In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Bonnie Harris, a New Hampshire-area director of Connective Parenting, where she is a parent educator, counselor, coach, and speaker. She wrote two parenting books:  When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With. AND she has her own podcast Tell Me About Your Kids where anyone can listen in on her parent coaching sessions. Bonnie has a master’s degree in Early Childhood Education And is the proud mother of two adult children raised with her connective approach.

In today’s episode, Bonnie will help us answer the question: HOW CAN WE BE MORE CONNECTED WITH the KIDS in our lives?

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RESOURCES:

Bonnie’s information:

• Bonnie’s email: [email protected]
• Bonnie’s Website: https://bonnieharris.com/   
• Bonnie’s Book: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It: https://bonnieharris.com/product/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons-2/
• Bonnie’s Book: Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With: https://bonnieharris.com/product/confident-parents-remarkable-kids-2/
• Bonnie’s podcast, Tell Me About Your Kids: https://bonnieharris.com/podcast/

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

• The Orchid and the Dandelion: Why Some Children Struggle and How All Can Thrive by W. Thomas Boyce, M. D.: https://www.amazon.com/Orchid-Dandelion-Children-Struggle-Thrive/dp/1101946563
• Hilltop Preschool: https://www.hilltoppreschool.com/

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Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson

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TIME STAMPS:

1:26 How Bonnie parented her own (now grown) children

6:08 How Bonnie developed her connective parenting model by learning about herself

9:25 The Dandelion Child and the Orchid Child

13:00 Bonnie’s own terms: The Harmony Child and The Integrity Child

13:50 Characteristics of The Harmony Child - compliant but harbors shame

16:40 How Connective Parenting focuses on the parents, not the child

22:56 Connecting with your child’s emotional state instead of their behavior

28:17 Connective parenting as an investment for your child’s self-confidence

31:04 Characteristics of The Integrity Child - demanding but knows what they want

36:07 How to turn the parenting ship around

40:26 How did Bonnie’s orchid daughter turn out?

44:10 “My child is having a problem, not being a problem.”

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