June 13, 2025

Consent, Trauma, & Healing in BDSM

1 hour 3 minutes

Can BDSM be healing for those who have experienced their consent being abused? @Andy_Wells and I discuss navigating consent, helping women through bad past experiences, speaking up for needs, and how men can be judged and shamed in the bedroom too.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro

(00:41) - Using BDSM to regain power from trauma

(06:28) - Exploring new boundaries

(18:20) - Learning to say no game

(21:43) - Past experiences of saying no

(26:15) - Speaking up for your needs

(28:31) - When acts are traumatic vs not

(36:50) - Doms can't read minds

(47:03) - Creating safety

(50:13) - Being judged as a man in the bedroom

(01:03:15) - Standing up for your values

(01:09:15) - Introducing your partner to new sex acts

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MORE RESOURCES:
▶️ How to Be a Better Dominant (Advice from 3 BDSM Doms): https://youtu.be/Rg9XLPG3vjQ
▶️ 7 Essential Behaviors of a Good Dominant in BDSM: https://youtu.be/X71KFnyNreo
▶️ Quick Guide to Becoming a Sexually Dominant Man: https://youtu.be/nvrmToZ8cdc

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