“I’m not going to take your ambition away, I’m just going to help you not drown in it.”

Michaela Thomas is a UK-based Clinical Psychologist and couples therapist with over fifteen years' experience. She established and runs The Thomas Connection, and has recently published a couples and compassion book called "The Lasting Connection". Michaela's special interests lie in Compassion Focused Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, perfectionism and couples relationships. The original YouTube video can be found here: https://youtu.be/wDgKDSBVUsU

Time Stamps:

2.24 Tell us a little bit about yourself, your work, your life.

5.05 Perfectionism: I must be perfect; self-criticism: I'm never good enough.

7.59 The three flows, or orientations, of perfectionism.

11.14 What is the definition of clinical perfectionism?

14.04 The potential downsides of perfectionism.

18.10 Tell us a little bit about your journey into compassion and self-compassion.

20.55 Fears, blocks and resistance to compassion and self-compassion.

22.01 The "inner mentor(s)" and the "inner tormentor".

25.34 Introducing the "Goblin Self" in compassion focused couples therapy.

28.16 What are your thoughts about guilt in the context of compassion focused couples therapy?

34.20 Working with forgiveness in compassion focused couples therapy.

36.09 The Lasting Connection by Michaela Thomas.

39.22 Where does tolerance fit in healthy couples relationships?

42.14 How do you differentiate love versus compassion?

48.31 Tell us a bit about any current or future projects that you might have on the go.

52.28 What are three tips you would offer others who are making their way on their own compassionate journey?

54.58 How can people find you, and engage with you and your work?

Website:

https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/

Social Media:

Facebook @thethomasconnection

Twitter @ThomasConnect

Instagram the_thomas_connection

Book:

The Lasting Connection https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/thelastingconnection/

The Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale:

https://hewittlab.psych.ubc.ca/measures-3/multidimensional-perfectionism-scale-2/