Highly Sensitive, Happily Married

Conflict Aversion To Conflict Comfort


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095   It’s a rare Highly Sensitive Person that enjoys conflict – most of us are pretty averse to it! 

Because it’s uncomfortable! Lots of big feelings can come up. It can bring old stuff up from the past…and you can go into fight or flight or freeze mode. When it's happening, it can even feel like things are going to fall apart between you and your husband. So I get it if you tend to want to avoid it at all costs.

But, rather than helping you avoid conflict or have peace in your marriage, being averse to conflict actually leads to MORE conflict — both internally and between you and your significant other— and less closeness and connection overtime.

You can feel so much more comfort and ease when it comes to conflict—and this doesn't mean you will have more of them in your life! You will actually have less conflicts and issues in your marriage, as you will see today.

In this episode I share all about:

  • Why and how conflict aversion makes our experience of conflict worse and more damaging to your relationship

  • Why conflict is harder as an HSP

  • My own bad experience and healing journey around conflict  

  • and the 5 steps you can take to actually create so much more comfort with conflict, so it can HELP your marriage instead of hurting it.

This episode is essential listening if you want your experience of conflict to be so much easier, so conflicts can stop being bigger problems than they need to be, and you can turn conflicts into conversations that actually lead to solutions and feeling closer with your partner and like a team in life together. 

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