Are you ready to move beyond your loneliness and join me in doing authentic connection in 2021?

In 2020, much of my work focused on loneliness: what it is, what it physically, mentally and emotionally does to us gay men, how it makes us behave and how to recognise and accept it.

Loneliness is an emotion we’re meant to feel for a short time. It’s not meant to be a permanent state, but so many gay men say that they’re almost always lonely.

Join me in this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy and let’s get you that authentic connection you need and deserve.

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read ‘2021: Your year of authentic connection’: https://bit.ly/2Ls3tZs

Join us on YouTube: https://youtu.be/YszPIHiscu8

Need some help through your loneliness (incl. coaching services and crisis counselling)?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

It’s Christmas. Unlike years past, this Christmas doesn’t have the parties, the merriment and physical togetherness. In their absence we can be confronted with the present under the tree that we’ve been ignoring and don’t want: our loneliness.

It’s time to accept the gift of your loneliness and listen to what it’s telling you about your need for real, authentic connection. Yes, it’s scary, but you’re not opening your gift alone.

Join me and my friend Steve Seidel for an important chat in this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy. Let’s open the gift of your loneliness together.

About Steve

Steve grew up as a very chubby gay boy with buckteeth in Kansas, America’s heartland and the home of Dorothy and The Wizard of Oz.

He eventually found his way to Colorado State University and studied exercise physiology. It’s pretty safe to say that over the past 25 years he’s done a little bit of everything.

But the most important thing he’s done over the years is help thousands of people lead healthier, happier and more active lives.

Website: www.stevenseidel.com

Instagram: @steveseidelwellness

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Get the help and support you need in the premium subscriber lounge. Subscribe and stay connected: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read ‘The gift of loneliness’: https://bit.ly/39Ww6YZ

Join us on YouTube: https://youtu.be/p335drB9Fb0

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

As a gay man, you know that friendship is an important source of connection in your life. Are your real, close friends seeing and hearing the authentic you?

Do you feel like you belong with your friends? Do you feel that you must hustle to get and keep their attention?

Join me for an important chat in the next episode of my podcast for gay men ‘Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy’ and let’s chat about how your our friendships are at once so important and a great place to see if we’re showing up in the world in a real, authentic way.

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the discussion in the premium subscriber lounge. Subscribe and stay connected: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read ‘What is friendship?’: https://bit.ly/33hQe3X

Join me on YouTube: https://youtu.be/I32qf5H8C1g

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

For the gay man who’s experiencing loneliness, knowing and living your values is the way to get the real, authentic connection you know you need in life.

But what are values and how do you find yours?

Don’t worry. Michael DiIorio from Wellismo Coaching and I have got you.

How? Get a coffee, settle in, press play and let’s chat about how your values are the key to feeling the connection you need.

About Michael

Michael is a certified life & wellness coach and founder of Wellismo, a wellness blog that intersects personal development and sexuality. As a coach, he enables clients to achieve their goals and create a future they're excited for.

Website: www.wellismo.com

Instagram: @wellismo_coach

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the discussion in the premium subscriber lounge. Subscribe and stay connected: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read ‘Who are you?’: https://bit.ly/3kntx3Z

Join our chat on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4xF3u7364iI

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

In this must-listen episode, I chat with Calan Breckon from Discovering Your Truth about how we can turn our shame into our ally.

We all have shame and it's a POWERFUL behavioural driver for us gay men. Think about it: what would you do to stop the thing your most ashamed of from being discussed and judged freely on social media?

Shame can be a key factor in our loneliness. We work so hard to hide it from the world that we never fully show up in our interactions with other humans. But we can turn our shame into our ally and use it to get the real connection we need in life.

How? Get a coffee, settle in, press play and listen.

About Calan

Calan is an award-winning certified Personal Development Coach, writer, and educator based in Toronto. His focus is teaching people how to go from feeling lost, overwhelmed and exhausted by life to being an empowered and confident decision maker and experience what it’s like to finally feel in control without the stress and shame of trying to figure it all out alone.

Website: www.discoveringyourtruth.com

Facebook: Discovering Your Truth

Instagram: @CatchCal

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the discussion in the premium subscriber lounge. Subscribe and stay connected: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read ‘Shame and loneliness’: https://bit.ly/3jIPsSY

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

We know that it’s important that we speak our loneliness story aloud with someone who’s earned the right to hear it and who we know will respond with empathy and without judgement.

But how to do it?

I got you.

Join me for a coffee and let’s get you some steps to help you speak about your loneliness aloud. It’s scary, but it’s the only way to start getting the authentic connection you need.

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the discussion in the premium subscriber lounge. Subscribe and stay connected: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read the blog: https://bit.ly/3j12Lxz

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

As a society – as a gay community – it's hard to not constantly compare ourselves to each other, to those who are successful and to celebrities.

For the gay man who’s experiencing loneliness and a lack of authentic connection, these comparisons can make us feel even more alone and that we don’t belong. It can make us feel like we need to work harder to project an image to the world so we’re also accepted.

Comparison really is the thief of joy.

Or is it? Join me and Jesse Elkins from Full Sun Fitness and Nutrition for a coffee and join our thought-provoking and inspiring chat about how we can turn these comparisons into sources of inspiration, joy and connection.

About Jesse

Jesse is the founder and owner of Full Sun Fitness and Nutrition in Charlotte. It’s a personal training and nutrition coaching service for Queer and ally communities near and far. It was born after too many years of experiencing and witnessing wellness challenges and access gaps for Queer Folx. He decided that if he didn’t feel safe or comfortable in many wellness settings, others might not either. Turns out, he was right!

Website: www.fullsunfitness.com

Instagram: @fullsunfitness

Donate to help Trans and BIPOC folx access wellness services: www.fullsunfitness.com/donate

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the discussion in the premium subscriber lounge. Subscribe and stay connected: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read the blog: https://bit.ly/2GsoII7

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

As a gay man, can casual sex satisfy your human need for connection? Do you leave hook-ups feeling that a physical itch has been scratched but emotionally and mentally empty?

Is the thrill you get connection or validation?

Are you using casual sex in a way that’s like putting a band aid on a broken arm? Don’t worry, that comment will make sense shortly…

Join Michael DiIorio from Wellismo Coaching and me for a chat about connection and casual sex in this episode of my podcast for gay men.

About Michael

Michael is a certified life & wellness coach and founder of Wellismo, a wellness blog that intersects personal development and sexuality. As a coach, he enables clients to achieve their goals and create a future they're excited for.

Website: www.wellismo.com

Instagram: @wellismo_coach

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the discussion in the premium subscriber lounge. Subscribe and stay connected: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read the blog: https://bit.ly/2EnEaok

Michael’s coaching services: www.thelonelinessguy.com/coaching-michael-diiorio

Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Join us on YouTube!: https://youtu.be/DcowxGc7udw

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

The awful thoughts and feelings of loneliness only move when we take steps to get the connection we need as a human.

This involves speaking up and admitting that we’re lonely and speaking to someone who’s earned the right to hear our story of loneliness.

Yes, admitting and speaking your loneliness is terrifying. I know. How can you even start this conversation?

You start right here. Join me for a coffee on this episode and we’ll reflect on the wisdom shared in the past five episodes and work on ways of putting it all to use when speaking our loneliness story aloud.

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the discussion in the premium subscriber lounge. Subscribe and stay connected: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read the blog: https://bit.ly/2YmY8p9.

When you need help through your loneliness, go to: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

As a human emotion, loneliness affects everyone.

But the stigma of loneliness prevents us from talking about it. It prevents us from doing the things that our loneliness is telling us to do: take steps to get meaningful connection in our lives.

It doesn’t have to be this way. Join me for a conversation with Matt Landsiedel from Matt Landsiedel Coaching and Inspired to be Authentic in this episode of my podcast for gay men ‘Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy’ and let’s talk about the stigma of loneliness and moving beyond it.

I’m working to de-stigmatise loneliness and promote authentic connection for gay men globally, one coffee at a time. You’re not alone anymore.

About Matt

Matt’s story is uplifting, inspiring and eminently relatable. A reforming perfectionist and recovering addict, he’s spent the last few years working through his sources of shame and practices ‘healthy vulnerability’ and knows that this is both the way through shame, our shame-induced behaviours and getting the connection we need.

Matt’s Instagram: @inspiredtobeauthentic

Matt’s website: www.mattlandsiedel.com

Matt’s podcast: https://spoti.fi/3hdH7VT

Links

Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com

Join the discussion in the premium subscriber lounge. Subscribe and stay connected: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe

Read the blog: https://bit.ly/2Re5fgt

When you need help through your loneliness, go to: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help

Contact me: [email protected]

Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz