We gay men have complicated relationships with our bodies, don’t we? We can spend years trying to hate and punish our bodies into a form that they’re never going to be.

We can hide ourselves until we feel ready to be seen.

How does your perception of your body stop you doing connection?

Let’s explore this together with my friend Mike Campbell in this episode of my podcast for gay men experiencing loneliness.

About Mike

Mike Campbell is a straight, cis-gendered man, who’s a husband, a dad, a podcaster – check out his podcast ‘Everyday Legends’ wherever you get your pods – he’s also a writer and author, a stone fruit eater and a Man Coach.

Mike’s work helps men build legendary integrity and live better lives with loving straight talk.

Mike’s Instagram: @mikecampbellmc

Mike’s podcast ‘Everyday Legends’: https://spoti.fi/3gLUdJR

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Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

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Read ‘Body image and loneliness’: https://bit.ly/3NOVGAZ

Mike Campbell’s work: www.thelonelinessguy.com/coaching-mike-campbell

Join me on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

Friends, I know this to be true: more than anything else, busyness kills connection.

And you’re paying the price for your busyness or the busyness of those around you.

Let’s explore this truth together in this episode of my podcast for gay men ‘Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy’.

Share in the vision for The Loneliness Guy: www.thelonelinessguy.com/invest

Get me right by your side as your connection mentor:

www.thelonelinessguy.com/mentoring

Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

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Join the premium connection group on FB (it’s free!): www.facebook.com/groups/824068758013990

Read ‘Your busyness kills connection’: https://bit.ly/3tpU7kP

Michael Campbell’s work: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/coaching-mike-campbell

Join me on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

What’s holding you back from getting the soul-nourishing connection you know you need and deserve?

Is it your emotional baggage stopping you connecting?

Do you need to be like Elsa and just let it go?

Let’s answer those questions together in this episode of my podcast for gay men ‘Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy’.

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Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

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Join the premium connection group on FB (it’s free!): www.facebook.com/groups/824068758013990

Read ‘What are you holding on to?’: https://bit.ly/3K1dRkb

Michael DiIorio’s work: www.thelonelinessguy.com/coaching-michael-diiorio

Join me on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

We know how amazing things can be when we relax and accept what’s been offered us. Yes, like sex.

So why do I feel like I’m not worthy of receiving the same help that I love to provide others?

Join with me to see how I’m letting things happen in 2022 in this episode of my podcast for gay men ‘Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy’.

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Links

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Read ‘Let it happen’: https://bit.ly/3GsZSkP

Mike Campbell’s work: www.mikecampbell.com.au

Join me on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

A year ago, I invited you to join with me to make 2021 your year of authentic connection.

Now that 2021 is almost done, it’s time to see how we’ve done connection in 2021: what we’ve learned about ourselves and the type of connection we need and the connection we’re getting.

Join with me in wrapping up 2021 in this episode of my podcast for gay men ‘Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy’.

Share in the vision for The Loneliness Guy: www.thelonelinessguy.com/invest

Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

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Read ‘Wrapping up 2021’: https://bit.ly/3e6qcFI

Kevin Moran’s work: www.kevincmoran.com

Join me on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

How do you avoid and numb uncomfortable thoughts and feelings?

How have you avoided and numbed your thoughts and feelings of loneliness, not belonging or being alone?

Let’s talk about numbing and loneliness over a coffee with my friend Justin Oberste (@justinoberste) in this episode of my podcast for gay men.

The conversation follows the article I published last week about paying attention to how we numb (see link).

Let me get you a coffee and let’s have a real chat.

About Justin:

Justin Oberste is an associate psychotherapist specialising in LGBTQ+ Affirmative Psychology and Religious Trauma Therapy, and is currently training to become a Sex Therapist. Justin received his Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University Los Angeles, and has recently begun full-time private practive work with Dr Chris Donaghue, author of 'Rebel Love' and 'Sex Outside The Lines' and the host of the radio show 'Loveline'. Originally from Power Springs, Georgia, Justin now resides in Santa Barbara, California.

IG: @justinoberste

Share in the vision for The Loneliness Guy: www.thelonelinessguy.com/invest

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Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the mailing list and community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read ‘How do you numb?’: https://bit.ly/3rxVDAJ

Michael DiIorio’s work: www.wellismo.com

Join me on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

We can spend our lives editing and refining ourselves as we hustle to fit in and feel like we belong, especially as those who – perhaps due to our sexuality – never really feel like we fit in. I contend that this hustle disconnects from ourselves and a reason why we can feel so lonely even when we’re surrounded by people.

It follows the article I published last week about belonging and loneliness (see link).

Let me get you a coffee and let’s have a real chat.

Share in the vision for The Loneliness Guy: www.thelonelinessguy.com/invest

Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

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Read ‘Belonging and loneliness’: https://bit.ly/3oP7zLf

Mike Campbell’s work: www.mikecampbell.com.au

Join me on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

In this episode of my podcast for gay men experiencing loneliness, I have a chat about how we can make friends as gay men.

It follows the article I published (see link below) in which I asked to important questions amongst the other tips and suggestions:

- do you find it hard to make gay friends without having sex with them first? And

- are you good friend material right now?

Let me get you a coffee and let’s talk about that.

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the mailing list and community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read ‘How to make friends as a gay man’: https://bit.ly/3BYN3wd

Join me on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

In this episode of my podcast for gay men experiencing loneliness, I have a coffee with my friend Kevin Moran. Kevin is passionate about the subject of boundaries and shared his wisdom and insight with us through my blog last week (see link below).

Kevin loves talking about the importance of boundaries – knowing them and maintaining them – through his work. This love is evident in the conversation you’re about to join. I know you’re about to feel seen by his words and beautiful insight.

You’ll also be challenged to review, build and maintain healthy boundaries as you work through your loneliness and put your authentic self into the world as you connect with your self, those most important to you and to your community.

Let me get you a coffee and let’s talk about that with Kevin.

About Kevin:

Kevin is a Hawai’i-based queer health and wellness coach, who provides preventative mental wellness services to the LGBTQIA+ community, helping to transform the ways in which we see ourselves, our loved ones, and our communities.

IG: @kmorancoaching

Kevin’s podcast: @theunitedoutsiders

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the mailing list and community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read ‘How to have kick-ass boundaries – with Kevin Moran’: https://bit.ly/3ppSVvW

Join us on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

In this episode of my podcast for gay men experiencing loneliness, I have a coffee with my friend Justin Oberste who shared his beautiful reflections on the loneliness of change on my blog last week.

Change can be hard. We avoid it. We try to do everything in our power to ignore it. We numb ourselves.

Think for a moment how you wrestle within yourself when you feel pulled to make change: changing jobs, ending a relationship or indeed, coming out.

However we numb, ignore or deny, sooner or later, we find ourselves back at the same decision point.

That point can be lonely. We wrestle with some uncomfortable thoughts and feelings. We have a dark night of the soul.

Let me get you a coffee and let’s talk about that with Justin.

About Justin:

Justin Oberste is an associate psychotherapist specialising in LGBTQ+ Affirmative Psychology and Religious Trauma Therapy, and is currently training to become a Sex Therapist. Justin received his Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University Los Angeles, and has recently begun full-time private practive work with Dr Chris Donaghue, author of 'Rebel Love' and 'Sex Outside The Lines' and the host of the radio show 'Loveline'. Originally from Power Springs, Georgia, Justin now resides in Santa Barbara, California.

IG: @justinoberste

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read ‘The loneliness of change – by Justin Oberste’: https://bit.ly/3ldXGq2

Join us on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz