In this episode of the Awesome Marriage podcast, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the importance of resolving conflict in a faith-centered, biblical way. They debunk the myth that Christian couples do not experience conflict and emphasize that conflict can lead to growth and deeper intimacy in relationships. Learn the biblical principles for handling conflict, practical steps for effective communication, and the significance of humility and selflessness in marriage.

 

Episode highlights include:

• Timeouts can help manage heated discussions.

• Keeping short accounts prevents resentment from building up.

• Using the silent treatment is a form of emotional manipulation.

• Bringing up past conflicts as weapons is unhealthy for marriage.

• Involving others in conflicts before addressing them with your spouse can create triangles of conflict.

• Taking responsibility for one's actions is crucial in resolving conflicts.

• Prayer is a powerful tool for maintaining a healthy marriage.

• Biblical principles provide a framework for resolving conflicts effectively.

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: 

You will experience conflict with your spouse, and when you do it’s important to keep the Lord at the center of the conversation. Remember your spouse is not your enemy and words shouldn’t be your weapon. Acknowledge your part and be quick to forgive. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

• Which area of conflict resolution do you need the most help in- bringing up the past, resorting to the silent treatment, or taking responsibility for your part?

• Have you brought that struggle to the Lord and invited Him into the conflict in your marriage? 

 

QUOTES 

• Conflict is normal and if done right can help our marriage grow.

• Even though we are both seeking to follow Christ, we are human.

• If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security.

• Having a marriage that’s not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy.

• When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too.

• I can’t meet all her needs, but God can.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

• Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons. 

• Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word as you navigate conflict? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Fighting for Your Marriage

• If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com ! 

• Did you know we have resources just for handling conflict in your marriage?- check those out HERE.

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