A roundtable discussion about healthy dating with four of the CHR team! Join our conversation about the nuances, questions and perspectives surrounding dating and romantic relationships.

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Kendra and Courtney talk through how expectations shape the way we show up to an experience and how to face the challenges of getting

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Article: Fostering College Student Mental Health and Resilience 

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Kendra and Kristin talk about how the way we engage in conflict can determine the health of our relationships. Hear about default conflict styles, relational safety and tips for finding resolutions!

Discussion Questions for reflection:

Further Resources:

7 Steps for Collaborative Conflict Resolution, Worksheet 

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Gottman Institute blog about conflict: 

⁠https://www.gottman.com/blog/conflict-normal-natural-part-happily-ever/⁠ 

 Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Styles assessment: 

⁠https://www.mtdtraining.com/blog/thomas-kilmann-conflict-management-model.htm⁠ 

Gottman’s on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown: ⁠https://brenebrown.com/podcast/the-love-prescription-part-1-of-3/⁠ 

Four Horsemen Article: ⁠https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/⁠ 

Kendra talks with her Dad about the relationship between emerging adults and their parents. Particularly as kids go off to college, how can both show grace to each other and navigate this season of change. 

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Kendra talks with Amy Smithwick and Norlee Flaaten about how to make big decisions. Amy focuses on making decisions as a single young adult, and Norlee talks about how married couples can make decisions together.

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Discussion Questions:

1. How have you made big decisions in the past?

2. Do you tend to trust your "gut" or your logic more naturally?

3. Have you felt isolated in making decisions? Who has been helpful for your process?

4. How does your spouse influence your decisions and how do you both make sure your voices are heard?

5. Who would be someone (other than your spouse) who might be beneficial for you to process with?

Kendra interviews Kristin about her research on married college students, Kristin's personal experience, and

Discussion Questions with your friends:

1. What word or phrase comes up for you when you think about being married in college?

2. Why if at all do you think this is an important conversation both for students who are married, and who are not?

3. What stands out to you most about the needs assessment themes Kristin discussed? Why do you think that stood out to you?

4. What positives can you think of related to being married in college?

5. What could you do to support your friends who are married? What could you do to support your friends who are not married?

6. How can you seek to understand your neighbor first before seeking to be understood?

7. What does it look like to be a catalyst for change in your own community regarding this conversation?

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Forgiveness is a critical part of relationships, and

Further Resources

Rosemary's Chapel Message (From February 8, 2024) 

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What is psychological safety, why does it matter, and how can leaders intentionally pursue it for the benefit of their teams? Kendra talks with Cameron Spencer about the answers to these questions.

Further Resources

Simon Sinek Ted Talk - "How great leaders inspire action" 

The Other Half of Church 

Adam Grant's Podcast - ReThinking 

How leaders can promote psychological safety within their team: 

Set the vision. Why are we here?  

Make the ground rules. What are the guidelines for engagement? 

Pre-validate. Let them know their voice matters.

Model humanness. People need to know they can make mistakes. 

Be intentional for input. 

Be humble in your responses. 

Follow up. 

Kristin interviews John Brown University's Director of Worship Arts & Pastoral Care to hear his story and have a conversation about what worship is and how worship allows us to press into healthy relationships, how worship impacts our communities, and what it means to be a pastoral presence in our relationships even as people that are not professional pastors.

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For further resources on this topic

Pastoral Counseling - James Dittes

Wounded Healer - Henri Nouwen

The Pastor - Eugene Peterson

Unceasing Worship - Harold Best

A Body of Praise - David Taylor

The Liturgy of the Ordinary - Tish Harrison Warren

Discussion questions for reflection

Rosemary Flaaten interviews Dr. Sandra Glahn about her work as a Biblical scholar and her background. Dr. Glahn was a guest speaker for International Women's Day in March 2024, and this interview was part of the 'Where I Come From' luncheon series on the JBU campus.