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Were you the second parent before you even knew it? This is what eldest daughter syndrome really looks like, and what happens when the eldest daughter becomes a mom.

In this solo episode of Conversations With Friends, I'm sharing my story: going to boarding school at nine, caring for my siblings on every holiday, never being allowed to flop, moving to LA alone at 20, and how that eldest daughter responsibility crept right back in when I became a mom. If you're the one everyone calls "so strong," this one is for you.

Eldest daughter syndrome isn't a medical diagnosis. It's the name so many of us have found for the pressure, perfectionism and people pleasing that can come with being the oldest daughter, and with parentification. Here's what I learned about boundaries, therapy, and pouring into yourself first.

CHAPTERS

0:00 Signed, an eldest daughter

0:18 Welcome to Conversations With Friends

0:44 What is eldest daughter syndrome?

1:22 The second parent: eldest daughter duties

1:39 Boarding school at nine

2:45 The good girl rule: you cannot flop

3:06 Leaving home and moving to LA at 20

4:49 Therapy, motherhood and old habits

5:28 Going home: "bro, I'm grown now"

6:22 Pour into yourself or show up empty

7:48 What I'd tell nine-year-old me

9:10 For eldest daughters who became moms

10:26 Find your pockets of joy

11:15 You have permission

11:38 Your turn: tell me in the comments

TELL ME IN THE COMMENTS

When did you first realize you were the second parent?

What's one thing you're unlearning as an eldest daughter in this season of your life?

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When I was younger, I thought 30 was ancient. Turns out it's not and for most women it is where we finally start living.

This week I'm sharing three decisions that surprised me in my 30s the career I almost walked away from, the motherhood journey I swore wasn't for me, and the friendships that have carried me through all of it. This is for the woman reinventing herself in real time. You're allowed to pivot. You're allowed to become someone you didn't predict.

Especially being a mom has really allowed me room to learn patience and the art of pivoting when things aren't going the way ypu want them.

On this episode I do a deep dive into that, loosing and find my joy for life and the things that I do, building from a different phase of motherhood. I truly hope this inspires you to go out there and do the thing.

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In this episode of Conversations With Friends, I'm sharing 8 things I've had to unlearn in my 30s that i did not prioritize in my 20s: setting boundaries without guilt, quieting the overthinking, treating therapy as maintenance instead of a last resort, letting go of the plans that no longer fit, breaking up with perfectionism, choosing patience and consistency over instant gratification, walking away from friendships that time can't excuse, and unlearning the belief that being chosen means being loved.

This is honest conversation about womanhood, identity, and the slow rebuild — no toxic positivity, no easy answers. Just the truth, and an open chair.

I'm one year postpartum and officially done breastfeeding. I cannot believe I am saying those words. I wanted some questions to summarize what a year of motherhood looks like so far and what I look forward to the most.

The goal of sharing my journey is to inspire any moms or women who are currently in the middle and can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, let me be your testament that you'll come out the other end doing well.

On this episode I get really vulnerable on how I leaned on my friends and family for support because I am a big believer that motherhood should never be done in isolation.

Postpartum is one of the most roller coaster feeling, the most vulnerable and women need to be poured into during this time. This podcast is exactly what it sounds like, real honest conversation around motherhood, womanhood and reinventing yourself.

If you're in postpartum right now, tell me in the comments what's feeling hardest. Let's hold each other in there.

There's a version of postpartum nobody warns you about — the one where you feel everything at once. Grateful and hungry and patient all in the same breath.In this episode, my best friend Adinett Nsabimana flips the mic and asks me the questions. We talk about where I am right now — really. The slow return to running. The media empire I'm building, one intentional step at a time. Letting go of the people whose season in your life is over. And the one thing I will never, ever give up again for a man.This is a full life check-in. No performance. Just the truth about what becoming looks like in real time — when you're a new mom, when you're rebuilding, when she's finally, fully back.Pull up a chair. This one's for you.

There's a kind of loneliness that follows you even when the people you love are in the room. And then there's the quieter kind — the one that settles in when they leave.

In this episode, Jubilee gets honest about the parts of early motherhood nobody documents: the grief of a blueprint that didn't survive the move, the silence after her mom flew home, and what it actually felt like to be in the tunnel when everyone kept pointing to the light. She talks about growing up watching Nigerian women pour into new mothers, the letter she wrote to her friends before postpartum hit, and what it means to build a village from scratch in a city that's still new. This one is for every woman in the middle — still figuring it out, still finding her way back, and not yet able to see the light but walking toward it anyway.

Pull up a chair. You're not alone in this.

There's a word for what so many of us have been quietly carrying — and nobody told us.

In this episode, Jubilee gets honest about the moment she sat alone in a car with a free morning and realized she didn't know who she was anymore when nobody needed her. She shares how she found the word matrescence — the emotional, physical, and identity transformation that happens when a woman becomes a mother — and why just having language for it changed something in her.

This one covers the guilt of needing a break even when you love your life, why matrescence gets mistaken for depression, the exhaustion of being ashamed of your exhaustion, and the tiny practice Jubilee started — Permission Slip Fridays — to slowly find her way back to herself.

If you've ever loved your child fiercely and still grieved the woman you used to be — this conversation is for you. Pull up a chair.

Some days I don’t even recognize myself anymore… and maybe you feel that way too.

In today’s episode of Conversations With Friends, we’re having an honest conversation about motherhood, identity, ambition, and what it looks like to keep becoming yourself after life changes you.

Because somewhere between becoming mothers, building families, chasing dreams, healing, surviving, and growing… so many women quietly start wondering:“Who even am I now?”

This conversation is for the woman who feels grateful for her life but still misses pieces of who she used to be.

For the woman navigating postpartum, reinvention, purpose, healing, and the pressure to “have it all together.”

For the woman trying to hold both motherhood and ambition at the same time.

We talk about:-

- Losing and rediscovering yourself after motherhood

- Missing your old life without guilt

- Dreaming again in a new season

- Identity shifts in your 20s and 30s

- Navigating ambition while raising children

- Healing, growth, and becoming- What chasing your dreams looks like now

- Why you are not behind in life

If you’ve ever thought:“I didn’t lose myself… I just haven’t met this version of me yet.”this episode is for you.Thank you for sitting at the table with us today.

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Not every part of healing is visible… and not every season feels like progress.

In this episode of Conversations With Friends, I’m opening up about what it actually feels like to be 9 months postpartum and still not feel like myself.

There is so much pressure to “bounce back” — to get your body back, your routine back, your life back. But what about the part where you’re still in it? Still healing. Still figuring it out.

In this episode, I share the three things that are truly helping me right now — not fixing me, but carrying me through:

Therapy — and how it changed the way I think

Journaling — and why writing things down helps me breathe again

Prayer — and learning how to surrender what I can’t carry

I also take you back to my pregnancy journey — navigating fibroids, gestational diabetes, and moments of real fear — and how that season shaped the way I approach healing today.

If you’re in a season where you feel overwhelmed, behind, or like you’ve lost yourself… this conversation is for you.You are not behind. You are healing.

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Are you the kind of friend people are praying away?In this episode of Conversations With Friends, we’re having an honest conversation about adult friendships, self-reflection, and what we actually need in our 30s.

Friendships in your 30s look different.They’re not just about fun anymore — they’re about consistency, honesty, growth, and emotional safety. But before we talk about what we need in friendships… we have to ask a harder question:Have we done the work to be a good friend ourselves?

In this episode, I open up about:

Losing a 10-year friendship I thought would last forever

The hard truth about being the common denominator

What that experience taught me about myself

The kind of friendships I’m choosing in this season of my life

This is for the woman navigating change, outgrowing people, and learning how to build deeper, healthier connections.

If you’ve ever felt like friendships are harder as you get older… you’re not alone.

If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or someone who needs to hear it.

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