’t get distracted by your environment or the people around you.

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Why is being a perfectionist screwing your work: 

1. Perfectionism is tight to a notion of entitlement  

2. Perfectionism reveals a discomfort to the uncertainty of not knowing if there are any missing pieces that would make your project perfect. "Perfect products delivered past deadline kill companies fast. Missing deadlines is often fatal" Tim Ferriss. 

3. Perfectionism is damaging to both your career and your artistry 

4. Whatever trait you exercise, it grows.       

Maladaptive perfectionism is the never-settle, unhappy state of mind. It happens when you beat up yourself for every imperfection  

Tips: Target any core beliefs related to entitlement Force yourself to work under always under a deadline Look for progress, not perfection   

References:  

Tim Ferriss - 4-hour workweek

Some thoughts based on the "Self-determination theory" on how to cultivate intrinsic motivation! Required factors to love your job:  

1. It has to catch your curiosity 

2. It has to challenge you enough 

3. Needs to fulfill three psychological needs: 

 - Autonomy: Feeling of control of your work and not as a slave to another person,  You are ultimately responsible for the outcome  

- Competence: Potential to get better at what you do 

- Relatedness: You feel a connection to people you work with

Focus on building skills and commitment to be extraordinary 

People who thrive at their job focus on Impact, mastery, connection, and being devoted to a larger cause. Passion money and status, come as a byproduct  

References:   

Daniel Pink - Drive   

Simon Sinek - Start with why   

Cal Newport - So good they can't ignore you