#115 Slave training doesn’t fall apart because the sub fails — it falls apart because the Dom can’t stay consistent. In this episode, Jay shares how our Master/slave training began, why most structures collapse, and the one thing Doms must master to keep their dynamic strong, sustainable, and consensual. Tap play to learn the simple shift that makes slave training actually work.

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#114 Can you kneel for your partner and still stand for equality?

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In this episode, we're exploring how feminism and submission actually complete each other. Learn why power exchange isn’t powerless, how shame transforms into choice, and what true consent means in D/s. 💬 Got thoughts? Comment or DM Alesandra on Instagram: @domsubliving

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#113 Why do some scenes leave deep bruises and others nothing at all? In this episode we're unpacking bruises, branding, and marks in BDSM – what they mean emotionally, the science of bruising, how to explain them to vanilla people, and when branding goes too far. Listen now to feel safer and more seen.

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#112 Ever met a Dom who can control a room without saying a word? In this episode, we're revealing the 10 hidden power plays only experienced Dominants use – how silence, attention, and anticipation build real obedience and trust. Learn the quiet secrets that make submission magnetic. Which power play will you try first?

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#111 What if everything you’ve heard about BDSM and kink is wrong? In this episode, we're busting the biggest Dom/sub myths holding people back—from feeling too inexperienced to thinking BDSM is immoral. Learn the truth about who really belongs in kink. Listen now and start unlearning the lies about BDSM.

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#110 BDSM isn’t just fantasy—it’s how real people grow. Alesandra and Deborah Kat get honest about living a D/s lifestyle: consent, safewords, limits, protocols, weekly check-ins, 24/7 dynamics, parenting, money, safety, community—plus the fun, kinky parts. Loved it? Follow Deborah’s 'Better Sex Podcast' and subscribe for more real talk.

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#109 What makes a BDSM scene truly work? We talk about limits all the time—but rarely about the things we actually need to feel connected, grounded, and fulfilled. In this episode, Alesandra opens up about her real must-haves for every scene and why yours matter just as much. Reflect on your own and share them with us after listening.

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#108 Can BDSM be spiritual? In this episode, we're exploring the meditative and transformative side of power exchange — from subspace and Domspace to mindful rituals, breathwork, and spiritual aftercare. Learn how intention and awareness can turn any scene into a sacred experience.

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#107 Worried your sub will see right through your nerves? In this coaching call replay, Alesandra and her Dom, Jay, share real-world advice on how Dominants build confidence before and during a scene—through communication, self-awareness, and practice that makes play feel natural and fun. Listen now to learn how real Doms grow confident in every scene.

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#106 Locktober isn’t just denial—it’s connection, power, and play.

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Learn what Locktober is, its meme roots, how to prep and size devices, keyholder dynamics, solo play, the Chaster app, real student stories, and pitfalls to avoid. Subscribe for more kink-positive conversations.

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