Episode 18: Part 2/2. See the commonalities in treatment approach to all things sexual, including mainstream and Complimentary and Alternative Medicine (C.A.M.). Part 1 in this series is here.

What do these 4 have in common? Persistent Genital Arousal Syndrome, Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder, Sex & Love Addiction

Whether you never want to have sex at all, have unwanted orgasms, pain during orgasm or sex addiction, most of these start under similar conditions. There is typically some combination of unhealthy male:female energy and sexual trauma during development, linking the two. They are actually separate things as previously discussed in Episode 17 and can be separated with a Mindshift. If that sounds like you, book an ancient male:female healing, read a couple of books, and visit a support groups to overcome anything and set any goal. If I can help, don't hesitate to contact me.

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Keep in mind, the male brain doesn't fully develop until age 33 and the female brain at age 25. Therefore, your sexual development is technically still continuing until the brain is fully mature. Of course, the younger you are when you have trauma, Adverse Childhood Event (ACE), the more the subconscious absorbed all of that energy and is carrying it forward. Fortunately, the brain can be rewired and you can learn to do it yourself. That is what a customized Mindshift Plan is all about.

Sex and Love Addiction

Yes, Sex and Love Addiction are two different things that often run together. For that reason there are separate 12-Step fellowships for each one: Sex Addicts Anonymous and Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. I recommend reading the small text book for the one that fits best first. Contacting local meetings isn't highly publicized due to the anonymity, so you'll first have to actually call or email the local contact to explain you're interested in a meeting and you're not from the media.

What get's missed often times is the Love Addiction. This is an addiction to intrigue, that exciting feeling you get when you first make eye with someone or think early-on in relationships that it's a fairy tale romance. Romance and the pursuit of the "new and exciting" creates the same chemical addiction to dopamine in the brain as crack cocaine, and plenty of adrenaline flows during flirtation. The body gets excited at merely the thought of the future with someone still unknown.

By way of disclosure, I got clean and sober at the age of 19 myself and was exposed to 12 Steps and fellowship throughout my younger years. My training helped validate what I already knew, that the 12 Steps are still the #1 most effective approach to addiction - but our culture attacks humility, which is direly needed in recovery. For some, the strings of conformity are just too strong to muster the courage to heal and change yourself, darkening the doorway to a sexual support group and availing yourself freely of the help as if your life depends on it. You can change.

https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Call-Love-Recovery-Addiction/dp/0553351389/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&sr=1-1

Mainstream Treatment for Sexual Addiction

Psychotherapy is always recommended because it had yielded amazing results in so many. Intensive Outpatient Programs are helpful for long-term lifestyle change. Mainstream treatment for sexual addiction is sparse, but making an appointment for symptomatic control and general mental health in early recovery can still be very grounding. Mood stabilizers sometimes help with impulsive decisions and mood swings that predispose addicts toward an impulsive relapse. I've seen naltrexone help with cravings for alcohol, gambling, opioid addiction, and unhealthy sexual impulses .

Smart Recovery

Nowadays, there are two other fellowship options besides the hundreds of 12 Step groups for various addictions: Smart Recovery and Celebrate Reco...

Episode 13: How I approach essential oils for muscle pain and neuropathy.

The oil from crushed plants is healing, and always has been

The term "essential oils" refers to the net result of all of the liquid, pasty material that can be extracted from the living plant. There are ways to extract plant compounds free from residual toxins and not tested on animals. Xylem, phloem, and compounds from the leaves and stems all have ingredients valuable for human health. The chemicals are very small, nanoparticle size, and penetrate through joint capsules where manmade pills do not. The only way mainstream, Western medicine can deliver a synthetic medication inside your joint capsules is with a needle or a knife. Thankfully, "Complimentary and Alternative Medicine, (CAM)" has been around for thousands of years.

My Non-Toxic Blend for Pain

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I wasn't always a fan of Essential Oils

I took the Hippocratic Oath in 2003 at the University of Texas Medical School at Houston. Primum non nocere = "first do no harm". I was trained to warn the public with case reports if I observe a public health problem. In 2014, I published this case report of a young woman with psychosis and inflammatory lesions on her brain after using a lavender product. However, my medical school was allopathic and did not emphasize toxicology in every day products, the benefits of essential oils or clean processes for extracting botanicals. So, what I didn't know when I wrote this in 2014 is that the essential oils at the big box stores are full of neurotoxins and have a very small percentage of essential oil actually in the bottle. Now, I get most of my stuff from Young Living or other impeccable companies with nontoxic products.

Lavendar Toxicity Case ReportDownload

Now I'm the Family Oil Healer

Ok, that's an exaggeration but there was a dramatic rash case of a child at our family reunion. He was rolling down the hill in the pristine golf course grass and his back was cut up with tiny cuts from the grass itself. He was in a lot of pain and crying at the age of 6. My mother was there with one of my handy jars of Ancient Remedy TRopicals and it helped him right away. The whole family witnessed it and several wanted to know the recipe. Well, here it is. As I recall, the batch she had with her that day had the first 8 essential oils mixed into coconut oil as a carrier.

Ancient Remedy TRopicals

At our house, we call them TRopicals because you apply it Topically and imagine you're in the Tropics relaxing in a happy place in order to assist the pain relief through relaxation. I apply the topical ointment to my sore spots, injuries, closed infections and wounds. The pain is relieved temporarily and the wound will heal faster.

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Basic Recipe does not contain hot oils

4 Ounces of Organic Coconut Oil (hard at room temperature or fractionated liquid at room temperature)

15 drops Clove

15 drops Cypress

10 drops Frankincense

5 drops Hysop

5 drops Lavender

5 drops Myrrh

7 drops Rosemary

7 drops Tea Tree

7 drops Thyme

7 drops Ylang Ylang

If pain stops me in my tracks, Ancient Remedy TRopicals applied liberally will give me 2-4 hours more functionality, then I reapply. I'll do this multiple times per day working around the house. I also alternate with Epsom salt baths for it's magnesium to relax muscle spasms. Keep experimenting with other forms of self care and let me know about it. Find a reason to consume pure essential oils every day. I use them 3-5 times per day when I'm really hurting. I'll add this blend below to a few other topicals all at the same time and get relief for hours at a time.

It doesn't stop my pain completely, it reduces it significantly so I can push it to the background and go about my day. At least for 4 hours at a time...

First Aid for Hot Oil Burns (not temperature-hot)