#118 I almost didn’t release this episode—and that’s exactly why I had to. In this raw episode, I'm sharing the good, bad, and ugly of a tough year: surviving long-distance D/s, facing kink community drama, and the hard boundaries I drew to protect myself and my work. Listen through the end to hear what’s coming next—and why I'm not backing down.

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#117 One of you is kinky, the other... not so much. Is that a deal-breaker—or just a hard conversation you’ve been avoiding? Relationship coach Amanda Dames breaks down how kinky/vanilla couples can talk about desire without shame, translate needs clearly, and decide what’s actually sustainable long-term. No pressure. No fixing. Just honesty. Listen now, then follow Amanda Dames and check out The Kink Consultant podcast for deeper guidance.

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#116 What do you do when real life and D/s collide?

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Today Jay and Alesandra answer your biggest Dom/sub questions: long-distance rules, sub drop, fear of judgment, family boundaries, punishment, switching, and even dirty talk styles. Join our Dom Sub Living Community to ask your own questions next episode!

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#115 Slave training doesn’t fall apart because the sub fails — it falls apart because the Dom can’t stay consistent. In this episode, Jay shares how our Master/slave training began, why most structures collapse, and the one thing Doms must master to keep their dynamic strong, sustainable, and consensual. Tap play to learn the simple shift that makes slave training actually work.

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#114 Can you kneel for your partner and still stand for equality?

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In this episode, we're exploring how feminism and submission actually complete each other. Learn why power exchange isn’t powerless, how shame transforms into choice, and what true consent means in D/s. 💬 Got thoughts? Comment or DM Alesandra on Instagram: @domsubliving

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#113 Why do some scenes leave deep bruises and others nothing at all? In this episode we're unpacking bruises, branding, and marks in BDSM – what they mean emotionally, the science of bruising, how to explain them to vanilla people, and when branding goes too far. Listen now to feel safer and more seen.

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#112 Ever met a Dom who can control a room without saying a word? In this episode, we're revealing the 10 hidden power plays only experienced Dominants use – how silence, attention, and anticipation build real obedience and trust. Learn the quiet secrets that make submission magnetic. Which power play will you try first?

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#111 What if everything you’ve heard about BDSM and kink is wrong? In this episode, we're busting the biggest Dom/sub myths holding people back—from feeling too inexperienced to thinking BDSM is immoral. Learn the truth about who really belongs in kink. Listen now and start unlearning the lies about BDSM.

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#110 BDSM isn’t just fantasy—it’s how real people grow. Alesandra and Deborah Kat get honest about living a D/s lifestyle: consent, safewords, limits, protocols, weekly check-ins, 24/7 dynamics, parenting, money, safety, community—plus the fun, kinky parts. Loved it? Follow Deborah’s 'Better Sex Podcast' and subscribe for more real talk.

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#109 What makes a BDSM scene truly work? We talk about limits all the time—but rarely about the things we actually need to feel connected, grounded, and fulfilled. In this episode, Alesandra opens up about her real must-haves for every scene and why yours matter just as much. Reflect on your own and share them with us after listening.

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